Mengineer Posted November 12, 2014 Posted November 12, 2014 I met her in class last year, we had Calculus together. I noticed she was checking me out often so I started to say hi to her. Eventually she started to sit next to me and we were talking more often. We even did class projects together. Or I should say she did them. She would do them herself and write my name on them so I would get credit. Naturally I asked for her number near the end of the semester. I asked her out by text around January. We went out to a dinner and movie. It went OK for a first date. Just talk and getting to know each other better. The 2nd date went awkward she acted strange. I asked her what was up after the date through text and she wouldn't tell me much. I still had that vibe she was hiding something. I dated her up until April. She was very flaky. She would ignore my texts for a week straight and then text outta the blue like everything was fine. I would confront her on it and she always had the same excuse, that she was busy, etc. I didn't buy it for a second. The only reason why I dated her as long as I did was because she always offered to pay for dinner, movie, etc. By April I was fed up and told her off. She didn't reply and when I saw her in school, as soon as she saw me she turned and ran off into the other direction. I found out over the summer from someone else at school she actually had a boyfriend all along. That would explain her behavior. I even confirmed it when saw her facebook page. (I don't have a facebook page.) So naturally I forgot about her. Just yesterday 7 months after I last talked to her she sends me a long drawn out text. Saying I don't know if you remember me, bla, bla, bla. Saying repeatedly how she is sorry for being a flake. How she was not nice to me and is sorry, etc. You get the point. I respond very politely yet bluntly giving her my piece of mind. Telling her how she hurt my feelings, how she took advantage of my kindness, etc. She responds saying that she wasn't lying and not playing games with me. that there was a misunderstanding. She then says she had personal issues to deal with that she wouldn't tell me. (I suspect ex boyfriend) Then she tells me she doesn't understand my pissy reaction because we were not that close anyway. That it shouldn't mean anything I asked her how were we not that close, we were dating, going to dinner and movies, going out on Valentines day. She responds she is gonna contact me when she gets outta work. Am I missing something or is this girl crazy? I feel like she got dumped and is contacting me now. If our relationship did not mean anything why is she contacting me after all this time? Why is she trying to rationalize her actions. She is still trying to hide things from me too. Yet says she is not playing games. I feel like just getting the free dinner. Also maybe I can just fool around with her a bit and not take it seriously. A part of me says stay away from her. WHat do you guys think?
Keenly Posted November 12, 2014 Posted November 12, 2014 This girl is not crazy. Shes just a user, and she seems to be quite good at it.
Author Mengineer Posted November 12, 2014 Author Posted November 12, 2014 This girl is not crazy. Shes just a user, and she seems to be quite good at it. I agree she is a user. But I say she is crazy to think I am gonna just buy her bull***** again. Do you think I should just go along with it and just mess with her. Or should I ignore her.
Keenly Posted November 12, 2014 Posted November 12, 2014 I agree she is a user. But I say she is crazy to think I am gonna just buy her bull***** again. Do you think I should just go along with it and just mess with her. Or should I ignore her. Do not become what she is for spite.
Author Mengineer Posted November 12, 2014 Author Posted November 12, 2014 Do not become what she is for spite. Good point, that's why when I responded to her I was very courteous in getting my point across. I was blunt but polite. She's obviously still yanking my chain unfortunately. She did say she wanted to treat me to dinner so we can talk. I can't resist free dinner. Then afterwards I can just continue on not taking her seriously. That will probably be enough to upset her. It also won't have me stooping to her level.
you_can_not_see_me Posted November 12, 2014 Posted November 12, 2014 Good point, that's why when I responded to her I was very courteous in getting my point across. I was blunt but polite. She's obviously still yanking my chain unfortunately. She did say she wanted to treat me to dinner so we can talk. I can't resist free dinner. Then afterwards I can just continue on not taking her seriously. That will probably be enough to upset her. It also won't have me stooping to her level. seriously! Do you have a difficult time finding food? 1
Assasda Posted November 12, 2014 Posted November 12, 2014 Good point, that's why when I responded to her I was very courteous in getting my point across. I was blunt but polite. She's obviously still yanking my chain unfortunately. She did say she wanted to treat me to dinner so we can talk. I can't resist free dinner. Then afterwards I can just continue on not taking her seriously. That will probably be enough to upset her. It also won't have me stooping to her level. Op you sound like you have all of this under control. Sometimes chicks say stuff that contradict everything that they just said before, but you just gotta go with it. - The bottom line is, is liked you, when she had her BF. - And she liked her when she got dumped, as you suspected. You can hang with her, have some fun with her, but she doesnt seem like the relationship type. Kudos for not standing for the cornFLAKES, hehe. Seem like you know everything thats happening here though
DrReplyInRhymes Posted November 12, 2014 Posted November 12, 2014 Welcome to the dating world of today, Where women understand how easy it is to get a lay, It's sad to be the man who is "in love" with these hos, but its certainly due to the innocent ignorance of lies untold.
Author Mengineer Posted November 12, 2014 Author Posted November 12, 2014 She got back to me around 10:15 last night. She says there are a lot of things she wanted to explain. Then she gave me some BS about how it took her 7 months to apologize because she went back to Vietnam for a couple months. (her country of origin) Obviously I just thought, "yea, whatever you say." Then she says she wants to contact me again the following day, which is today. So she can explain herself better as she is off from work today. I think she might be tongue tied as I basically told her I see through her BS. She probably is planning on a whole, long spiel. I don't think I ever had a girl that acted like this before. She won't quit. She won't just tell me the truth. It just seems crazy.
Author Mengineer Posted November 12, 2014 Author Posted November 12, 2014 seriously! Do you have a difficult time finding food? After working 6-8 hours straight on math and engineering problems I get really hungry and too tired to cook for myself. I don't have much money as a student. Of course I can't resist free dinner.
almond Posted November 12, 2014 Posted November 12, 2014 We even did class projects together. Or I should say she did them. She would do them herself and write my name on them so I would get credit....The only reason why I dated her as long as I did was because she always offered to pay for dinner, movie, etc...I feel like just getting the free dinner.? I responded...Telling her...how she took advantage of my kindness, etc. Right. You may think it doesn't stink, but let me assure you, your poo smells just as bad as hers in this instance. It is clear that neither of you are mature enough for a serious relationship. Leave this one alone...she is a cheater and a liar. And in future, don't go out with girls if it's only to take advantage of what they have to offer - you will really end up hurting someone with that sort of crap.
Author Mengineer Posted November 12, 2014 Author Posted November 12, 2014 Right. You may think it doesn't stink, but let me assure you, your poo smells just as bad as hers in this instance. It is clear that neither of you are mature enough for a serious relationship. Leave this one alone...she is a cheater and a liar. And in future, don't go out with girls if it's only to take advantage of what they have to offer - you will really end up hurting someone with that sort of crap. Hold on a sec here. I think your missing something. I never asked her to do my projects. She chose to do them. I even objected. That's why I thought she liked me and asked her out. She only started to pay for things after I started confronting her on her BS. Just like she wants to offer me dinner now so we can, "talk." My last long relationship lasted 4 years. I've gone out with plenty others too. But this is off topic.
almond Posted November 20, 2014 Posted November 20, 2014 Hold on a sec here. I think your missing something. I never asked her to do my projects. She chose to do them. I even objected. That's why I thought she liked me and asked her out. She only started to pay for things after I started confronting her on her BS. Just like she wants to offer me dinner now so we can, "talk." My last long relationship lasted 4 years. I've gone out with plenty others too. But this is off topic. Right...that would all make sense, if you didn't state the following: The only reason why I dated her as long as I did was because she always offered to pay for dinner, movie, etc I stand by the statements in my previous post.
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