rov Posted November 10, 2014 Posted November 10, 2014 Did I saved myself from hell with a girl that ended an 11 years old relationship 6 months ago? Hi everyone, on thursday I dated a girl I met in my university 8 years ago. The other day she like some photos on me on Facebook and I decided to talk to her, we started to chat and she was very kind. So after some days I told her to meet up and we ended having dinner yesterday. I had a very good time with her and she asked me if I had a girlfriend and how many exes I had, that was very weird because no girl Ive ever dated asked that, then she told me that she broke up 6 months ago from a relationship that lasted 11 years, they broke because her boyfriend was unfaithful to her and dropped her because of another girl he met. We had a great time, and at the end I texted her that I had a good time and that if she wanted to go to the movies next week, she told me that she also had a great time and told me that of course she wants to go to the movies next week with me. Yesterday I texted her saying that I would like to see her this week, she acted cold and distant and took like 30 minutes to answer my messages, and she was online in whatsapp all the time. Her answer was: yeah it would be a good idea to go to the movies. Then I texted her that if she was free on wednesday or thursday and she never texted me back . I don't understand why she acted like this, on thursday we had a good date and she appeared to be having a good time. So my question is: would it be better to disappear from her life and let her contact me or I'm just saving myself from hell with this girl that recently broke up from an 11 year relationship. How much time does it take to heal from a relationship this long?
sedona Posted November 10, 2014 Posted November 10, 2014 Infidelity is a horrible crime because it is so very personal. That woman's ex rewrote her whole life, without her consent. I suspect she was asking you about your past to gather information and avoid another fall. The good news is that victims of infidelity are often kind, loving and loyal people, whose 'mistake' was trusting someone unworthy. They are often compassionate people, because they've experienced such pain. No one can tell you how long it takes to recover. It varies for everyone. It's up to you if you want to bail because she didn't answer immediately, or because she's 'damaged goods'. But if you really had a good time with her, then I'd give it a night. If you haven't gotten an answer, give her a call (yes, talk to her, not sms), say that you suggest movie X or Y at Xpm and see what she says. Not a huge risk there.
Author rov Posted November 11, 2014 Author Posted November 11, 2014 She finally answered and told me that she had a problem and thats why she didn't replied, she also told me again that she had a good time with me on the date and that she is not angry with me or anything
dclan Posted November 11, 2014 Posted November 11, 2014 Did I saved myself from hell with a girl that ended an 11 years old relationship 6 months ago? Hi everyone, on thursday I dated a girl I met in my university 8 years ago. The other day she like some photos on me on Facebook and I decided to talk to her, we started to chat and she was very kind. So after some days I told her to meet up and we ended having dinner yesterday. I had a very good time with her and she asked me if I had a girlfriend and how many exes I had, that was very weird because no girl Ive ever dated asked that, then she told me that she broke up 6 months ago from a relationship that lasted 11 years, they broke because her boyfriend was unfaithful to her and dropped her because of another girl he met. We had a great time, and at the end I texted her that I had a good time and that if she wanted to go to the movies next week, she told me that she also had a great time and told me that of course she wants to go to the movies next week with me. Yesterday I texted her saying that I would like to see her this week, she acted cold and distant and took like 30 minutes to answer my messages, and she was online in whatsapp all the time. Her answer was: yeah it would be a good idea to go to the movies. Then I texted her that if she was free on wednesday or thursday and she never texted me back . I don't understand why she acted like this, on thursday we had a good date and she appeared to be having a good time. So my question is: would it be better to disappear from her life and let her contact me or I'm just saving myself from hell with this girl that recently broke up from an 11 year relationship. How much time does it take to heal from a relationship this long? how old is she? You see...she ended a very long relationship....with a guy that betrayed her. She clearly has insecurities and stuff. She might not be in a well balanced emotionally. Specially depending her age.
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