Emily8 Posted November 9, 2014 Posted November 9, 2014 My man tracks my cell phone calls, location, and text messages. How can I get him to trust me? I love my man very much. We started dating about eight months ago. At that time I was separated from my husband and he already had a girlfriend for about 10 years. I legally divorced my husband so that I can be with this man. We started sleeping together at the workplace after he gave me some advice about a difficult situation. I gave him permission to be able to use And install a cell phone monitoring device to track everything on my phone so he can learn to trust me. Since we have been together I have messed up with a few things by lying about some serious stuff and I know that, however, he still loves his current girlfriend while he's dating me and I want him to make a decision. He keeps telling me how much he loves me and that we have a magical connection and he also wants to date for a little while before he gets married. I'm trying very hard especially since he's tracking cell phone to be honest and tell the truth about everything. how can I get him to trust me? I deserve him and he deserves me and I need him to make a decision and leave his girlfriend once and for all for me? I'm in love with him deeply and said he can see a future with me and I know I can see one with him at times but I feel frustrated and confused.
sagamore Posted November 9, 2014 Posted November 9, 2014 This is a complete clusterf*ck. Am I reading correctly that he is tracking you by GPS and asking you to justify your whereabouts...while he is dating someone else?? And the someone else is a long term girlfriend of a decade? Good god, woman -- GET OUT of this relationship now. This guy sounds like an abusive serial womanizer. Run. Now. 2
Tayken Posted November 9, 2014 Posted November 9, 2014 This is a complete clusterf*ck. Am I reading correctly that he is tracking you by GPS and asking you to justify your whereabouts...while he is dating someone else?? And the someone else is a long term girlfriend of a decade? Good god, woman -- GET OUT of this relationship now. This guy sounds like an abusive serial womanizer. Run. Now. I concur...this is the type of guy that turns into the "if I can't have her, nobody else will" type in the future.
Author Emily8 Posted November 9, 2014 Author Posted November 9, 2014 I love him so much and I'm in so deeply that I don't even know how to begin to walk away. He's tried to end it with me twice already and I have begged him to give me another chance because I have prayed and sometimes when I'm not confused I feel like it is meant to be...
Brooke02 Posted November 9, 2014 Posted November 9, 2014 I love him so much and I'm in so deeply that I don't even know how to begin to walk away. He's tried to end it with me twice already and I have begged him to give me another chance because I have prayed and sometimes when I'm not confused I feel like it is meant to be... You need to leave this guy and get counseling, this is NOT a heathy relationship at all! Tracking you, really? Without trust you got nothing. You need to move on.
Thegreatestthing Posted November 9, 2014 Posted November 9, 2014 F-ck him you are not his to own,do as you please,tell him you want all tracking devices removed,get thee liberty!
curlygirl40 Posted November 9, 2014 Posted November 9, 2014 I'm having a bit of a hard time taking this post seriously there's so my dysfunction here I can't help but think you're making it up. But on the off chance that you're serious you need some serious counseling. There is NO WAY this will end well. NO way. What do you imagine that he will leave his girlfriend and you'll live happily ever after? He's a cheater. He's a control freak. That's your prize. You need some help and you need to get rid of him and have some respect for yourself. 3
Author Emily8 Posted November 9, 2014 Author Posted November 9, 2014 I know seems unbelievable but I swear every word of it is true. He said he might be able to learn to trust me one day. He has met my entire family and I haven't met any of his family yet and none of my friends or family know the entire story behind our relationship but a part of me was hoping that there could be some hope in the future for us to move past this and have a future
curlygirl40 Posted November 9, 2014 Posted November 9, 2014 I know seems unbelievable but I swear every word of it is true. He said he might be able to learn to trust me one day. He has met my entire family and I haven't met any of his family yet and none of my friends or family know the entire story behind our relationship but a part of me was hoping that there could be some hope in the future for us to move past this and have a future Do you realize how unhealthy this is? And believe me, the fact that he doesn't trust you is the least of your issues right now. He has a girlfriend. You should visit the OM/OW section of these boards. Read all of the stories from so many broken hearted women who are in relationships with men who have wives or girlfriends. It doesn't end well for most of them. He's not going to leave her. Why should he? He has her and he has you. And he has complete control of you as you've proven you won't go anywhere since he's left you and you have begged him to come back. You need to believe that you are better than that. There are plenty of single guys out there. Find one of them. See if you can find a counselor to talk to. And try to gather the strength to dump this guy.
Mirages Posted November 9, 2014 Posted November 9, 2014 Stockholm Syndrome He may likely begin to capture embarrassing, revealing moments in a format that he can threaten to use against you if you leave. I suspect that by meeting your family he is beginning that process. This is one of the few cases where immediate and full detachment is the only prudent choice. Trust is earned, not thru surveillance. Surveillance is the last straw before initiating a divorce, not the path to happiness. Run.
todreaminblue Posted November 9, 2014 Posted November 9, 2014 I love him so much and I'm in so deeply that I don't even know how to begin to walk away. He's tried to end it with me twice already and I have begged him to give me another chance because I have prayed and sometimes when I'm not confused I feel like it is meant to be... the reason why he will never trust you is because he himself is a liar and a cheat....he doesnt trust himself you yourself are knowingly having an affair with a taken man......how can he trust you...there's no trust to be had in this relationship......theres no way on earth.......or any where else...that this will work out without someone getting really really hurt.......and it wont be him who gets hurt...find a way to walk...save yourself heartache and drama.............deb
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