cachaco1229 Posted November 10, 2014 Posted November 10, 2014 Hey everyone My ex girlfriend birthday is coming up and we broke a month and doing NC right now, but we both have mutual friend and we might do something, so I'm not sure if I should pay her like a simple gift or not to buy anything, if you need more detail you about our relationship and break up, post it like 3 week ago. Thanks you
d0nnivain Posted November 11, 2014 Posted November 11, 2014 If you are broken up she is a "stranger". Do you usually get strangers gifts? If this thing you are doing with the mutual friend is for the EX's birthday, I'd skip it. 3
Author cachaco1229 Posted November 11, 2014 Author Posted November 11, 2014 Just asking, why would I skip going, and don't you think if I don't go, won't it make seem like I'm still sad or affect by the break up? I would like your opinion, as will in my other post, if you don't mind reading it. Thank you.
d0nnivain Posted November 11, 2014 Posted November 11, 2014 Unfriend her from all your social media & stop looking at what she's doing. When she said she wants to focus on school as her reason for breaking up with you, that was a lie. She wants out & that softened the blow. You want to get her this birthday gift & go to her birthday because you are hoping to win her back. It won't work. She'll be pissed. You will be sad. Seriously, don't get her a gift & be busy doing anything else that night, including watching paint dry but don't go. 6
Mi7522 Posted November 11, 2014 Posted November 11, 2014 Unfriend her from all your social media & stop looking at what she's doing. When she said she wants to focus on school as her reason for breaking up with you, that was a lie. She wants out & that softened the blow. You want to get her this birthday gift & go to her birthday because you are hoping to win her back. It won't work. She'll be pissed. You will be sad. Seriously, don't get her a gift & be busy doing anything else that night, including watching paint dry but don't go. Great advice!
Mi7522 Posted November 11, 2014 Posted November 11, 2014 Just asking, why would I skip going, and don't you think if I don't go, won't it make seem like I'm still sad or affect by the break up? I would like your opinion, as will in my other post, if you don't mind reading it. Thank you. Who cares what she thinks! Let her worry about where you're at. I would guess it is 100% better to watch "paint dry" than you being at the party
JoeFallkon Posted November 11, 2014 Posted November 11, 2014 (edited) Its gonna be like she is beign rewarded for dumpin you if you buy her something. Do like her bday is gonna be in 6 months and go do something else. dont buy her sht or even send a happy b-day text. she wanted out, Dont break the NC. trust me, you ll start back at square 1. If you dont show up if your fnds end up doin something for her, its not gonna show youre sad, its gonna show the total opposite. It ll show you dont give a ishh about her and she is gonna start wondering about you. What would you do if u end up goin? youre gonna end up wanting to talk to her and see her again later on. DONT GO, DONT BUY HER ANYTHING,DONT TEXT HER OR SEND MESSAGES THROUGH FRIENDS. Just some friendly advice Edited November 11, 2014 by JoeFallkon
David87 Posted November 11, 2014 Posted November 11, 2014 What gift? You wont be going right? Listen to the great advice you received here. 1
xxmusical Posted November 11, 2014 Posted November 11, 2014 You want to get her this birthday gift & go to her birthday because you are hoping to win her back. It won't work. She'll be pissed. You will be sad. ^ This! I've gone through this before. Ex delivered a bunch of flowers to my doorstep. I got super pissed and hated him even more for ruining my birthday. OP, stay NC and skip the party!
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