Got it Posted November 13, 2014 Posted November 13, 2014 Hm, I'd say the same to you. You're the one who showed up acting all rude and confrontational. Yeah, and in case you haven't noticed, nobody else is bashing me or accusing me of having "preconceived notions" or some such crap. Half a man makes sense. Why, you think, as OW, that a married man is all yours? He just happens to have that little inconvenient wifey back home and a ring on his finger? Why do you care? Lets just say, its none of your business. I may or may not know some cheaters. Otherwise, everything else isn't something you need to know. Honey, I am the one with his ring on my finger. Actually, if you reread, others have suggested that you have preconceived notions. Now they may not count, being/have been OWs and all but nonetheless. You just seem very anger and argumentative about this. *shrug* Why? Or is it that you have been hurt? Why does the reasoning matter when you don't agree with it any point about it? Listen, when a BS comes on with these questions, it makes sense why they want to know and what they actually want to know/what they are working through. And I think most respond with compassion and understanding of where they are coming from. When idle curiosity strikes someone and they ask, there is a certain tone with it that makes sense. It doesn't warrant the emotion or compassion. They are more of a neutral party. You are just so anger and absolute about it, asking questions that you only diminish and denigrate the answers given, what is the point to give them? And it begs the question, why then, do you want to know? You don't agree. You don't believe. You only want to tell the person why they are wrong. Are you on some sort of witch hunt? Why should a OP or a BS spend their time, energy, and compassion and answer your questions when you are so hostile in your response? I was an OW. I was an MOW. I can give you MY reasonings. I can give you my OP's reasoning. But that doesn't mean you will agree. So it begs the question, do you want the answers. Or do you want to be right? 2
Author CrystalCastles Posted November 13, 2014 Author Posted November 13, 2014 Actually, if you reread, others have suggested that you have preconceived notions. Now they may not count, being/have been OWs and all but nonetheless. You just seem very anger and argumentative about this. *shrug* Why? Or is it that you have been hurt? Why does the reasoning matter when you don't agree with it any point about it? Listen, when a BS comes on with these questions, it makes sense why they want to know and what they actually want to know/what they are working through. And I think most respond with compassion and understanding of where they are coming from. When idle curiosity strikes someone and they ask, there is a certain tone with it that makes sense. It doesn't warrant the emotion or compassion. They are more of a neutral party. You are just so anger and absolute about it, asking questions that you only diminish and denigrate the answers given, what is the point to give them? And it begs the question, why then, do you want to know? You don't agree. You don't believe. You only want to tell the person why they are wrong. Are you on some sort of witch hunt? Why should a OP or a BS spend their time, energy, and compassion and answer your questions when you are so hostile in your response? I was an OW. I was an MOW. I can give you MY reasonings. I can give you my OP's reasoning. But that doesn't mean you will agree. So it begs the question, do you want the answers. Or do you want to be right? Why do you automatically assume I am hurt? You don't know me, you don't know my life, so don't assume. I've never been involved with married men, I believe I already said that. I have no interest in starting an affair, and I'm happily in a relationship with an available man, thanks. You were the rude and aggressive one jumping down my throat. As I mentioned, I am asking for clarification based on what people have stated in the OW/OM forum. I have no "preconceived" notions, but I am free to decide what my opinion should be after reading the responses in this thread.
Got it Posted November 13, 2014 Posted November 13, 2014 Why do you automatically assume I am hurt? You don't know me, you don't know my life, so don't assume. I've never been involved with married men, I believe I already said that. I have no interest in starting an affair, and I'm happily in a relationship with an available man, thanks. You were the rude and aggressive one jumping down my throat. As I mentioned, I am asking for clarification based on what people have stated in the OW/OM forum. I have no "preconceived" notions, but I am free to decide what my opinion should be after reading the responses in this thread. I didn't assume you were hurt. I asked a question about it along with many other questions. There is a massive difference.
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