greenman77 Posted November 9, 2014 Posted November 9, 2014 I'm a bit baffled here. Sorry in advanced for the moaning but I just need to get this out because it's killing me lol. I know that when a girl stops messaging you back, it's a very clear message that she's giving you. She is simply not interested anymore or found someone else etc etc. I get that. But what happened doesn't make sense to me. So I've been talking to this girl on okcupid for about 2 weeks and a few days ago I messaged her asking something about a movie that's one of her favorites. She answers the question and then derails the conversation to something else completely different asking me a question and having me take a guess. It went something like this: Me: Hey so I finally saw (Movie A). What was the deal with (Character B)? He was insane! Her: I know lol. He was pretty crazy. Dude! Guess who got a new dog? Me: Really? That's awesome! What breed? And she simply doesn't answer back. That was 3 days ago. I know for a fact that she read my message and she even visited my profile yesterday. I get that if she was no longer interested she could've just simpy not respond to my message at all or simply answer my question without adding her own question. That's what's got me so baffled. What do you think? Sorry for going on and on. I just needed to get it out of my chest lol. If you read the whole thing you're a trooper. I appreciate it lol.
smackie9 Posted November 9, 2014 Posted November 9, 2014 They lose interest because you didn't have the ballz to ask them out on a date. Get to know them on dates not through texting. A girl wants a guy to make the effort to take them out, that shows confidence and true interest in them. Confidence wins the girl. 2
smackie9 Posted November 9, 2014 Posted November 9, 2014 And btw looking at that conversation....you ain't got no game.
Brooke02 Posted November 9, 2014 Posted November 9, 2014 She got bored, she lost interest. 2weeks is a long time to just msg someone. You need to move it along faster than that if you want it to go anywhere. Message her back, ask her out :-) If she doesn't respond, you know she's no longer interested. 1
Author greenman77 Posted November 9, 2014 Author Posted November 9, 2014 I did ask her out on a date a few days before that conversation. She said she wanted to get to know each other a little more before actually meeting up in person.
PogoStick Posted November 9, 2014 Posted November 9, 2014 They lose interest because you didn't have the ballz to ask them out on a date. Get to know them on dates not through texting. A girl wants a guy to make the effort to take them out, that shows confidence and true interest in them. Confidence wins the girl. There's truth to that. OP, why haven't you asked her out? When were you planning to do it? For the most part, you should ask a girl to meet as soon as possible. Getting to know someone face to face is 100x more powerful than through chatting. I won't hammer you for asking about a movie. That would be fine as a first message IMO. Though after 2 weeks, perhaps not. Interestingly, the best girl I ever met from OLD (a cute lawyer) came because I made fun of her favorite movie in my first message. It was a lame choice and I told her so. When we met she specifically mentioned that made me stand out from the other guys. It ended up playing well into her lawyer side as she tried to defend the movie and convince me that I actually liked it too.
smackie9 Posted November 9, 2014 Posted November 9, 2014 I did ask her out on a date a few days before that conversation. She said she wanted to get to know each other a little more before actually meeting up in person. Then you move on, because it's bs. Lame excuses means they are not that into you. 1
Author greenman77 Posted November 9, 2014 Author Posted November 9, 2014 There's truth to that. OP, why haven't you asked her out? When were you planning to do it? For the most part, you should ask a girl to meet as soon as possible. Getting to know someone face to face is 100x more powerful than through chatting. I won't hammer you for asking about a movie. That would be fine as a first message IMO. Though after 2 weeks, perhaps not. Interestingly, the best girl I ever met from OLD (a cute lawyer) came because I made fun of her favorite movie in my first message. It was a lame choice and I told her so. When we met she specifically mentioned that made me stand out from the other guys. It ended up playing well into her lawyer side as she tried to defend the movie and convince me that I actually liked it too. I did ask her out. Read the post above yours. I asked about the movie because we were at a point that we were talking about random crap. Even before that we would talk about whatever and still have a flowing conversation. Then you move on, because it's bs. Lame excuses means they are not that into you. Yeah that's what I'm gonna do.
smackie9 Posted November 9, 2014 Posted November 9, 2014 If the conversation doesn't turn flirty and sexual....you will get nowhere.
Tayken Posted November 9, 2014 Posted November 9, 2014 To be replaced by a dog/cat......what ends up happening to most men that put it on a pedestal.
writergal Posted November 9, 2014 Posted November 9, 2014 Then you move on, because it's bs. Lame excuses means they are not that into you. So true!! (And so annoying to deal with too).
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