IronZ Posted November 12, 2014 Posted November 12, 2014 So after breaking it off with that girl last week, I met someone else on an OLD site and we kind of hit it off I would say. I took her out for drinks tonight and we spent a good 2 hours just talking and laughing. Conversation was always flowing, never an awkward moment. After I walked her to her car since we met up at the place. I asked her what she thought and so on and she said she really enjoyed the date, that we could try a second date. We decided to set up something else in the near future. I guess it was a short date and it wasn't the right moment or whatever, but we only hugged after. I don't know, maybe if I had leaned in for a kiss it might've happened. I guess I have to try again during the second date. Can I get a little feedback on how things seem from an outside perspective? Was she hesitant? I think I made a good first impression on her, but who knows. I hope things pick up a little bit next time. I have another date tomorrow with a different girl so we'll see how that goes. So far I really liked the girl from tonight so I'm hoping it ends up going somewhere.
Assasda Posted November 12, 2014 Posted November 12, 2014 Some things you mentioned in this, leads me to believe that you werent very confident on this date. You asked her "How was it?" - hahaha like youre an entertainer for her? Then you tried to lock down a 2nd date because youre unsure of yourself. You were unhappy with a hug? Do you usually kiss people that you dont know? Its good that you have a 2nd date coming up, you'll gain more experience, and learn not to be so desperate for kisses and validation. Good luck
Author IronZ Posted November 12, 2014 Author Posted November 12, 2014 Just for clarification, I didn't straight up ask her "how was it?" I'm not that awkward around people. I never even wrote those words in my first post, so I don't know where you're getting that from. The conversation lead itself there. We were walking and I mentioned that I really enjoyed the date and meeting her. I then asked her what she thought of the date. I don't think it's weird to say that. Second, I didn't try to lock down a second date, she was the one that mentioned it first. After she told me she enjoyed the date she said we could try a second date and see where it goes. Was I unhappy with a hug? I wouldn't say unhappy. I just figured since this was a date and not a friendly outing with an acquaintance, I thought maybe something romantic would've happened. You're right though, I didn't know her all that well so maybe I shouldn't expect that until the second date.
Assasda Posted November 12, 2014 Posted November 12, 2014 Just for clarification, I didn't straight up ask her "how was it?" I'm not that awkward around people. I never even wrote those words in my first post, so I don't know where you're getting that from. The conversation lead itself there. We were walking and I mentioned that I really enjoyed the date and meeting her. I then asked her what she thought of the date. I don't think it's weird to say that. Second, I didn't try to lock down a second date, she was the one that mentioned it first. After she told me she enjoyed the date she said we could try a second date and see where it goes. Was I unhappy with a hug? I wouldn't say unhappy. I just figured since this was a date and not a friendly outing with an acquaintance, I thought maybe something romantic would've happened. You're right though, I didn't know her all that well so maybe I shouldn't expect that until the second date. I do believe its pretty weird asking someone, what they thought of the date. You can ask them, what they thought of the...movie, scenery, restaurant,. But, Its like youre an entertainer when you ask about the date. Then she basically tells you, "I'll give you another shot to entertain me". Its a little sad. Hopefully this wasnt the only convo that you guys had
Author IronZ Posted November 12, 2014 Author Posted November 12, 2014 I guess asking for an outside perspective made it prone to this kind of response so forgive me if I'm not too thrilled by your replies. I think you're nitpicking at my post a little and trying to find the negatives in it. Maybe I didn't paraphrase the story all that well, but to me it seemed like the date went really well. As for our convo, no, it wasn't the only one. The date lasted 2 hours and the conversation was flowing the whole time. I'm interested to get someone else's opinion on this. Honestly I thought the date went really well, I just wasn't sure about the hug/kiss scenario at the end. I wanted some input on that.
Leigh 87 Posted November 12, 2014 Posted November 12, 2014 I also thought it was a little odd when a guy I went on a date with (online) kept asking me what I thought of it (the date...) It was a little annoying.
Redhead14 Posted November 12, 2014 Posted November 12, 2014 yeah, asking someone how they thought the date went would be awkward. Not only that, I've gone on dates that I've enjoyed and then after I got home and really started thinking about the guy and certain things that were said or done, etc., I had second thoughts. This by the way is what happens sometimes when a girl thinks she's had a good date and the guy asks her for another right then and there and she says yes, and then flakes. 1
losangelena Posted November 12, 2014 Posted November 12, 2014 Can I get a little feedback on how things seem from an outside perspective? Was she hesitant? I think I made a good first impression on her, but who knows. I hope things pick up a little bit next time. I think assessing first dates can be tough. Who knows what she wanted or was expected towards the end. Of all the guys I've really liked or dated a while, most ended the first date with just a hug. For me it's not a make or break moment at all. You can only go off the feedback she gave you, and your own thoughts about the date. If you liked it and want to see her again, then ask her out again. Time will reveal true intention and interest. Uncertainty is part of the game.
Assasda Posted November 12, 2014 Posted November 12, 2014 I agree with most everything that Redhead14 says. Big Ups
Author IronZ Posted November 12, 2014 Author Posted November 12, 2014 Thanks for the comments everyone. She did text me again today and things seem amiable, so I certainly don't get a flaky feeling from her. I think it's a little too soon to jump right on her and ask her out again so I'm going to wait a couple days before I do that. I have another date in a few hours tonight so I can post an update on that as well.
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