xcmr2 Posted March 15, 2005 Posted March 15, 2005 I dated toni for year and half. Things had there ups and downs like every relationship. I get back to school from thanksgiving break and she mad. For the reason of her father. Breaks up with me cold and blood. I didn't cry cause sometimes breaks are the best for everyone. I have been apart from her for little over three months. I still fall asleep hoping things will get better. I still wish I could be with her so my life is more complete. We had gotten into a pretty big arguement about a month ago and I stop talking to her at all costs. Well I finally said hey if you want to settle things and work them out give me a call. Sunday morning I get a phone call from her. We talk/chat all day long. It looks as things were getting better for things said like "I still have everything you have got me on my night stand and when I go to bed it makes me thing of you" "I still have the picture from home coming I still have the love notes you wrote me" " I still think about you all the time" Well durning all of this she is dating another guy I know who he is and she said hes half the man I am. We both cried we both laugh we both said I love you. Im not sure want it all means. So I said would you like to go on a date dinner movie ice cream play pool if we have time. She said yes cause things are still kinda shacky I think we need to spend some time alone. The only down fall was if her b/f didnt have to work she wasnt going to go. Well he didnt have to so it got push back another week. He didnt have to work. This pass week at a drill meet she came up to me and said will you take me to lunch and was clinging on to me over the other friends until her father and boyfriend got there and its was like I wasnt there anymore. I love her with all my heart. I cant stand it anymore. I cant wait until shes 18 to be with her. She said she loves me and doesnt regret anything that ever happen and will never forget me and said I want to atleast save a friendship or more out of this. She really hasnt said must to me this week. We never went to lunch cause her b/f was there. I Dont no if I should give up or not? I dont no if I should just kiss her and say I love you and leave right there for spring break? I dont no what I should do? I dont no what I shouldnt do? I dont no.......for once in my life I dont no what to do with her..........
talie20 Posted March 16, 2005 Posted March 16, 2005 Gosh, I really feel for you. I have an on again off again relationship too. But it doesnt sound healthy if shes okay with being with another guy, unless you have an arrangement of an open relationship. Doesnt sound like you want an open relationship though. She sounds wishy-washy, like she cant make up her mind. Its not fair that she does that to you and leaves you hanging thinking you might be with her in the future and then again maybe not; especially if she can act like shes with you one minute and then when her new guy shows up pretends your invisible. You deserve better and you deserve closure either way, although it seems you would rather be with her. You should ask her again grosse point blank and either begin the healing process or try to reconcile. Tell you what you think you deserve in the relationship. If she doesnt try to compromise at all or take into account your feelings, maybe you should move on. In a way I dont feel like I have the right to even comment to your story. Ive broken up with my boy 6 times and hes broken up with me once, but we have always found a way to come back together. Its been completely monogomous during the breakups and during the relationship. But those 7 breakups have been really difficult for the both of us, im sure. I dont know how many more ups and downs I can afford to feel. Doesnt it make your heart break a little more each time things happen? Its really nice to hear of a guy who's willing to wait for the girl that he wants to make up her mind, but dont wait forever. We both need to move on and be freed of things. Its not healthy to have relationships in limbo. This doesnt mean breaking up or getting back together...but we need resolution and closure either way. Please excuse the hipocrisy. Good luck with things! I hope you find peace in your situation. Sorry I couldnt be of better help, but I mostly wanted to show my sympathy for your situation since I, myself, am in a troubled relationship as well.
Author xcmr2 Posted March 17, 2005 Author Posted March 17, 2005 Well, I know she can't really be with me because of her father. Hes done some pretty bad things to her because we were still together. We went to breakfest this morning it was fun but feel like something was missing like holding her hand or being able to kiss her. I know shes with this guy to kinda anger me and everyone says it. Im also hanging on a girl to return the game face to her. She told a friend if she ever catchs me holding another girls hand other than hers she would kick my ass. I guess this something missing to this puzzle Im for sure of that! What do you think is missing give me the best and worse that could be missing?
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