If a lady tells a guy he is hot but he disagrees

[Darren2013]

If a lady tells a guy that she thinks he is hot but he disagrees and even goes so far to tell her she is wrong to think of him that way because he doesn't consider himself hot and sexy then will this turn her off? I am speaking mostly in the context of where girlfriend compliments her boyfriend or wife compliments her husband and he doesn't see himself the way she sees him then would this cause her to get turned off and want a breakup/divorce and therefore no longer seeing him as hot and sexy?

[todreaminblue]

humility is a wonderful trait for a guy to have......no its not a turn off.....deb

[evanescentworld]

No, he's probably right.

 

If he chooses to disagree with her, he knows himself a lot better than she does.

Perish the thought she should find her guy hot and sexy. What on earth is she thinking?

 

No, she should dump him immediately, and look to upgrade.

Who wants a hot and sexy guy who thinks he's a slab of lard?

 

[mrs rubble]

Hmmmm....is that how it works with guys? My man is always telling me I'm beautiful and sexy, I tell him I'm not (coz I'm not), things aren't as good as they used to be in the bedroom...are you onto something here.

[preraph]

People like confidence more than self-deprecation and insecurity for sexual purposes.

[d0nnivain]

False modesty is a problem.

 

Learn how to take a compliment.

[Gloria25]

How in the world do you know what is sexy to her?

 

My gfs are black. I date white men. They don't find what I find attractive and I don't find what they find attractive.

 

I don't tell my gfs I date white guys cuz I'm afraid they will not like it. I wait until I really, really, have to.

 

One gf I told her after we knew each other for a while. One ex-gf, a black guy she liked was hitting on me and to save the friendship, I told her I date white guys. Another gf, she's dated white and black, so I was comfortable in telling her I date white guys.

 

When I compliment a guy, I'm giving out charity, pity or whatever. BTW, I don't compliment and/or flirt with guys unless I'm gonna f- them. That's why when I go out clubbing, I dance by myself. Outside of clubbing, if a guy starts showing interest in me and I'm not interested in him, I cut it off quick.

 

I know what I look like. Some men think I'm hot, some think I'm average, some think I'm not. I'm a woman going on 40. When a guy is interested in me and/or compliments me I'm a big enough girl to know that while I am not considered "attractive" to other men, that "he" (the guy I want) finds me attractive - and what "he" thinks is what matters.

 

I see some guys with fugly, plain, and/or chunky women. Actually, I was looking at some AOL pics of Niki Minaj last nite. She looks so flabby. She needs to go to the gym and tone her body. I don't get how that turns some men on.

 

I don't think Brad Pitt is ugly, but he doesn't make my draws wet. Angelina Jolie adores him - so that's what she likes. Some men don't find Angelina Jolie attractive, some think she's a goddess. To each their own.

 

What would turn me off? Lack of confidence. If a guy keeps on walking around thinking he's someone's charity case - then not only does that turn me off, but makes me wonder if he thinks something is wrong with me for finding him attractive.

 

BTW, it's not just about looks - personality fits in to. There are hot people who no matter how attractive they are physically, their personality, etc. - is a turn off. Maybe that's why I don't like George Clooney. If everyone stopped worshiping him and he'd stop showing how insecure he is by chasing young tail, maybe, maybe I'd take a 2nd look (nah, I won't ).

[autumnnight]

When someone gives you a compliment the gracious thing to do is say thank you.

[mammasita]

When someone gives you a compliment the gracious thing to do is say thank you.

 

That is all the hell there is to it. Nothing more, nothing less.

[evanescentworld]

Damn. And there was I, hovering in a lotus position, 8" above the ground.....

[Targetlock]

beauty is in the eye of the beholder as they say sometimes they cant see themselves in the way you do. humility is a great and rare trait, give me that or poor confidence over narcissism and arrogance any day.

[newmoon]

i was in a situation like this - the bf was so physically appealing i would tell him all the time. he would deny it every time. he never believed it. and, my friends didn't see what i did. it's all in the eye of the beholder. but it never turned me off of him, the fact he couldn't agree. i saw it as humble. but, in retrospect (we have since split), i think the inability to take a compliment said something about his character... like he felt he wasn't worthy of that admiration and likely has low self-esteem issues.

[Keenly]

Any time you hear something like this, there is no need to argue with it.

 

Just say something like "if you think I'm hot now, wait until I put on my hello kitty onesy "

[Phoe]

Just say something like "if you think I'm hot now, wait until I put on my hello kitty onesy "

 

Time to pull out the potato sack. Been saving it for a special occasion

[ThaWholigan]

I can sort of relate to this. As a man, I'm notoriously bad at taking compliments, especially about my physical appearance - I either go into excessively modest mode, or get extremely bashful (I'm easily flattered).

 

I don't think I've ever actively disagreed with a woman verbally after her saying I'm sexy - that's pretty extreme even for me .

[Keenly]

Time to pull out the potato sack. Been saving it for a special occasion

 

 

Not sure if clothing or Keenly-beating object.

[Toodaloo]

Not sure if clothing or Keenly-beating object.

 

Ohhhoh Oh I know the answer to this one!