Girlfriend telling her friends about my penis size.

[CoolCat771]

I wouldn't call it lying at all. I'd call it "rounding up." Everyone does it about everything. You don't say "7 and three-quarters inches." You give the benefit of the doubt (having hopefully never actually measured!!) and simply round up t the nearest number. Making a mountain out of a molehill. Putting way more thought into this than she ever did. Has she measured you? I don't think so. Have you measured yourself? I bet you have.

 

 

The rounding is more likely to impress her friend than to defend this guy. Again, no need to tell him about it. That's a mind****. I doubt she'd be that stupid, even at 23 ( which isnt THAT young) She reads too much Cosmo is more like it.

[preraph]

Every woman I know that men think a lot more about penis size than they do. Men judge other men by penis size more than women judge men by penis size. Men are more likely to use it as a measure of masculinity, and no woman I know thinks of it in that way.

[CoolCat771]

Every woman I know that men think a lot more about penis size than they do. Men judge other men by penis size more than women judge men by penis size. Men are more likely to use it as a measure of masculinity, and no woman I know thinks of it in that way.

 

 

Then why talk about it? What people say they want and what they actually want are two different things.

[me85]

OMG. If I were in your shoes I would end the RS. FOR SURE. I mean, I know that sounds extreme but, ok, is she always so insensitive to your feelings? I'm open and honest with no filter hardly but even I know better. Who says something like that to their partner? How dare she?! Are you serious?! I'm so sorry you were hurt like that. I'm baffled by it.

 

Women and men who have any kind of sense, class, morals, decency, compassion, consideration and HEART - know that you never ever say something like that to your partner. You lie to no end. You never hurt their feelings in such a way. Especially if you plan on being with that person even if they aren't the best you've ever had in that department. Everyone knows not to be honest with everything all the time! I will lie with no thoughts in my head about it if my partner asked "Am a good size down there?" "Am I better in the bedroom than your older boyfriends were?" "Am I getting fat?" ...etc.

 

I mean, nice, kind-hearted people know when and when not to lie. That would've been the time for her to consider your feelings before blurting out brutal honestly. She should've done what most all girls do when our men ask questions like that...lie. If we have to. If we really feel that way then awesome! Great! We didn't have to lie. But I would lie if I had to. Only about that sort of stuff though. Sometimes it's nice and necessary to lie. A person must be smart enough to know when to do so though.

Edited November 11, 2014 by me85

[preraph]

Then why talk about it? What people say they want and what they actually want are two different things.

 

Okay, are you telling me you have never remarked to any friend ever about any woman's boobs? Seriously? If you are telling me that, that you are so proper that any comment about a woman's boobs or booty has never come out of your mouth, then I am going to say yes this girl isn't for you because you are too uptight and rigid for her. Otherwise, I'm going to say you're a hypocrit.

[CoolCat771]

Okay, are you telling me you have never remarked to any friend ever about any woman's boobs? Seriously? If you are telling me that, that you are so proper that any comment about a woman's boobs or booty has never come out of your mouth, then I am going to say yes this girl isn't for you because you are too uptight and rigid for her. Otherwise, I'm going to say you're a hypocrit.

 

 

I wouldn't tell her about it. She doesn't need to know any of that. It's not pleasant, especially if you are taking the person seriously.

[me85]

And then to talk about it with her friends ??? I only gloat about my partner's sexually abilities. I mean, I only stay in RSs with partners who satisfy me sexually anyway, but still...I've had not so great lovers in the past whom I was not seriously involved with but didn't make them feel self conscience and only slightly discussed their downfalls to close friends of mine. But that's only because they didn't know my friends or family and I'd never see or hear from them again so it didn't matter.

 

Your gf seems very immature. It isn't right and no one deserves to be talked about behind their back. She's supposed to HAVE your back not STAB you in the back. Sorry I'm just really annoyed that a person would do such a thing to someone they supposedly care about.

 

Some things should be kept private. I wouldn't want my friends to know my guy's penis size!!!!! But I will brag on my man rocking my freaking world though! That's A-okay. LOL It's always ok to brag about great sex!

[preraph]

^ But she didn't discuss his "downfalls," as you say. Either 7 or 8 inches is way above average. She wasn't badmouthing her boyfriend. She and him are getting along just great and now he's on the cusp of letting something like that destroy that and I can't believe anyone is encouraging him to throw her away for being a girl who banters with friends. And that's all it is. I am afraid he's imagining it's something sinister, and it's nothing but loose water cooler talk. The only thing I would caution about getting too graphic with your girlfriends is hearing your bf is great in bed might make one of the less loyal ones want to come after him.

[CoolCat771]

^ But she didn't discuss his "downfalls," as you say. Either 7 or 8 inches is way above average. She wasn't badmouthing her boyfriend. She and him are getting along just great and now he's on the cusp of letting something like that destroy that and I can't believe anyone is encouraging him to throw her away for being a girl who banters with friends. And that's all it is. I am afraid he's imagining it's something sinister, and it's nothing but loose water cooler talk. The only thing I would caution about getting too graphic with your girlfriends is hearing your bf is great in bed might make one of the less loyal ones want to come after him.

 

Never trust a person who talks too much. They're like the wind, and their minds change on a whim. Not grounded.

 

By the way OP; depression isjust anger turned inward. Be true to your feelings when can, or else it'll mess you up in the future. If she loved you she would be protective of you.

Edited November 11, 2014 by CoolCat771

[Fondue]

Here is some brutal honesty:

 

If she had to lie about your size to her friends and make you out as a "bigger" man, then I would interpret that as she is ashamed/embarrassed about it. As in, her friends would think less of you (and her).

 

So with that mindset, I would be quite upset. IF she was ashamed of my tool, then I would never be able to forgive that. I would feel sexual indequate for the entirety of the relationship and would not be able to proceed. It would be the end of it right there.

 

She also told you about it. THat's pretty emasculating. She doesn't come off as a kind person.

 

I would end it with this lady. But that's just my $0.02.

[Michelle ma Belle]

Here is some brutal honesty:

 

If she had to lie about your size to her friends and make you out as a "bigger" man, then I would interpret that as she is ashamed/embarrassed about it. As in, her friends would think less of you (and her).

 

So with that mindset, I would be quite upset. IF she was ashamed of my tool, then I would never be able to forgive that. I would feel sexual indequate for the entirety of the relationship and would not be able to proceed. It would be the end of it right there.

 

She also told you about it. THat's pretty emasculating. She doesn't come off as a kind person.

 

I would end it with this lady. But that's just my $0.02.

 

Fondue took the words right out of my mouth.

 

I guess that makes $0.04

[CoolCat771]

Fondue took the words right out of my mouth.

 

I guess that makes $0.04

 

 

How about I put it like this

 

OP you don't want to end up like this guy:

 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=M79dJgMBFh4

[SawtoothMars]

Penis size. LOL. Such bs. If penis size really mattered, the whole world would be populated with foot long dongers. Your tongue is a better sexual implement. And before that, it's your brain. And right now your brain is bogged down by your insecurity over this whole stuff.

 

That is a very false statement.

 

Evolutionary biology is very complicated, but your premise is predicated on the idea that women over the last 10,000 years have had CHOICE.

[Tayken]

@OP....then you tell your friends and hers about her "Wenis" i.e. how it seems to have become a black hole / deeper than the great barrier reef

[smackie9]

You are too insecure. So what if she had bigger. You guys are so flippin so hung up on size it's ridiculous. Reality check: different sized vaginas for different sized penises. So huge doesn't mean better, and I will vouch for that let me tell ya. And OP you are squabling over 3/4 of an inch? seriously? get over it.

[CoolCat771]

You are too insecure. So what if she had bigger. You guys are so flippin so hung up on size it's ridiculous. Reality check: different sized vaginas for different sized penises. So huge doesn't mean better, and I will vouch for that let me tell ya. And OP you are squabling over 3/4 of an inch? seriously? get over it.

 

You're alright with her dishing it out... but can you take the reverse yourself?

 

Some people've just never felt the burn of that themselves.

[mrs rubble]

I dunno why people feel the need to go around discussing penis size.

I remember a friend of mine, when we were in our 20's who liked to tell me all about what she'd seen. She was a hooker. One particular guy I ended up with a while later, but I'd already heard about his "massive" piece.

It wasn't anything different to what I'd seen before, so I decided after that to switch off every time people discussed crap like that.

BTW~ I never told the guy involved of my friends revelation or my thoughts on the matter. That would be just so tacky IMO!!!

I'm sure yours is just fine, your gf sounds a silly as a 2 bob watch though!

[smackie9]

You're alright with her dishing it out... but can you take the reverse yourself?

 

Some people've just never felt the burn of that themselves.

 

Dishing it out? it was a conversation between her and a coworker which some people talk about. There was no discussion of how lousy he was in bed, or how he needs to get better or how inadequate his penis size was...totally taking things way out of context.

 

Ya right it's worth it that he dumpers her now....jeezus.

[veggirl]

WTF? Where does your gf work? A bar or something? Who asks other people how big their partners dick is??? Your gf sounds like a child. I'd be wary of her feeling the need to lie, too. You're 29, is this immaturity really in line w/ what you are looking for?

[irresolute]

She was disrespectful and you are a doormat.

 

You are both allowing this kind of aggressive behavior. omg! Break up with her, right now and seek a counselor, please!!:sick:

[irresolute]

wait, what? Are you 29??? I thought you both were 19 or so...Good God, I repeat: break up with her and seek a counselor!

 

I want to edit because this is a sensible thread for me, as you can see. Iwas madly in love with someone who had a pencil di.ck. And I wouldnt matter at all, because I loved him. I NEVER told him anything about the size of his penis because I know he was sensible about it, even without words. So please, dump that as.hol.e and find someone mature enough to not have those dumb talks.

Edited November 11, 2014 by irresolute

[CoolCat771]

Dishing it out? it was a conversation between her and a coworker which some people talk about. There was no discussion of how lousy he was in bed, or how he needs to get better or how inadequate his penis size was...totally taking things way out of context.

 

Ya right it's worth it that he dumpers her now....jeezus.

 

 

 

 

Nope. you're just failing to see the lack of respect she has for the guy's pride. You don't understand men.

[ASG]

wait, what? Are you 29??? I thought you both were 19 or so...Good God, I repeat: break up with her and seek a counselor!

 

I want to edit because this is a sensible thread for me, as you can see. Iwas madly in love with someone who had a pencil di.ck. And I wouldnt matter at all, because I loved him. I NEVER told him anything about the size of his penis because I know he was sensible about it, even without words. So please, dump that as.hol.e and find someone mature enough to not have those dumb talks.

 

The thing is... From what I understood from the OP, the GF has NO IDEA he is sensitive about the issue.

HE asked HER if he was the BIGGEST she'd ever had. She said NO! Cue his insecurity! Of which he said NOTHING to her. And I mean... if you're going to ask, you better be sure you want to hear the answer!

 

And then, the next day or whatever, she comes home and lightly tells him that, guess what? Someone asked her what his size was! (Which... yeah, can be a topic of conversation!) And she said 8 or 7,5 or whatever.

And he got all hung up on her "lying", because it's not 7,5, it's 7,23455 or whatever and OMG does this mean she thinks I'm tiny?!?!

 

Grow up OP. And you people telling him to dump her over this... grow up as well! This is nothing! Means nothing. Should amount to nothing. Drop in the proverbial ocean.

 

Why make a big deal??

[CoolCat771]

The thing is... From what I understood from the OP, the GF has NO IDEA he is sensitive about the issue.

HE asked HER if he was the BIGGEST she'd ever had. She said NO! Cue his insecurity! Of which he said NOTHING to her. And I mean... if you're going to ask, you better be sure you want to hear the answer!

 

And then, the next day or whatever, she comes home and lightly tells him that, guess what? Someone asked her what his size was! (Which... yeah, can be a topic of conversation!) And she said 8 or 7,5 or whatever.

And he got all hung up on her "lying", because it's not 7,5, it's 7,23455 or whatever and OMG does this mean she thinks I'm tiny?!?!

 

Grow up OP. And you people telling him to dump her over this... grow up as well! This is nothing! Means nothing. Should amount to nothing. Drop in the proverbial ocean.

 

Why make a big deal??

 

 

You're so short sighted.

[smackie9]

Nope. you're just failing to see the lack of respect she has for the guy's pride. You don't understand men.

 

I know men perfectly fine, I guess I don't understand boys