griffinchicken53 Posted November 11, 2014 Posted November 11, 2014 I group text with a couple of friends. Usually it is no big deal, sometimes I feel like they don't understand me. I'm single and excessively shy, they are in relationships so sometimes they start giving advice that I don't want to hear. For one thing, their view on women makes me cringe. I was told to try some of those dating sites and when I had no replies I was told to just be vague and treat them like bitches. One is in a relationship but cheats and doesn't see a problem with it. This makes me angry. How are they successful and I'm forever alone?
todreaminblue Posted November 11, 2014 Posted November 11, 2014 Feel sorry for them, because they might be with someone.....they dont know or appreciate love and all that love has to offer.i.they are short changing themselves and you arent ......they have a now someone, you if you stand strong behind your beliefs and your future will be with a forever someone.....the loneliest hearts in the world are the hearts that know not love or to be loved in return.......its a two way street or isnt really love.....deb 2
Author griffinchicken53 Posted November 11, 2014 Author Posted November 11, 2014 Actually I'm forever alone and im done trying.
todreaminblue Posted November 11, 2014 Posted November 11, 2014 Actually I'm forever alone and im done trying. how long have you been single.......
preraph Posted November 11, 2014 Posted November 11, 2014 Your cheating friends aren't successful. They said to be vague because when they were honest and told the women what they were like, understandably, none of them were interested. So now they pretend to be something they're not and there's no way any of them will get a good relationship out of that OR treating the women like bitches OR cheating on their present relationships. Those guys are just aholes looking for one niters. 1
Author griffinchicken53 Posted November 11, 2014 Author Posted November 11, 2014 I've been single for years. If I'be been lonely, I'm told just to suck it up and enjoy being single.
preraph Posted November 11, 2014 Posted November 11, 2014 Well, if you're lonely, taking advice from those Gomers isn't going to get you anywhere. Find new activities. Join in organizations. Take up new hobbies. Take a night class. Take up any team sport of pasttime. Get a part-time job in a retail store where you're meeting people all the time, or volunteer at the zoo or doing animal rescue or helping orphans. Stay busy and keep thinking of new things to do that bring you into contact with people. 2
todreaminblue Posted November 11, 2014 Posted November 11, 2014 I've been single for years. If I'be been lonely, I'm told just to suck it up and enjoy being single. Im sorry you feel lonely....its not something you can suck up...some people can be lonely in a relationship and believe me when i say that its worse..... as pre raph says you have to get out there and meet people.....its not sucking it up its making change, dont hang around people who make you feel bad who treat others disrespectfully all the time...meet new friends who share your values....what are your hobbies....i would suggest joining a church that speaks to your heart,try doing community service work or volunteer, not to meet a potential partner but to feel good about something.....meet individuals who have compassion and maybe you never know you may find passion with that.......do things you love and you meet people who will share your passions....become a volunteer if you can ....find your peace and place, in doing for others...... these friends who treat women badly are not the norm.....i cant believe that they are.....and sadly some of them have more than they deserve because they dont appreciate what they have they truly dont deserve to keep goign the way they are..........something will happen to make them appreciate exactly what they did have when they lose it probably...... you might be lonely right now......but you are not alone.....you can always find someone to talk to .......for one whole day .....try this just to see what happens....... smile at every person you meet....some wont smile back and rush off on their day ...but a lot will.........when you get an open friendly smile.....just say...its a beautiful day isnt it.....maybe even start a conversation ...male or female.....continue to do this often......you make the change.....and you wont be lonely anymore..be with people who love what you love........and if no one smiles at you one day......come on to loveshack....and i will smile.....and we can chat.......:0)...i am sure i wouldnt be the only one who would...i wish you well...deb 1
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