Oahu88 Posted November 10, 2014 Posted November 10, 2014 Hi guys. I would really appreciate any advice you can give me!!! I am 26 years old, female, and I broke up with my boyfriend of almost 3 years about a week ago. We did not have a good relationship and I could not see myself marrying him anymore. Plus, he lied to me again, which was the final straw. On top of the heartache I am feeling, I do not know what to do about my living situation. I was not on his lease and only lived there for 2 months. I used to have a nice apartment for only 800 a month, but gave that up to live with him...horrible idea. All of my stuff is still at his place. He is sleeping on my bed and using my couches. My other furniture is in a storage locker we are sharing. Our cat is still there as well. He still owes me the money I gave him for November rent, since I haven't been there one day in November. I keep waiting for him to tell me he is moving and that I need to have my stuff out. I would have to hire movers to get my stuff from his place and the storage locker. Right now I am staying at my mom's place. She is fairly close by and told me that I can move back home to save up money for a year or so, if I want to. I am 26 and only have about 10K saved up right now (not including 401K). I realize this is not much, and I would like to get a new car in the future. I also think it might be good to start saving for a down payment on a condo/town home. However, I am not sure if it would be wise to buy at my age and considering that I will be single. I also have the option of getting my own place again. The issue is that rent is insane right now. I am probably looking at $900-1000 for a one-bedroom where I live. The other main issue is our cat. We both paid for his stuff, but I am the one who takes care of him. I pay for his insurance and vet visits. I feed him, change litter, brush him, etc. So, he is basically my cat. The last time we broke up I took the cat. The issue though is that he still has his claws. My mom has my cat from college (without claws). I gave her to my mom because I joined a sorority and they didn't allow cats. I wanted to take her back after I graduated, but my mom was too attached. I am worried that the two cats may not get along. I am also worried about his claws. He is 6 years old and does scratch at the furniture and carpet. My mom wants me to get him de-clawed. I used to not think anything of it, but now I am horribly against it. I have heard about the Kitty Soft Paws that you glue on their nails and was thinking about trying this product. It would kill me to declaw him. It would also kill me to give him to Chris or a shelter. I love that cat, he is like my child. I feel very pressured because any day he could tell me that I have to have my stuff out immediately. Should I get my own place, or go to my mom's to save up? If I move to my mom's place, should I get a huge storage locker for my furniture? Or, just sell it? What should I do about my CAT? I am in some serious need of advice! Thank you!!!!
Zahara Posted November 10, 2014 Posted November 10, 2014 Ugh. Seriously. What are the chances It's happened a few times since I've been on this site. I'm sorry.
lemonsugar Posted November 10, 2014 Posted November 10, 2014 Two options either talk it out. Or you could do songs like the FURB and earn money. Either way you are both hurting and need to work through it
NopeNah Posted November 10, 2014 Posted November 10, 2014 It's happened a few times since I've been on this site. I'm sorry. I've heard of it, but never witnessed it.
Author Oahu88 Posted November 10, 2014 Author Posted November 10, 2014 This is the SECOND time this has happened! It happened just a week ago on another forum. The funny thing is, we are both not big on forums. I just got rid of my other forum and joined this one. What are the chances!?!?!?! I even tried to not join a really popular one. I guess I just have to give up on getting advice from others Denverdude - I am really really sorry you are hurting. No, I did not go out and "party" with my single friends. I have been working out and staying in with my mom. I would not do that. I would hope you would think more highly of me. Now you know my situation, so I guess there is no need to text you about it.
lemonsugar Posted November 10, 2014 Posted November 10, 2014 This is the SECOND time this has happened! It happened just a week ago on another forum. The funny thing is, we are both not big on forums. I just got rid of my other forum and joined this one. What are the chances!?!?!?! I even tried to not join a really popular one. I guess I just have to give up on getting advice from others Denverdude - I am really really sorry you are hurting. No, I did not go out and "party" with my single friends. I have been working out and staying in with my mom. I would not do that. I would hope you would think more highly of me. Now you know my situation, so I guess there is no need to text you about it. My advice is to try get through it one day at a time. Just maybe worth talking to each other just to sort logistics out . Then both walk away and don't look back
Author Oahu88 Posted November 10, 2014 Author Posted November 10, 2014 I really do need advice. So if anyone can personal message me that would be great. Thanks.
NopeNah Posted November 10, 2014 Posted November 10, 2014 I believe there's a post count limit before you can send/receive PM's.
Mi7522 Posted November 10, 2014 Posted November 10, 2014 I really do need advice. So if anyone can personal message me that would be great. Thanks. Why don't you two just be mature adults about things and talk it through? Probably will be beneficial for both of you
Arieswoman Posted November 10, 2014 Posted November 10, 2014 Oahu88, All I can suggest is that if he won't pay you the money he owes you then you take him to the Small Claims Court. Good Luck.
Rainah Posted November 11, 2014 Posted November 11, 2014 If you have good friends you can pay rent to for a while until you get on your feet that's always a good start.
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