Went on a first date with a girl from Match.com. I'm not sure what she thinks?

[VedderisBetter]

I went on a date tonight with a girl from match and we talked and had pizza for about an hour and 40 minutes. She asked me a lot of questions and vice versa. I asked her what she's doing this weekend and she said she has family coming in and is doing a charity event this weekend as well. When we left, she'd asked me if I'd ever been to this comedy club in town and I said no and asked her if she had and she said yes and said she enjoyed it. Was this her way of giving me a second date idea? It was kind of random I thought at the time. We did hug each other at the beginning and end and she ended with "Get home safe" or something like that. I ended up texting her tonight and saying I hope she had a good time. Girls can be confusing but I'm not necessarily holding my breathe.

 

What do you all think, based off this info?

[Andy_K]

If she texts back and says something positive, ask her out again. If she doesn't, then she's probably not interested.

[PegNosePete]

Yep, if you get a reply then ask her to the comedy club.

[VedderisBetter]

Welp, I texted her again and told her I had a good time and asked her if she did as well. I got no response and after several hours I just told her via text "The ignoring me tells me you're not interested. Good luck." Soon after she blocked me via Facebook haha. This girl obviously wasn't worth the effort. She told me she dated a guy for 3.5 years off and on but only saw him three times. I found this odd and don't really consider that a real relationship but maybe FWB.

[Mrin]

Um. Ok. You went out. Then you posted that same night. Then you sent the GFY text 7 hours later because you didn't have a response? Jumping the gun much?

[mariekatie]

Welp, I texted her again and told her I had a good time and asked her if she did as well. I got no response and after several hours I just told her via text "The ignoring me tells me you're not interested. Good luck." Soon after she blocked me via Facebook haha. This girl obviously wasn't worth the effort. She told me she dated a guy for 3.5 years off and on but only saw him three times. I found this odd and don't really consider that a real relationship but maybe FWB.

 

I was reading your first post, was still thinking "maybe this would go good". But you dodged a bullet hahaha. On to the next one dude! I hate it when people do the ignoring. Just say they ain't interested, it hurts but better than being ignored.

[losangelena]

Welp, I texted her again and told her I had a good time and asked her if she did as well. I got no response and after several hours I just told her via text "The ignoring me tells me you're not interested. Good luck." Soon after she blocked me via Facebook haha. This girl obviously wasn't worth the effort. She told me she dated a guy for 3.5 years off and on but only saw him three times. I found this odd and don't really consider that a real relationship but maybe FWB.

 

It sounds like you're right about her disinterest. However, if a guy I'd gone on one date with texted me three times without me responding at all, I might have blocked you, too. You never know, she may just have not responded to your text message yet but was going to. For you to follow up and accuse her of ignoring you would FOR SURE make her not want to talk to you.

[Jules Dash]

Welp, I texted her again and told her I had a good time and asked her if she did as well. I got no response and after several hours I just told her via text "The ignoring me tells me you're not interested. Good luck." Soon after she blocked me via Facebook haha. This girl obviously wasn't worth the effort. She told me she dated a guy for 3.5 years off and on but only saw him three times. I found this odd and don't really consider that a real relationship but maybe FWB.

 

Whoah. You really jumped the gun on this one. Maybe she wasn't interested and maybe she was. Patience is crucial in.the beginning stages of dating. There is nothing wrong with letting a text or phone call go "unresponded" to as long as you continue to date.

 

I am dating a couple of women who regularly do not respond to me for many hours and we have really been having fun for the past couple of months. They have done this since we first started dating. It was never a big deal to me since I just went about my life no matter if they responded ever again or not.

 

I think you may have made up her mind for her by jumping the gun. Just let them take their time responding and be patient. It only gets bothersome when you place all of your eggs in her basket.

[VedderisBetter]

Yeah. I should have just given up on this chick when towards the end of our date, I asked her what she's up to this weekend and she told me her family is coming in this weekend and she was going to a charity event on Sunday. I asked her if she's busy every day this weekend and she said yeah and went on to explain how busy she was going to be in the coming weeks. She never suggested or mentioned a date when she is free. She just asked me what I'm doing this weekend. Maybe she thought I was just curious, who knows.

[organizedchaos]

Welp, I texted her again and told her I had a good time and asked her if she did as well. I got no response and after several hours I just told her via text "The ignoring me tells me you're not interested. Good luck." Soon after she blocked me via Facebook haha. This girl obviously wasn't worth the effort. She told me she dated a guy for 3.5 years off and on but only saw him three times. I found this odd and don't really consider that a real relationship but maybe FWB.

 

Way to blow yourself up.

 

You text her three times and tell her off and you're surprised she blocks you? Maybe she went to sleep. Maybe she didn't get a chance to respond for whatever reason.

 

Way to go. But sounds to me like she's the one who dodged a bullet here.

[VedderisBetter]

I saw her after our date get on match.com again which leads me to believe she had already moved on. She claimed she was tired towards the end of our date and needed to go to bed. Seems like she needed to update her dating profile. That's what upset me even more.

[ScreaminEagle]

I saw her after our date get on match.com again which leads me to believe she had already moved on. She claimed she was tired towards the end of our date and needed to go to bed. Seems like she needed to update her dating profile. That's what upset me even more.

 

Why be upset ? You went on one date. Your ego is upset. Not you.

[losangelena]

I know not hearing from someone at all is upsetting, but I'd wager to bet that everyone who's even tried dating has gone through the very same thing—and most have done it to others!

 

Okay, so if she really wasn't interested, it was rude of her to leave you hanging. But so what? It's not really cool to take it out on her, either. There's all kinds of reasons people ghost. They're timid, they're cowardly, they have had people react badly in the past to their rejection, they feel bad for rejecting you—who knows. In this digital day and age, I'd say that silence is as much of an answer as is "no."

 

Also, so is dating more than one person at a time. So she's updating her match.com profile—so what? Even if her date with you had gone well, she'd still be within her bounds to date other people. Until exclusivity is discussed, it's fair game. Y'all went out once. You have zero claim to who else she sees and if she chooses to respond to you. I know that's ****ty, but there it is.

[organizedchaos]

I saw her after our date get on match.com again which leads me to believe she had already moved on. She claimed she was tired towards the end of our date and needed to go to bed. Seems like she needed to update her dating profile. That's what upset me even more.

 

So what? Did you two get engaged or something? We're you exclusive after one date?

[ScreaminEagle]

I know it sucks to hear, but she does not owe you an explanation. If she is isn't interested, which is obviously the case, she can just move on with life.

 

 

In a perfect world, people wouldn't be so passive or frigid and just say hey I am not interested or we are not a perfect match. But, she chose to not answer, and you chose to act like a teen who discovered his first pube. Learn from this. Move on. Match has plenty of women.