Srikant Posted November 10, 2014 Posted November 10, 2014 Hello every one.. I have been with my girlfriend for the past 4 years now. I am now 22 and she is 20. I have known her since the past 8 years. Our relationship initially started as a long distance relationship. She initially lived here but she had moved to another state 6 years back. After being in long distance relationship for 1.5 years, she got a chance and joined a college here. Every thing was going fine and all but about a year back or so I decided to change my career plans significantly. And stayed busy with my work. At first, I had a lot of time for her and she didn't have time for me but now, things were opposite. Anyway, my work finally paid of and I finally got a good job a month ago. But I now feel I have lost interest on my gf and not attracted to her any more. She used look really beautiful a year back or so. Now she has gone fat and looks dull. She doesn't spend any time getting ready when meeting me. I remember a time when I was starving to have sex with her. But now, I have interest but it is nothing like i had in the past. I remember we made out nearly every time we went out together. Now I don't feel like it. Obviously things didn't happen instantly but I get a pattern on how it happened over the course of a year. I now notice other girls when going out and now her. I tried to say her that she has gone fat and she doesn't spend time when getting ready for me in a way not to hurt her but I am not sure if that is enough. I got no idea on what to do..
most_distant_galaxy Posted November 10, 2014 Posted November 10, 2014 Don't be fast to act. Maybe she is also losing attraction. How much weight has she gained? Buy her something sexy and ask her to put it on for you. Then tell her you had fantasies about her in this kind of sexy outfit and that you really like the idea of her dressing up for you. If she starts dressing up again, then she is still attracted and just happened to let herself go for a while. If your words go unnoticed, then she isn't attracted anymore and doesn't care what you think.
Thegreatestthing Posted November 10, 2014 Posted November 10, 2014 Just break up with her,she's probably not going to lose the weight or make the effort and if you marry her one day it will be a regular occurrence and if you can't love her despite it,it's not going to work.
Author Srikant Posted November 10, 2014 Author Posted November 10, 2014 (edited) Just break up with her,she's probably not going to lose the weight or make the effort and if you marry her one day it will be a regular occurrence and if you can't love her despite it,it's not going to work. Well weight alone is not the problem she has not gained much but I feel something is missing. The weight was something I noticed when I matched 2 of photographs of her. She looks kind of dull too. Hmm.... I think I should do what "most_distant_galaxy" says. But its not about dress alone. She like puts on 0 make up or anything. At first I was like its fine cause we were going out for long so I didn't care. But I don't find her beautiful. Although I think I should what you said me. Edited November 10, 2014 by Srikant
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