greenman77 Posted November 10, 2014 Posted November 10, 2014 I am absolutely clueless when it comes to dating so please bare with me. Last night I went on a first date with a girl I met online. She's 24 and I'm 22. I was the one that asked her out. The date lasted for about 2.5 hours. We went bowling then grabbed something quick to eat. Didn't want her to pay so I paid for everything. It went pretty well in my opinion but then ending was a little awkward and fast. Just a quick kiss on the cheek as we said goodbye. Texted her when I got home to make sure she got home safely and told her that it was nice to meet her and that I hoped she had a nice time. She said that she did enjoy it. Am I expected to make the next move for a second date?
irresolute Posted November 10, 2014 Posted November 10, 2014 YES. Text her now and ask her for a second date. Don't wait no more.
Fondue Posted November 10, 2014 Posted November 10, 2014 Woah, slow down there. Take a pulse of the situation first. HOw much were you guys "into" each other. Was it lukewarm? Was there good chemistry? What's up? You don't need to immediately make a new date, especially if you guys weren't super duper into each other right off the bat. I'd say take a day or two, come up with a new date idea, CALL her, and tell her when/where/what. Leave her only with the option of: "yes" or "no." If she says anything other than "yes," as in she's hesitant or dances around it a bit, then you have your answer as to her interest level. The only acceptable decline on her part would be to say no, but give you an alternate right then and there. Otherwise she simply isn't interested. EDIT: More to add.
irresolute Posted November 10, 2014 Posted November 10, 2014 Woah, slow down there. Take a pulse of the situation first. HOw much were you guys "into" each other. Was it lukewarm? Was there good chemistry? What's up? You don't need to immediately make a new date, especially if you guys weren't super duper into each other right off the bat. I'd say take a day or two, come up with a new date idea, CALL her, and tell her when/where/what. Leave her only with the option of: "yes" or "no." If she says anything other than "yes," as in she's hesitant or dances around it a bit, then you have your answer as to her interest level. The only acceptable decline on her part would be to say no, but give you an alternate right then and there. Otherwise she simply isn't interested. EDIT: More to add. Do not follow this advice, op. do not play hard to get, do not wait 2 days. She'll feel you're not interested. Just text her and invite her again 2
Fondue Posted November 10, 2014 Posted November 10, 2014 YES. Text her now and ask her for a second date. Don't wait no more. Do not follow this advice, op. You'll come off as desperate and over ambitious. Just call her in a day or two and invite her again. See what I did there? 1
preraph Posted November 10, 2014 Posted November 10, 2014 I am absolutely clueless when it comes to dating so please bare with me. Last night I went on a first date with a girl I met online. She's 24 and I'm 22. I was the one that asked her out. The date lasted for about 2.5 hours. We went bowling then grabbed something quick to eat. Didn't want her to pay so I paid for everything. It went pretty well in my opinion but then ending was a little awkward and fast. Just a quick kiss on the cheek as we said goodbye. Texted her when I got home to make sure she got home safely and told her that it was nice to meet her and that I hoped she had a nice time. She said that she did enjoy it. Am I expected to make the next move for a second date? Yes. And you did everything just right and a kiss on the cheek is just right. Now, ask her out again within the next few days. 2
Author greenman77 Posted November 10, 2014 Author Posted November 10, 2014 You guys are making my head explode haha!
irresolute Posted November 10, 2014 Posted November 10, 2014 Fondue, just by looking at your face pic on your profile I can tell you are overly complicated and difficult man to deal with. I'd never go on a date with you :S I like men that are simple. You like the girl, invite her. Do not overthink, do not play hard to get. show her you like her. It's a second date! You are still in the process of knowing each other! Let the hard to get thing for when you know you have her at your feet. But now, text her. You don't have her, yet. 1
xxoo Posted November 10, 2014 Posted November 10, 2014 Was the date Sat? Then today marks two days. Good enough. Call her and invite her out again.
Author greenman77 Posted November 10, 2014 Author Posted November 10, 2014 Was the date Sat? Then today marks two days. Good enough. Call her and invite her out again. The date was last night (Sunday).
Fondue Posted November 10, 2014 Posted November 10, 2014 Fondue, just by looking at your face pic on your profile I can tell you are overly complicated and difficult man to deal with. I'd never go on a date with you :S I like men that are simple. You like the girl, invite her. Do not overthink, do not play hard to get. show her you like her. It's a second date! You are still in the process of knowing each other! Let the hard to get thing for when you know you have her at your feet. But now, text her. You don't have her, yet. But even if you wanted to, I'm already taken! And she quite adores my OVERLY COMPLICATED self . He's not being hard to deal with by taking TWO days to invite her on another date. Give the woman a minute to breathe. I'd be willing to bet a fair share of a women would like a little break between the dates. 1
martaldn Posted November 10, 2014 Posted November 10, 2014 The date was last night (Sunday). Just keep chatting with her the next couple of days and see how things go then if u want to see her again and she seems intersted then yes! Ask her out again! 2
losangelena Posted November 10, 2014 Posted November 10, 2014 Just keep chatting with her the next couple of days and see how things go then if u want to see her again and she seems intersted then yes! Ask her out again! I agree with this. You don't have to ask her out again straight away, but drop her some sort of line letting her know you're thinking about her. If she liked you and had a good time, she'll be happy to hear from you. 2
Author greenman77 Posted November 10, 2014 Author Posted November 10, 2014 Just keep chatting with her the next couple of days and see how things go then if u want to see her again and she seems intersted then yes! Ask her out again! Thanks I think I will do that. I'll text her in a little bit.
Mrin Posted November 10, 2014 Posted November 10, 2014 OP's story in beer: So I am at a football game. It is really sunny and hot. It is a good game and I am getting thirsty. I saw this beer guy and waved at him. He gave me a frosty beer. Dude, I swear, it tasted so good. Epic beer-age was had. I want another. Here he comes again. Think I should tell him I want another 12 ounces of frosty goodness or should just let him pass and sell the beer to someone else. I mean, I don't want him to think I really want the beer and perhaps am now mulling a wine cooler... Order up another brotha! Best of luck!
sagamore Posted November 10, 2014 Posted November 10, 2014 Honestly, if a woman really likes a guy on the first date, she's going to say an enthusiastic yes whether he calls her 12, 24, 48 or 72 hours later. If she's on the fence, well, she's on the fence. And a day's margin isn't really going to matter much. Good luck! Glad she turned out to be cute. I liked reading your update. 3
ScreaminEagle Posted November 10, 2014 Posted November 10, 2014 Try and maintain some sort of consistent communication, but don't come off as needy or overly anxious. Her answers to the flow of the conversation should give you some sort of hint if she is game to see you again. I don't believe in the three day rule. A lot can happen in three days. You live once, play your cards right. 1
ScreaminEagle Posted November 10, 2014 Posted November 10, 2014 Example: You: Hey there how was your day? Her: Great, and yours ? You: I got a case of the Monday's, but other then that I am ok. Her: Haha I definitely know that feeling. You: So anything exciting happen today ? Her: Yes my co-worker burped really loud at work! You: That's hilarious, btw it was really nice meeting you. Good flow of conversation, she is interested You: Hey there how was your day? Her: (Long Response Time) Ok You: I got a case of the Monday's, but other then that I am ok. Her: Cool End the convo here, she is acting aloof and uninterested. Just an example. 1
mortensorchid Posted November 10, 2014 Posted November 10, 2014 Wait 24 hours then contact again. And do it via phone call not text, otherwise it could fizzle and die. If the man is truly interested he will call rather than text, even in this technology driven age we live in. You do like this girl, don't you? Because if you are one of those who wait a week or so afterwards, I know that you were mildly interested, there might be a 2nd get together, but after the 2nd get together I will never hear from that person again. 1
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