kasamb Posted November 12, 2014 Posted November 12, 2014 Hello! I am an international student in Canada, 28 years old, approached a girl on the street near the university and got her number. First date was quiet nice, she always smiled, laughed at all my jokes, however she seems to generally laugh easily. At the end of our date I hugged her in the cheek. Well there were some negatives which I can remember now: - I mentioned that I got a tendon inflammation and can't do sports - She is 18 and I am 28, even though I feel and look 22, as he also said herself. When she asked me at the beginning of the date how old I was and I honestly answered, she said "Oh, I didn't know that". Yeah, and during the dates she several times half-jokingly mentioned that I was old, where as I always emphasized how young I am; and when I just wondered that she was going to study medicine for 8 years she made it clear, that nevertheless when she graduate she will be still younger that I am now. - She is Canadian and I am not(however I mentioned that when I approached her). A remarkable positive was that she told that she believes in and follows horoscopes. She asked me and I said, that I don't follow them. By the way she asked me that after asked me my birthday and after figuring out that we are the same. Yeah, I said that I don't follow that stuff and she said that she does and emphasized that we are the same sign. What I have to mention else is that I didn't touch her during the date at all. It was in a tee house. We just drank tee with a cake and then went for a walk along the harbour for a little bit (by the way another positive thing is that when we began to go for a walk I asked her if she didn't feel cold and she said that she did, then I suggested to go back and she said "no no, it's ok", I asked "You sure", she: "Yeah, I am sure"). Yeah, what can I say else. I fell in love with her and am thinking about her all the time and can't really study, my heart beats fast all the time and I've got a chest pain since after my text with asking your on a first day she refused. I text her 2 days after our first day: "Hello ..., How have you been? Today after class, I'd like to go for a walk with you in the Green Garden for an hour or so. Are you free after 6:30?" She answered "Hi..., I am supposed to meet some of my friends later this evening so I won't be able to! I am sorry". Well, What I think myself: It can be true, but as I feel, if she would like to meet me again, she wouldn't just say "I am sorry", but suggest another time or so, or at least text me next day, but not... So, what could you say? I would be very grateful for any tips, also for future as I am aware that I totally failed with this girl and have to suffer for a while, even though I'm not sure that it will be that simple, as I really fell in love with her... When I should fight for her... then how??? How could I correct my mistakes? Please also fell free to ask about details of the first date. PS: I haven't used any pick up techniques. I am anything but familiar with that. Thanks a lot for your help in advance!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Assasda Posted November 12, 2014 Posted November 12, 2014 Its over with this girl man. First of all bro... How can you fall in love with someone you dont know? All you did was have tea with this girl. - The fact that youre older and so immature probably scared her off more than anything. Move on OP 1
Jules Dash Posted November 12, 2014 Posted November 12, 2014 Sometimes you have to talk yourself down from obsessing over someone. You are clearly obsessing over her since you claim to be in love with someone you don't even know. What's her favorite color? Who is her favorite musician? Who is her best friend? How is her relationship with her family? You probably know none of the answers to these questions which mean you really don't know her. Try to not think about her.
Author kasamb Posted November 12, 2014 Author Posted November 12, 2014 ok, maybe it's called other than "Fell in love", but first, does one really need to know a girl better to fall in lave with her? Well, I didn't say that I love her? But why couldn't I fall in love with her? Maybe you guys didn't have anything similar so soon, but it doesn't mean, that it's impossible. Yeah, I try not to think about her, but I don't succeed... Yeah, I am immature despite my age, so, should I lie next time and say that I am, say, 20? Obviously not, although many who do so, succeed with girls. Anyway, guy, I am sincerely grateful to you and will keep just trying to forget her.
Jules Dash Posted November 12, 2014 Posted November 12, 2014 ok, maybe it's called other than "Fell in love", but first, does one really need to know a girl better to fall in lave with her? . I guess we could get into all sorts of philosophical discussions here regarding the meaning of love but lets just cut to the chase scene and not miss the forest for the trees. You are too intense over someone you barely know. You are at a level 9 on this when you should be at a level one. Curb your enthusiasm just a bit by trying to get your mind off of her for a minute or two and regroup. Remember your post 5 years from now and ask yourself this question: Was I really in love with that 18 year old girl 5 years ago or was I being over the top just a bit? 1
Author kasamb Posted November 12, 2014 Author Posted November 12, 2014 there is even love at first sight and believe me, I had it already and more than only once! Anyways, are there any techniques of avoiding feelings towards people, whom you barely know? Thanks!
Jules Dash Posted November 12, 2014 Posted November 12, 2014 there is even love at first sight and believe me, I had it already and more than only once! Anyways, are there any techniques of avoiding feelings towards people, whom you barely know? Thanks! Ok, you are one of those guys. Makes sense now... just keep loving man.
Assasda Posted November 12, 2014 Posted November 12, 2014 Well, what ever happened to your love at first sight? Is she still around, or did she not share your affection... If love at first sight is real, Is HATE at first sight real? Its good that it doesnt take a lot for you to "love" someone. It also opens you up to be taken advantage of. You might love someone, and they might just take advantage of you. I'm curious if that happens, if you'd still say it was love at first sight
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