confused_2009 Posted November 11, 2014 Share Posted November 11, 2014 I am 37yrs and I have been married for 7 years with 3kids 8, 5 and 3. My husband started cheating after 1 year of marriage. He is very abusive physically and emotional. Whenever I cought him cheating he will blame me for it and he will end up beating me and calling me the worse names you can think of. Last year he was diagnosed with cancer and I was the one who was suppose to take care of him. After he finished his chemo he has changed and we have never fought again ever since. But the thing is I think its a little bit to late as I have lost all the feelings I had for him and I no longer enjoy his touching or sex for that matter. I am scared to tell him how I feel because I don't want to go back to those beatings again I wanna get out of this marriage but I'm scared what's gonna happen to me and my kids as he is a very violent men. At some point I tried to open a case against him but we were never called to court neither was he arrested as the police are also corrupted here in South Africa. I feel like I hate him but I don't know how to get out Please advice confused and scared Link to post Share on other sites
scatterd Posted November 11, 2014 Share Posted November 11, 2014 I do not know how your laws are in Africa. But do you have family members that would help you and give you a place to stay? Link to post Share on other sites
GirlStillStrong Posted November 13, 2014 Share Posted November 13, 2014 There are people who can help you. Here is a website that lists different organizations and their numbers: Zazi | Where to get Help | Know Your Strength Link to post Share on other sites
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