shatteredlove Posted November 11, 2014 Posted November 11, 2014 We dated for 7 years and all of a sudden out of left field he tells me this isn't working. I'm trying to hold it together but I want to scream why he wants to throw it all away after seven years together but I won't. We currently share space but at the end of the week I'm packing my bags and going somewhere else to start fresh. Friends say I'm making a big mistake but I can't live here anymore. I feel so broken..
barky2 Posted November 11, 2014 Posted November 11, 2014 First off, sorry you're going threw this. I've been there, mine was a 10 year rs. The whole " run away and start fresh" is only good in movies... Truly think before you do. Not saying it's a horrible thing, but you don't want to up root your whole life over someone. Take a vacation instead. And all this didn't just " happen" Now I can tell you what it seems...but you prob don't want to hear it. The best thing you can do is, accept what he's saying, move out, begin your healing and put your life back together. You will get through it, that I promise. It'll take a lot of work and heart ache. But this guy has a hidden agenda....trust me. Pack your stuff and find a real man, this dude isn't one. And you'll find this out later. Best of luck Barky
Author shatteredlove Posted November 11, 2014 Author Posted November 11, 2014 First off, sorry you're going threw this. I've been there, mine was a 10 year rs. The whole " run away and start fresh" is only good in movies... Truly think before you do. Not saying it's a horrible thing, but you don't want to up root your whole life over someone. Take a vacation instead. And all this didn't just " happen" Now I can tell you what it seems...but you prob don't want to hear it. The best thing you can do is, accept what he's saying, move out, begin your healing and put your life back together. You will get through it, that I promise. It'll take a lot of work and heart ache. But this guy has a hidden agenda....trust me. Pack your stuff and find a real man, this dude isn't one. And you'll find this out later. Best of luck Barky Thanks barky for your input I know I can't run from my problems but it's just way too expensive to live here on my own so I thought a cheaper newer scene might help but I do admit myself, it's a hasty and rash decision. I know he has a hidden agenda he's not being honest with. But time to move forward I guess.
BC1980 Posted November 11, 2014 Posted November 11, 2014 Thanks barky for your input I know I can't run from my problems but it's just way too expensive to live here on my own so I thought a cheaper newer scene might help but I do admit myself, it's a hasty and rash decision. I know he has a hidden agenda he's not being honest with. But time to move forward I guess. Do you live with him? If that is the case, I would say move out. I wouldn't recommend uprooting your entire life and moving to a different city right now though. Someone told me to wait a year or so before making any major decisions, and I think that is a good idea. When I was in the midst of my grief, each day I would want something different, and it was all from my emotions going crazy. Now, I'm more level headed and can make decisions from a better place.
Raena Posted November 11, 2014 Posted November 11, 2014 (edited) OP, I'm sorry you are going through this. It's always tough to end a relationship but the best thing you can do is take care of YOU. Don't make rash decisions like the others suggested but do look out for your own best interests. Edited November 11, 2014 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
Author shatteredlove Posted November 11, 2014 Author Posted November 11, 2014 Do you live with him? If that is the case, I would say move out. I wouldn't recommend uprooting your entire life and moving to a different city right now though. Someone told me to wait a year or so before making any major decisions, and I think that is a good idea. When I was in the midst of my grief, each day I would want something different, and it was all from my emotions going crazy. Now, I'm more level headed and can make decisions from a better place. Yes I still share the same home with him. My bags are packed and ready to go at a moment's notice just I literally have no where to go. I can't stay with family as there's no room for me and they are far away and I can't stay with friends as they are spread out and have families I don't want to intrude on. I guess my next step would be finding a cheap motel and staying until I find a affordable apartment.
Author shatteredlove Posted November 11, 2014 Author Posted November 11, 2014 OP, I'm sorry you are going through this. It's always tough to end a relationship but the best thing you can do is take care of YOU. Don't make rash decisions like the others suggested but do look out for your own best interests. Thank you Raena Trying to keep my head up
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