ASG Posted November 12, 2014 Posted November 12, 2014 It's about trust and respect. When in a relationship you are trusted with information that is private; physical features, sex, fears, hopes, dreams, worries, history, health issues etc. Many may be gossips and blabbermouths but their partners don't have to like it nor tolerate it. The ones who need to grow up are those who can't respect the privacy of others. Personally, my concern wouldn't be that the girl lied, it would be that she didn't reply "None of your business" and instead chose to divulge personal information she had been trusted with. If I'm in a relationship my partner's trust and privacy is respected. That continues long after any break up and what they shared with me is taken to the grave. I expect the same in return and if someone can't do that, they are no longer trusted. Fair enough, but that's not the OPs issue. She asked him if he would mind he she told her and he said NO. So that is now wiped as a problem. OP's problem is just that she lied. And not even on purpose, but because she actually thought that was the measurement. If he's made the thread about the fact that she had had this conversation, then I'd sympathise a bit more, but still don't think it would be a cause to break up, especially if she wasn't aware that he'd be so upset over it. If it was a recurring issue, then sure. But for a first offense, think it would be an over reaction. But that isn't even it. He's upset that she upsold him by a smidge. What?!?!
Michelle ma Belle Posted November 12, 2014 Posted November 12, 2014 Bottom line here is that you are BOTH acted immaturely; #1 - You were wrong to ask such a ridiculous question. Never EVER ask a question you don't already know the answer to. #2 - She was WAY wrong for talking about private matters with a stranger, lying about it and THEN repeating the whole story to you in it's edited version. Perhaps in the light of day you're both meant for one another :/ 1
smackie9 Posted November 12, 2014 Posted November 12, 2014 I told my husband about this thread he just rolled his eye and laughed. Anyways, the simple thing was to not ask such a retarded question, and secondly, a brief word with her like "please don't discuss things like that to anyone, it makes me feel uncomfortable" is that was needed. It would have been followed by a simple apology and everyone would have just moved on from that. Mountain/mole hill syndrome 3
ThaWholigan Posted November 12, 2014 Posted November 12, 2014 Is this really a big deal? I don't think she should be going around talking about your cock if it's something you're uncomfortable with - did you actually mention to her beforehand you were uncomfortable about it? Either way, this is not a break-up offense. I understand there's an issue with trust here, but break up? That's excessive. Some communication between the two would iron that out in 10 mins. As for the penis size issue, nothing to be insecure about at all. I'm pretty much your size OP, and I've been with a woman who had bigger than me. It was still enjoyable for both of us and I've nothing to feel insecure about.
ASG Posted November 12, 2014 Posted November 12, 2014 From the OP. Read the Bold part. Now my question: Yesterday she comes home and randomly tells me that one of her co workers who I know and I work with too asked how big I am. I asked her what did you say and she said would you mind that I told her and I said no. So she said that she told her it was 8. Now I'm not 8 I'm a few hairs above 7 and she knows it. So I told her why did you lie then she said I was joking I didn't say that I told her you were 7.5. That's still a lie. I told her why would you exaggerate me and she said I thought that's what we determined you were. So now I feel worse knowing she exaggerated especially with the background I discussed. What does this mean? I know I'm overthinking it but don't want to discuss this with her further so I'm asking everyone here. Thanks OP was not bothered by her talking about it. Not bothered about his gf telling her FRIEND (not stranger) his measurement. He got bent out of shape because she didn't tell her friend the correct measurement, because she exaggerated it when he is not the biggest guy she's ever been with. And he didn't want to tell her this was bothering him! I told my husband about this thread he just rolled his eye and laughed. Anyways, the simple thing was to not ask such a retarded question, and secondly, a brief word with her like "please don't discuss things like that to anyone, it makes me feel uncomfortable" is that was needed. It would have been followed by a simple apology and everyone would have just moved on from that. Mountain/mole hill syndrome So as much as I agree with this post, if you read the OP, her talking about his penis is not the issue. The issue is that he is NOT the biggest she's ever had and on top of that SHE LIED to her friend and said he was a little bit bigger than he is. Tell *THAT* to your husband. I'm sure his eyes will come out from rolling so hard
MrNate 2.0 Posted November 13, 2014 Posted November 13, 2014 (edited) WTF? Where does your gf work? A bar or something? Who asks other people how big their partners dick is??? Your gf sounds like a child. I'd be wary of her feeling the need to lie, too. You're 29, is this immaturity really in line w/ what you are looking for? Thank you for posting the only sensible response in this thread. And why is this thread 5 pages long? Edited November 13, 2014 by MrNate 2.0
787Dreamliner Posted November 13, 2014 Posted November 13, 2014 In my opinion, I will break up with her immediately. Why? What happens in the room - stays in the room. This is simple basic logic which everyone should understand. Now she talks about the size, what happens next? Telling everyone how bad you are at sex and might take a video of it (who knows)! You deserve better, find a sensible and mature girl. There are lots up there for you to choose.
smackie9 Posted November 13, 2014 Posted November 13, 2014 (edited) What she should have done after he asked, is jump out of bed and walked out the door. Edited November 13, 2014 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
MrNate 2.0 Posted November 13, 2014 Posted November 13, 2014 What she should have done after he asked, is jump out of bed and walked out the door. Agreed. He'd be much better off.
preraph Posted November 13, 2014 Posted November 13, 2014 I look at it this: She had a light conversation with a couple of friends about penis, but he's published to the entire world on Loveshack about his penis AND his relationship with her. To me, that sounds like by far the bigger breach. He just told millions of strangers, but he's mad at her for joining in on a silly discussion with friends. 1
carhill Posted November 13, 2014 Posted November 13, 2014 The main difference is we're a bunch of anonymous strangers who don't know him from Job, and those told of their private business are real life people whom she, and perhaps he, will interact with on a daily to occasional basis. Personally, I see the dynamic as boundary incompatibility. Each of us has different boundaries regarding intimacy, sex and relationships. If they can't find a middle ground on such matters that they can both agree upon, then move on. If they progress as a couple, these boundaries will be tested again, and again, and again. 1
Snowman219 Posted November 13, 2014 Posted November 13, 2014 So wait...is Bodybuilding.com misc section down or something? Go post about this **** in there. Nobody gives a **** about your dick size. 1
endlessabyss Posted November 13, 2014 Posted November 13, 2014 So wait...is Bodybuilding.com misc section down or something? Go post about this **** in there. Nobody gives a **** about your dick size. Das it mane
ASG Posted November 13, 2014 Posted November 13, 2014 The main difference is we're a bunch of anonymous strangers who don't know him from Job, and those told of their private business are real life people whom she, and perhaps he, will interact with on a daily to occasional basis. Personally, I see the dynamic as boundary incompatibility. Each of us has different boundaries regarding intimacy, sex and relationships. If they can't find a middle ground on such matters that they can both agree upon, then move on. If they progress as a couple, these boundaries will be tested again, and again, and again. True. But he also doesn't care that she talked about it. He says so on his OP. Only that she lied about the actual size of his penis. Which isn't true... she thought she was telling the truth, but missed by a few millimetres!
MrNate 2.0 Posted November 14, 2014 Posted November 14, 2014 The main difference is we're a bunch of anonymous strangers who don't know him from Job, and those told of their private business are real life people whom she, and perhaps he, will interact with on a daily to occasional basis. Personally, I see the dynamic as boundary incompatibility. Each of us has different boundaries regarding intimacy, sex and relationships. If they can't find a middle ground on such matters that they can both agree upon, then move on. If they progress as a couple, these boundaries will be tested again, and again, and again. This makes good post #2 in this thread.
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