hawx79 Posted November 10, 2014 Posted November 10, 2014 If I refuse a girl to have sex with as long as possible, would that make her want me more?
greenemerald Posted November 10, 2014 Posted November 10, 2014 Is that a serious question? No, it doesn't. It will make her think that you're not really interested. 6
Author hawx79 Posted November 10, 2014 Author Posted November 10, 2014 Is that a serious question? No, it doesn't. It will make her think that you're not really interested. Yeah it is serious. Cause I presume she would think I respect her and love her not for her body but her inner being.
TigerLilly78 Posted November 10, 2014 Posted November 10, 2014 Yeah it is serious. Cause I presume she would think I respect her and love her not for her body but her inner being. I see what ur saying and its a nobel idea only thing is it could backfire and make the girl think your not intrested you would have to communicate to her why your waiting cause you respect her and want it to be special...
smackie9 Posted November 10, 2014 Posted November 10, 2014 Why? because it tells me you are insecure, and controlling. The role on who decides when sex happens still falls upon the woman not the man, unless it was for religious/medical reasons. BTW it's the opposite for women. We feel more of an emotional bond through sex. Women withhold sex to assure respect and good intentions. Feelings just happen on their own, you have no control over that...no one does.
Assasda Posted November 10, 2014 Posted November 10, 2014 It depends on how interested the girl is in you. It also depends on the reason why you wont have sex with her. If you have no real reasons and is just trying some game, I dont think it'll work
irresolute Posted November 10, 2014 Posted November 10, 2014 I'd dump you in a second. I hate overly nice guys, they are plainly boriiiiing 1
mammasita Posted November 10, 2014 Posted November 10, 2014 It really depends. If you wait too long, she might think you have a micro-penis. 3
Author hawx79 Posted November 10, 2014 Author Posted November 10, 2014 I'd dump you in a second. I hate overly nice guys, they are plainly boriiiiing And I don't like mean sluts, sorry. Anyway, is there something wrong with me that I just don't have a high sex drive? I would only want to if I'm passionately in love and if she makes the first move.
NJ123 Posted November 10, 2014 Posted November 10, 2014 And I don't like mean sluts, sorry. Anyway, is there something wrong with me that I just don't have a high sex drive? I would only want to if I'm passionately in love and if she makes the first move. Oh God, the popcorn is getting ready. 2
ScreaminEagle Posted November 10, 2014 Posted November 10, 2014 And I don't like mean sluts, sorry. Anyway, is there something wrong with me that I just don't have a high sex drive? I would only want to if I'm passionately in love and if she makes the first move. First off, there is no need to throw that word around. That is just plain rude. Secondly, you are acting like a boy, not a man. A real man knows when the proper time is to have sex, not withhold it because you think she will like you more. Grow up. If you wait for her to make the first move, well keep on waiting, I will wait for the thread where she dumped you and found someone who wasn't a manipulator. 2
NJ123 Posted November 10, 2014 Posted November 10, 2014 I'd dump you in a second. I hate overly nice guys, they are plainly boriiiiing So, what type of guys do you like? I'm assuming a mix of "bad boy" & "nice guy"?
sagamore Posted November 10, 2014 Posted November 10, 2014 Well, hawx, it's your lucky day - because I'm here to give you the secret to understanding women. Are you ready? Here goes... ...the secret is, we're all different people. Just like men! Some of us love sex and would happily jump into bed with you on the first date. Others of us, like you, have lower sex drives or are less motivated by sex. So we may want to wait longer. And some women don't want sex at all. Just like some men don't want sex at all! The key to making a woman love you is to be a man worth loving. And that involves getting to know her as a person and loving her for who she is. Do that, and you can't go wrong, no matter when you have sex. 5
Priv Posted November 10, 2014 Posted November 10, 2014 It really depends. If you wait too long, she might think you have a micro-penis. Why do I have this feeling this is based on experience? Does this work the other way around as well? Starting off with sex makes her think I have a huuuuuuuuge schlong. Oh never mind. Either scenario will just result in disappointment. 2
most_distant_galaxy Posted November 10, 2014 Posted November 10, 2014 Sure! Also keep the golden penis out of her reach every time you feel she doesnt love you enough or she cooks a boring dish. 1
Georgia2014 Posted November 10, 2014 Posted November 10, 2014 First off, there is no need to throw that word around. That is just plain rude. Secondly, you are acting like a boy, not a man. A real man knows when the proper time is to have sex, not withhold it because you think she will like you more. Grow up. If you wait for her to make the first move, well keep on waiting, I will wait for the thread where she dumped you and found someone who wasn't a manipulator. He had every right to use the word slut it's called freedom of speech.
icecold11 Posted November 10, 2014 Posted November 10, 2014 If I refuse a girl to have sex with as long as possible, would that make her want me more? Imo, no. Every girl is different. Girls from what I have known, don't like it when you "fold out on sex" for a long time. They just like it when a guy isn't rushing to get in her pants day one. Because then it is obvious he is only wanting her for sex.
ScreaminEagle Posted November 10, 2014 Posted November 10, 2014 He had every right to use the word slut it's called freedom of speech. It is rude and disrespectful to call another female forum member a slut, especially when he has no basis to do so. Freedom of speech or not, that is an indicator on how he treats women. 4
icecold11 Posted November 10, 2014 Posted November 10, 2014 Imo, no. Every girl is different. Girls from what I have known, don't like it when you "fold out on sex" for a long time. They just like it when a guy isn't rushing to get in her pants day one. Because then it is obvious he is only wanting her for sex. *HOLD I meant
TigerLilly78 Posted November 10, 2014 Posted November 10, 2014 Why? because it tells me you are insecure, and controlling. The role on who decides when sex happens still falls upon the woman not the man, unless it was for religious/medical reasons. BTW it's the opposite for women. We feel more of an emotional bond through sex. Women withhold sex to assure respect and good intentions. Feelings just happen on their own, you have no control over that...no one does. Um I thought it was when both parties wanted it?? Not all women "bond" thu sex for some sex is a part of a relashionship not the glue that holds it together the bonding is done even before we decide to have sex.. Are you religious? Serious question. I have the same views kinda as the OP if im reading him right in wanting to wait until the relationship is stable and meaningful and im def not religious..maybe he is who knows but people can have this view and not be just saying... I find it interesting the OP just said he wanted to wait to have sex with his gf so she wouldn't think he was just using her for her body or sex alone and hes been jumped on and called everything under the sun.. 2
Author hawx79 Posted November 10, 2014 Author Posted November 10, 2014 Are you religious? Serious question. Not really more into spiritualism. But just like Tigerlilly78 said, I just rather wait until the relationship is solid.
CoolCat771 Posted November 11, 2014 Posted November 11, 2014 Not really more into spiritualism. But just like Tigerlilly78 said, I just rather wait until the relationship is solid. How long have you been making her wait?
Anderlie Posted November 11, 2014 Posted November 11, 2014 OP you're being a sneaky little sneak aren't you? Holding out on sex because you claim it will make a woman love you more and in the next post saying you're doing it so she will think you respect her. Don't those two ideas seem kind of incongruous? Don't pretend like you respect a woman if you're withholding something from her for your own benefit. Try this: be honest and do it early. If you have a low sex drive and want to wait for a relationship to be real then say so. That is a million times more respectful to your potential partner than playing silly manipulative games. Having a low sex drive can be a very big deal in a relationship if your partner has a high libido so at least then you can ensure there's a match before the emotional investment and potential fallout.
SawtoothMars Posted November 11, 2014 Posted November 11, 2014 If I refuse a girl to have sex with as long as possible, would that make her want me more? Maybe years and years ago this might have been true... but not today. If you don't at least attempt some form of date rape upon first meeting her... she is going to assume you are gay... or not into her. Seriously had a friend who caught a guy putting something into her drink. She felt that proved he was really into her.
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