A question for the spouse who doesn't want to have sex

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This is a question sprung from another thread, and I am looking for answers from the spouse in question, not assumptions from others or third party reports.

 

If you are a husband or wife who doesn't want to have sex with your spouse, why? Do you still want to have sex but just not with them, or is there something else going on?

 

Is your marraige truly sexless, or do you have sex, albiet infrequently?

 

Is there anything that you feel could help to correct the issue, or is it just what it is?

[Donnie Darko]

I tend to find that if the sex is decreasing it is due to an underlying problem, which needs to be addressed. She could have gained weight and created a physical turn off or there could be something else in the relationship that creates an emotional disconnect. The underlying issue ultimately needs to be addressed to fix the attraction.