Moveonup Posted November 12, 2014 Posted November 12, 2014 Hello everyone, hope you're all doing well-we're all in this together! So basically, I have been with my ex for 6 years. We met through a mutual friend at a DJ night and contacted each other a few months later. It blossomed into a great and loving relationship, the longest and most significant for both of us. Unfortunately, 3 years in I had a very traumatic experience (our grandfathesr passed away) and I broke up with her because I realized I was being very bad (going out a lot, partying, being generally a mess) After a month, I decided to reconcile, as I was trying to better myself. Needless to say, she cautiously let me in- I proved to her I had changed and was able to have a loving relationship. During our time apart, we both realized we wanted to move to another city...come to find out we both independently picked the same city! So after a year reconciled I helped her pack up, and our LDR began for a year. During this time once a month I came down for a weekend, at first planning to move during the spring. Work andy goals (I began a new career I LOVE and she was SO supportive, she was proud of my achievements) so I put it off till the fall, then winter. I thought she understood. So, a month and a half ago I visited for her birthday-she is 32 I am 26. I could tell something was off, but we had a great time regardless. She voiced things like "I know you have a life where you are" "you aren't moving" etc. In fact, I had just closed on a house and got a job there-it was supposed to be a Halloween suprise! Turns out, 4 days later I get a call from her. "Ive et someone" I initially was shocked, and contemplated not moving. But I have already applied to school there, got a job, and an amazing place. Her sister says this guy is the opposite of me (and her-we are uncannily familiar) and she has lost woeght, is nervous and is thinking about things (I will be living 2 blocks from her) I have been in NC for 12 days, and I found out during that she went away with him tand his friends the weekend I was there to move things in. I guess my question is, she keess insisting she wants me in her life and love me, her actions are confusing, and she admitted she thought I wasn't going to move so made this decision. Now things are very strange she is "confused and thinking" yet not reaching out to me. I know sheisnt "dating " this man, he is just someone she has "feelings" for (she admitted she wished she didn't have feelings for him or me, she feels foolish) I am working on myself everyone says give her time she will come around but just seeing whayt you all think. We both have done so much and sacrificed a lot for one another, I know she didn't communicate well the situation but I. Think its because its pretty messy. Thanks for reading!
Author Moveonup Posted November 12, 2014 Author Posted November 12, 2014 And to clarify, I went NC because she had agreed to help me move, then called me the night before saying she wasn't ready to see me, and needs time and space. She thanked me for being mature and adult about the situation, and said she needs to figure out where to "put me" in her life.
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