kgal Posted March 15, 2005 Posted March 15, 2005 I've been dating someone for about a month now... we say we're bf and gf.. but lately he's been distant. It's like he doesnt open up when we're alone.. he won't talk to me much. He just returned from a vacation in Italy.. so maybe it's just that he's tired?? I've been trying to think up excuses so I won't have to think the worst (which would be, "Is he sick of me?" "Does he want to end this?" "am I boring?") I've been wanting to talk to him about this.. but he doesnt want to hang out. Its been 3 days.. and he always says he's busy w/work or tired or has a game. I don't know.. maybe he's telling the truth.. maybe it's just me w/too much time on my hands! Ughghghgh..HELP!!!!!
LucreziaBorgia Posted March 15, 2005 Posted March 15, 2005 After only a month, that doesn't sound too good. All you can do is do some backing off of your own - and let him know to give you a call when he isn't so busy or tired. Then you'll need to find other things to occupy your time - time with friends, or doing things you like to do: pretty much anything except going out of your way to see him or talk to him. Let him guide the contact for a while, and see where he goes with it.
Author kgal Posted March 15, 2005 Author Posted March 15, 2005 That's what I think I need to do, Lucre. I will just let him direct the contact for a bit.. and see what happens. I don't want him to think that I'm "smothering" so I guess backing off will only make him miss my company.. or whatever... I just hate thinking these negative things! I have had 2 failed relationships this year, and I just don't want this one to fizzle out.
blue_eyes18 Posted March 15, 2005 Posted March 15, 2005 Hey, I know whatcha mean. I am going through the same thing and it sux. It was only about a week or so before my guy started acting like that though. I have been getting ill and calling him though only for him to say he is busy or something. He did that all day yesterday. He made me so freakin mad!!! I have even gone as far as to tell him that if doesn't want to be together or something, just tell me and stop trying to drop hints. He said it is nothing like that, that he just needs space because he is so busy and stuff, and that if I could give him space(for whatever reason) he would show me how much he cares. Don't make a whole lotta sense. Why can't he just call me? Hell! lol I am just backing off and not calling or anything today. He hardly talks and stuff like you said aobut yours when we are around now. Wish I could tell ya what's going on, but I don't even know either. Men...lol The best thing that you could probably do, is not call yours like I made the mistake of doing, cause it may push him away. Sooooo..... just chill and let him call you, even if you don't talk for a day or two. That's what I'm gonna do. It's bound to work better than hounding him. Not saying you were dong that, but that's kinda what I was diong cause I was so pissed since I have had some bad relationships too. I definitely don't need another pissy one.
Author kgal Posted March 15, 2005 Author Posted March 15, 2005 LOL blue eyes.. what's wrong w/our men???? I think SPACE is a good thing for both of us to have. I'm gonna give him his.. and I'll just find stuff to do that makes me happy while I wait for him to call & remember he has a gf. Haha. Thanks for ur reply and I hope things get better w/u and ur bf.
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