DS482 Posted November 10, 2014 Posted November 10, 2014 Hi, my story is strange in all honesty. I'd like to consider myself a pretty smart gal who knows a guy's intentions, but at this point I'm lost. A few key points, we met three years ago. He became recently single from a bad relationship in January or so ", and I became single from a bad relationship around April. We started talking in June. We've "talked" 4 times (going on dates, purely platonic at that point). After each time he stops talking to me after about a week. About a week ago, he explained to me that he stops talking to me because he really likes me and he wants to be my boyfriend however I have a daughter and he doesn't want to get attached to us or vice versa, and then maybe someday leave, but at the same time he likes me so much and I'm perfect for him so he wants to do it anyways. We hung out every day last week, he took me on dates, told me how much he likes me, then 4 nights ago we kiss (literally that's it) and then he asks me to be his girlfriend. I said no, we should wait. Hangs out with me again, we make out, then I go home. Next day doesn't text me at all but is liking my pictures on social media. Later that night I say a very small thing, he freaks out about me being jealous, I apologize, then an hour later I get a legitimate 10 page novel on why I can't be his girlfriend and how he can't talk to me anymore.. Blah blah blah and he blocks me on text and social media. Uhm what the actual f***
Toodaloo Posted November 10, 2014 Posted November 10, 2014 Later that night I say a very small thing, he freaks out about me being jealous, I apologize, then an hour later I get a legitimate 10 page novel on why I can't be his girlfriend and how he can't talk to me anymore.. Blah blah blah and he blocks me on text and social media. Uhm what the actual f*** Strange chap... Probably best it didn't go further if you have young children. Be grateful of you escape from the madness. Use your delete button where possible! At least he ran off now rather than you have to try and figure out how to tell him to leave later!!!
greenemerald Posted November 10, 2014 Posted November 10, 2014 This guy is a nutcase. Be glad you realized it now and not later (after being in a relationship for a while, introducing him to your daughter etc.) and cut him off. He sounds extremely immature.
Art_Critic Posted November 10, 2014 Posted November 10, 2014 not really sure what was in the 10 page letter but I have 2 minds on this.. One.. he was going to hit it and quit it and once he realized that wasn't going to happen on your end he did the scorched earth policy on you. or two... he back burnered you once you said no to being his GF and either his ego couldn't take it or he asked someone else who said yes... Either way.. be glad to be gone with him.
Author DS482 Posted November 10, 2014 Author Posted November 10, 2014 You know, Im not a guy, but I feel like if his intentions were to hit it and quit it he wouldn't have told his friends I was his girlfriend. Also I feel like you don't write a ten page letter (regardless of what it says) to someone you don't genuinely have feelings for. Half of it was good, half bad. He got his heart broken in January too, which is why I suspected running away?
Art_Critic Posted November 10, 2014 Posted November 10, 2014 do you think he wrote the letter for you or maybe do a cut and paste from a previous time/person and he adapted it for you... point being he may not have had that much time wrapped up in it as you think.
Author DS482 Posted November 10, 2014 Author Posted November 10, 2014 Oh no it was definitely for me. I've known him for three years and he's a sort of emotional type. Creative more than anything. He never tried to hAve sex with me, or even ask. He said he really liked me. This is confusing. Oh and maybe this will make more sense? I'm 21 and he's 24
smackie9 Posted November 10, 2014 Posted November 10, 2014 I think the letter was more for him than you. He was just convincing himself how, despite his feelings for you, the child is a barrier not to mention his breakup. He's not ready to take on such a relationship that involves a child.
Georgia2014 Posted November 10, 2014 Posted November 10, 2014 He probably got upset because you kept rejecting him even after he told you how he felt. Yet at the same time you kept on seeing him after rejecting him.
Assasda Posted November 10, 2014 Posted November 10, 2014 He's an emotional wreck. Thats the long and short of it. -If a guy is trying to lock you down as his girlfriend immediately, he has serious insecurity issues
acrosstheuniverse Posted November 10, 2014 Posted November 10, 2014 I have no advice. I just wanted to say I like the little running man in the post's title.
Thegreatestthing Posted November 10, 2014 Posted November 10, 2014 Forget him,he can't make up his mind , I mean if he just stops talking after a week and does it constantly he will likely continue to dick you around and your emotions will be at his mercy. at least the ten page letter shows that he does actually care, he just doesn't see it working out. Hi, my story is strange in all honesty. I'd like to consider myself a pretty smart gal who knows a guy's intentions, but at this point I'm lost. A few key points, we met three years ago. He became recently single from a bad relationship in January or so ", and I became single from a bad relationship around April. We started talking in June. We've "talked" 4 times (going on dates, purely platonic at that point). After each time he stops talking to me after about a week. About a week ago, he explained to me that he stops talking to me because he really likes me and he wants to be my boyfriend however I have a daughter and he doesn't want to get attached to us or vice versa, and then maybe someday leave, but at the same time he likes me so much and I'm perfect for him so he wants to do it anyways. We hung out every day last week, he took me on dates, told me how much he likes me, then 4 nights ago we kiss (literally that's it) and then he asks me to be his girlfriend. I said no, we should wait. Hangs out with me again, we make out, then I go home. Next day doesn't text me at all but is liking my pictures on social media. Later that night I say a very small thing, he freaks out about me being jealous, I apologize, then an hour later I get a legitimate 10 page novel on why I can't be his girlfriend and how he can't talk to me anymore.. Blah blah blah and he blocks me on text and social media. Uhm what the actual f***
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