jbear0111 Posted November 11, 2014 Posted November 11, 2014 Ex girlfriend left me because she said i am terrified of commitment.She 20 years my junior (me 47,she 27)declared her undying love for me over the last couple of years. She wanted me to 1) move to her town as she didnt want to take her daughter out of school ( i have a daughter whom i see regularly and stays over at mine and who lives 5 mins from me.Moving to ex would be 40 mins drive away 2) put a ring on her finger 3) have a baby. These all seemed to be conditions without compromise despite in the 1st year together,she said she would move to where I live and wasnt looking to have another child I was desparate to save the relationship so was trying to convince myself that I could do it all when underneath it was stressing me out and the pressure was constant. Always seemed to be I love you if you do this that or the other.She now cut me out completely as I said I'm not being pressured into everything (we've been together for just over 2 years and this started about a year ago). Whilst I believe i've done right,part of me thinks I could and want to do it all as I believed in her and she was what i'd been looking for.Naive I know,but suffering somewhat now and cant stop over romantcizing the good times I had with her I am sure it will get better but seem to get stuck at times.Any thoughts on how to move forward would be very welcome.Been apart 7 weeks now although I have sent a couple of emails when I know I shouldnt have.
smackie9 Posted November 11, 2014 Posted November 11, 2014 Man you were bamboozled. If I were you I would just start going out on dates and have a good time.
Tabitha87 Posted November 11, 2014 Posted November 11, 2014 I think that you made a good decision. Why should her child's education be more important than your own child's education? I understand that your child would still stay in the same school, however, it put hardship on your life to make the move to be closer to her and her child. Why couldn't she have waited until the end of the school year and then SHE move where you are? That wouldn't have disturbed her child's education as much as it would mid-school year. Of course they'd need to make new friends, but friends are SO easy for young kids to make. You could've even moved together part way in between both children's schools (assuming that was a possibility). Nonetheless, there needs to be comprises. If relationships were all about what one person wanted and had no regard for the other's wishes, I think there'd be a lot single and/or unhappy people. She seems very selfish to me based on what you've said & has some learning still left to do. Maybe time apart will open her eyes to her actions. Good luck!
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