Angeleyez2583 Posted March 15, 2005 Posted March 15, 2005 Ok well this is a complicated situation, but all the help would be greatly appreciated! So anyway, I had been going out with this guy for almost 2 1/2 years. Those two and a half years were amazing, but sometimes I had problems with drinking. I'd black out and take anger out on my boyfriend. So finally in December he told me he couldn't take it anymore. I was always going out and getting drunk, and he couldn't take it. So I came to him crying and asked him why he was throwing our relationship away. He took me back, and everything was much better. Until last friday. We got drunk with his roomate and a friend of his. He was extremely trashed, and wanted me to give him a cig. I wouldn't give him one, so he became angry and pushed me and hit me. I just let it go because of the way I used to treat him when I was drunk. However, later that night I asked him if he remembered hitting me. He said no, and then stupid me goes and asks his roomate and friend. They didn't believe me, so I got upset and cried and got angry. Finally they called the apartment security on me. And the boyfriend said it was over. I went into his room, messed it up, tore up the physiology notes, and took the xbox back I gave him for his birthday. The day after it happened, I remade a copy of the notes I tore up and even put them in a binder. Also, I brought the xbox back to his apartment. I left him a message appologizing as well. I didn't beg him to come back, but saying I was sorry for hurting him and that I was going to completely stop drinking. Also, I'm going to rehab to get help for my problem. I even sent his parents flowers thanking them for everything they have ever done for me. So what I want to know is how do I get him back. I'm not going to sit there and cry to him and beg him to come back to me. I need to if there is even a chance I can get him back, or should I just give up. I know if I do it I have to act all happy when he sees me (he's in two of my classes). Also, should I try and sit next to him in class? I want to tell him that I want to appologize to his friend and roomate in person. Also, I'd like to ask him if the reason he broke up with me was just from the drinking. I need to give him his space I know, but I really love him and miss him so much. How do I get the love of my life back?
gwennebe Posted March 16, 2005 Posted March 16, 2005 This doesn't sound like a healthy relationship to begin with. If he can hurt you physically at all it's not a good sign and I'm speaking from experience. I feel bad that you are hurting because you obviously care a lot for each other but I think you should consider working on loving yourself first and taking care of you and hopefully the rest will fall into place. I don't think highly enough about myself and it takes a toll on my relationships. (Not saying that you dont' think highly of yourself) You should probably give him some space while you are doing this that way he can see you are serious about it.
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