Darren2013 Posted November 10, 2014 Posted November 10, 2014 (edited) I think this is another rule I will put into effect for myself is no dating women on Fridays or Saturdays. Actually it is very important to have no contact with women on those 2 days. Doc Love explains this rule and I think it is another good way to work challenge. Until a woman actually expresses interest in becoming my exclusive girlfriend then I will ask her out only on Sundays through Thursdays. Friday and Saturday nights are off limits and very sacred. For me those are guys nights out. I won't even ask for a woman's phone number on those nights. The idea is to generate mystery in her mind and make her wonder what I do on those 2 nights. I mean most people go out on dates during the weekends so if she notices a pattern that I only take her out on weekdays then she may wonder if I have a girlfriend on those nights or if I have a secret wife I haven't told her about. That's the idea. Avoiding contact with her on those 2 days is another way to gauge her interest in me. If she is not interested and only sees me as a friend then she won't care what I am doing on those nights. If she is interested then at some point she is going to call me out and say "I just noticed something. How come you never take me out on Fridays or Saturdays? You always ask me out for the weeknights but not the weekends". Then I tell her I am busy on those nights. I don't volunteer any details or specifics. I keep it general and say I am busy and then change the subject. The subject will be diverting interest back to her life such as "So tell me about your day at work" or if she had talked about certain problems at work before I might ask "your boss still giving you a hard time and showing favoritism" such and such. I change the subject to something that will hopefully distract her attention away from why I haven't been taking her out on weekends. I don't want to talk about it until such time she communicates that she is ready to be my girlfriend. Quite frankly if she has not yet made any mention about wanting to be exclusive then it is a safe presumption that we are both still free to see other people anyway and what I may or may not do on Fridays or Saturdays is none of her business anyway unless she makes it clear she wants to explore being exclusive with me. So there's alot of good reasons for this rule. If I have been on 4 or 5 dates with her once a week and she hasn't asked to talk to me about where this is going then it is a safe presumption that I cannot expect her to not see other guys while she is seeing me and vice versa. We are both free to see others until further notice such as her asking me where do we stand or where is this going or what are my intentions with her? If she starts asking me what my intentions are then I am put on the spot. My answer would be "That depends on you. What are your intentions?" If she asks if I am seeing anyone else then I say "Do you want me to see anybody else?" I'm not going to tell her yes or no. Edited November 10, 2014 by Darren2013
Art_Critic Posted November 10, 2014 Posted November 10, 2014 Obviously you can do whatever you like.. but me.. when I was single and dating I would have picked a nice smelling woman rather than a stinky guy friend to spend my Friday and Saturday night with... Something to remember, while you are out with the guys on Friday and Saturday night the girl is out with the guys too !!! Seems more like a game that puts you on the losers end of the scale rather than one that places you in the winners circle.. To each his own though.... Do you go to church on Sundays ? ..many people don't have time to date on the weekdays so Friday-Sunday is the only time and if they go to church then they aren't going to be dating for lunch on Sunday.
PegNosePete Posted November 10, 2014 Posted November 10, 2014 Lame PUA tactic. Hey if it works then more power to you but I think any mature, respectable woman would be severely put off by this kind of stupid game. 1
newmoon Posted November 10, 2014 Posted November 10, 2014 i don't know how old you are, but it is these types of immature games that will put someone off and make them less interested in you, not more.
Author Darren2013 Posted November 10, 2014 Author Posted November 10, 2014 Obviously you can do whatever you like.. but me.. when I was single and dating I would have picked a nice smelling woman rather than a stinky guy friend to spend my Friday and Saturday night with... Something to remember, while you are out with the guys on Friday and Saturday night the girl is out with the guys too !!! Seems more like a game that puts you on the losers end of the scale rather than one that places you in the winners circle.. To each his own though.... Do you go to church on Sundays ? ..many people don't have time to date on the weekdays so Friday-Sunday is the only time and if they go to church then they aren't going to be dating for lunch on Sunday. Many people go out to lunch after church on Sundays so a lunch date on Sunday can work provided it is enough time to get home before dark.
Shepp Posted November 10, 2014 Posted November 10, 2014 You plan so far into the future in such precise detail Darren! Out of interest - all this she'll say this and then I'll say that - how often has that ever actually played out like you plan in your head? At least in every bit of experience of life I've had so far it just has a way of never following the script.. and if you rely so heavily on the role play in your head your just setting yourself up to fail! A girl told me once that she day dreamed, as folk do, of elaborate circumstances where their would be a near disaster but luckily she would be able to avert it, be a hero - save the day if you will, but that she never got the opportunity and that I had a way of simply being in the right place at the right time...........but the truth is opportunities all around you, constantly, she was just too wrapped up in the imaginary too see what was right in front of her. I think if you look too far in the future you blind yourself to the opportunities In the here and now.. conversations that aren't let downs in comparison to the pre planned version but are natural and spontaneous..
clia Posted November 10, 2014 Posted November 10, 2014 On the positive side, she'll be free to go on dates with men who are actually serious about her on Friday and Saturday nights! 7
mammasita Posted November 10, 2014 Posted November 10, 2014 Then she'll find someone else willing to take her out on Friday and Saturday and not play some lame ass game 2
BlueIris Posted November 10, 2014 Posted November 10, 2014 I guess it depends on your goal. I’m kind of surprised by how many pro-PUA and "tactics" posters seem to just want a tension-filled dynamic, a fencing match, or some kind of victory over the women they want to date. I’m not even sure that they want to date these women. They just seem to want to win something, some contest, and the dating gets swallowed up or overshadowed by the power struggle or competition mindset. I don't think it is even about getting laid. It confuses me!! But if your goal is to not date women on Fridays and Saturdays, and that makes you feel good, have at it.
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