vitadolce Posted November 11, 2014 Posted November 11, 2014 so, i met this girl 4years ago through my friend we start to change phone number and texts each other. long short story we finally start to date, but it doesn't last long cause i'm too busy hanging out with my friends and i think we don't take this relationship seriously. our relationship just last 2 months. after 2years losing contact to each other, we met again on facebook. we start to chat and hanging out again, but she's not reply my messages for a few weeks so i thought she had a bf or maybe busy with her stuff and finally we lost contact again. few months after lost contact with my ex, i met another girl. we've been dating since then, we love each other, we had dreams to chase together, all of our families and friends agree we're dating and even we've planned to married together, it's just so perfect for us. here's come the problem, my ex found out i'm dating this girl, she start to contact her by twitter, path, phone, and texts. my ex tell that i and my ex been dating for long time (even though its just 2months), really loving each other, had sex regularly (i never had sex with her, even i never kissed her) and start to fake anything to look like my current gf make me leave my ex. she keeps blackmailing my gf and make us start to fight many times. one night my ex text me that she love me, she want me back and leave my current gf. she even threaten to hurt or kill my gf if i keep dating my gf. i don't know what to do, i never want to leave my gf though. can you guys give me idea what should i do? i'm really scared my gf will get hurt or killed thank you , and sorry for long post
d0nnivain Posted November 11, 2014 Posted November 11, 2014 You're ex is crazy & living in fantasy land. Whether you stay with your current GF or not, RUN from this other nut job.
Author vitadolce Posted November 11, 2014 Author Posted November 11, 2014 You're ex is crazy & living in fantasy land. Whether you stay with your current GF or not, RUN from this other nut job. we're trying to run from this problem, but she keep blackmailing my gf every week we start to sick of this problem, even my gf start to leave me
preraph Posted November 11, 2014 Posted November 11, 2014 Call the police. First you need to keep any texts or try to get her on voicemail making threats. If you can get that evidence, call the police. 2
BlueIris Posted November 11, 2014 Posted November 11, 2014 Call the police. First you need to keep any texts or try to get her on voicemail making threats. If you can get that evidence, call the police. Yep, keep the records, screenshot the texts, etc. Actually, I'd first send a message to her: "Leave us alone. Do not contact either <GF> or me or we will go to the police and get a restraining order." (Screenshot or keep the record of that too.) Just simple and direct. THEN both you and your GF stop all communication (critical point!). If ex contacts you again, then I'd take it all to the police and request a restraining order.
Fondue Posted November 11, 2014 Posted November 11, 2014 I recently went through a very similar situation, actually. It was a girl I used to date about a year ago for a maybe 4 or 5 months before things began to get sour. She never wanted exclusivity (and specifically stated this) but treated our relationship as a couple. Along with the long weekends away, the friendly get togethers with other couples, the crying when I didn't behave like a "partner" to her. By the time she wanted to make things official, I already met my current GF. And I liked her a lot. I dumped the first girl and went steady with my current GF. The first girl, a few days before I finally dumped her, kept saying how she envision us getting married, already knew what our kids would look like, and "knew from the first week that I was the one." It was ridiculous. She was in love with me, but never wanted a relationship until it was too late. I guess she was just expecting me to wait around for her to be "ready." A few months ago, the original lady contacted me again saying I was cheating on her during our tenure, that I'm a scumbag, and demanding that she meets with me and her to "demand answers" and "payback." SHe kept saying that over and over, "or else." No joke. Really threatening ****. She kept texting me all this nonsense for about a week. I finally got in contact with my lawyer friend and he suggested I get a specific kind of restraining order on her. Well, once I told this exact thing to that girl, oh how quickly her tune changed. All the sudden, all she just wanted was to "meet and discuss everything to get closure," and "to be adults about this," and "just resolve this entire situation." Well **** her. Her original behavior was so ****ty that she wasn't ever going to get any closure from me. Never met up with her, and she stopped contacting me. So in the end, tell her about the restraining order and the consequences of such action. She will definitely (or should, at least) change her mind about harassing you.
Author vitadolce Posted November 11, 2014 Author Posted November 11, 2014 Call the police. First you need to keep any texts or try to get her on voicemail making threats. If you can get that evidence, call the police. Actually I've told my gf that we should call the cops a few days ago, but she said that we should take our time and wait untill the ex really try to hurt her. My gf doesn't want this things get too complicated and don't want we spend our time back and forth to the police station. But I'll try if this things start to get worst Btw thanks for coming and share your thought:)
preraph Posted November 11, 2014 Posted November 11, 2014 Well, be careful. The whole point is to NOT wait until someone gets hurt. You never know, this girl might have access to a gun or access to a thug who would do her bidding. Keep all evidence. Stay safe. And yes, do follow the advice above about telling her in writing once you want no further contact and neither does your girlfriend and keep a copy of the email you sent her.
smackie9 Posted November 11, 2014 Posted November 11, 2014 If it were me I would ditch my FB, ditch my cel number and get a new one, and the same with your GF. Block emails etc. That should clear things up. If she can't contact you it will stop. Or at least never respond to any of the calls texts emails etc.
FromAbove Posted November 11, 2014 Posted November 11, 2014 Wow, your ex is crazy! And jealous! I would handle with care if i were you, find out what she doesn't like about you and keep treating her that way, so she will want to leave you alone. Don't ignore her, as that will drive her crazy as it seems, talk with her but be boring and lack interest. This woman has issues, like really big issues. She is crossing a boundary here by threatening your current gf. Is she doing it to get your attention? Tell her firmly to stop this craziness. That she needs to get help.
smackie9 Posted November 11, 2014 Posted November 11, 2014 The best thing to do is don't give her a reaction, because that is what she wants.
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