Mystic Dreamer Posted November 9, 2014 Posted November 9, 2014 Me and this guy have gotten back in touch and started dating again in the beginning of Sept of this year. We met back in 2009 and became close friends. We went out together, talked all the time and invited me to hang out with his close friends on occasions. We dated briefly in 2010 but it never got serious. I think part of the reason was that we were both fresh out of break ups and still had feelings for our exes. We just basically drifted and the contact just died slowly; no hard feelings etc. He reached out to me in Sept, both single again but not freshly single, and we started talking again. This time we laid everything out on the table and we both decided to give it a go and start fresh. From there everything was wonderful; he is sweet and overly affectionate, we always checked on each other every morning and ask how our day went every night (50/50 communication) we always complement each other, we go out on plenty of dates and had so much fun and see each other as much as we can. And if there was an issue we always talked about it. He said that's its amazing that we don't have any issues and he said it's perfect. Well last Sunday when he woke up and left my house he said he wasn't feeling well. When I checked on him that same night he said he was resting and if it gets worse he's going to the doctor. I offered to come with him if he goes and he just said thanks. I didn't hear from him the next day. Tuesday when we spoke I asked him was everything ok and told him he was being distant. He said it was because he was sick and he left work early yesterday. I just said ok and take it easy. I spoke to him briefly on Wednesday and he said he was feeling much better. Thursday when we spoke I asked him was everything ok and when's the next time I'm going to see him and I miss him and he said "soon". I told him that he wasn't acting the same and still being distant. I complained that the contact is still the same but lately for the past 2 weeks he hasn't been the one asking to see each other. He agreed and said fine ok. I wasn't expecting for us to see each other over the weekend because it was both of our mothers birthdays and we had plans of our own. I spoke to him very briefly on Friday and that's it. Yesterday afternoon, as I was going down my Instagram timeline, on my activity feed I saw that he left a comment under some girl's picture. I clicked on the picture and saw that he was congratulating this girl on her weight lost. Then she mentioned about wishing she could eat ihop and he says "ihop for you whenever and free". Then he says "let me know I'll pick you up, love you bye". I took a picture of it and immediately sent it to him. I asked him was this the reason you were distant because you had another girl. He laughs and says this is the funniest thing he woke up to. He told me he wasn't going to respond until she texts him back. A few mins later he puts me in a group chat with me and her with the picture and our convo! (Who does that?!) She says that this is clearly a misunderstanding and that social media can be so much drama nowadays. She says in the group chat that shes getting ready for a date and he told her to have fun. I said not one word because I thought the whole thing was stupid. He asked me why I didn't say anything and he put me in the chat for a reason. I told him that I had no issue with her and she doesn't know me so I had no business questioning her. I asked him who was she then and he says that she's a girl that one of his best friends used to date. He said she was like a sister to him. From then I felt disturbed and uncomfortable. I asked him how would he like if I asked his best friend out to eat and he didn't answer. I told him "I would never hang out with my best friend's boyfriends or exes and would never hang out with another guy if I dating someone I really like but I guess we don't see eye to eye on this so we will just agree to disagree". I told him I'm extremely bothered and uncomfortable about this. He goes "Smh ok. Have a good night". Then I just told him goodnight. Then he just texts back "smh" I haven't heard from him today. I don't know what to think other than the fact the I feel uncomfortable about that whole thing. I don't know what's going to happen next or if we will break up, if we didn't already. What should I do?
smackie9 Posted November 9, 2014 Posted November 9, 2014 He made it clear he isn't willing to drop all his female friends just because you two are dating. If you have a problem with this, then it wasn't meant to be. Find someone else.
smackie9 Posted November 9, 2014 Posted November 9, 2014 SMH....obviously he finds your reaction about this ridiculous and is disappointed.
Recommended Posts