Sweeetie Posted November 9, 2014 Posted November 9, 2014 I have recently moved to a new town to study a course, and I have made some nice acquaintances. There's a guy who I'm starting to get interested in who I met at the University. We only see each other once a week since we both enrolled for an ice skating class, and I get the feeling that he might like me- from the way that he looks at me and acts when I'm around. I might be wrong, I don't know, but how do I ask him out without making it seem like a date- incase I have got the wrong impression? Like, how do I ask him if he wants to meet up for a coffee or something? He's a bit shy so I don't know if he will make a move. I'm 25 and he's 27- you'd think I would know how to play the dating game by now but Im still in need of assistance for these things! 1
J21 Posted November 9, 2014 Posted November 9, 2014 I might be wrong, I don't know, but how do I ask him out without making it seem like a date- incase I have got the wrong impression? I understand why you would want to hedge yourself in case he doesn't feel the same, but I think it's better to make it clear it is a date from the start. It might lead to confusion down the line whether the relationship with you is a dating one or just "hanging out with a friend".
mortensorchid Posted November 9, 2014 Posted November 9, 2014 I have been thinking about just such a topic in the last few days/weeks. And I am almost 40. If you want to, nothing wrong with asking him for just that.
Frank2thepoint Posted November 9, 2014 Posted November 9, 2014 I'm 25 and he's 27- you'd think I would know how to play the dating game by now but Im still in need of assistance for these things! Dating shouldn't be treated as a game. At your age, I'm assuming you know how to approach a person and ask questions or start a conversation. Just do that; ask him to join you for some coffee, tea, hot cocoa, or soda pop and pizza. It is really that simple. Don't complicate it. 1
Author Sweeetie Posted November 10, 2014 Author Posted November 10, 2014 It looks like I got lucky- at the end of ice skating class today he asked me if I wanted to meet up! He said he wants to 'practise the language' though- he's Spanish and new here but has good enough English- so not sure if he likes me or not! We shall have to see
Leigh 87 Posted November 11, 2014 Posted November 11, 2014 Dating shouldn't be treated as a game. At your age, I'm assuming you know how to approach a person and ask questions or start a conversation. Just do that; ask him to join you for some coffee, tea, hot cocoa, or soda pop and pizza. It is really that simple. Don't complicate it. This. If you want something, make it known..... it's better to say a lot of " oh wells" in life, than to have a lot of " what ifs" Oh well, he may not like you like that. But, if you never go, you will never know. If he's a kind and decent person, he will graciously decline your offer to hang out.... 1
Author Sweeetie Posted November 12, 2014 Author Posted November 12, 2014 This. If you want something, make it known..... it's better to say a lot of " oh wells" in life, than to have a lot of " what ifs" Oh well, he may not like you like that. But, if you never go, you will never know. If he's a kind and decent person, he will graciously decline your offer to hang out.... Leigh good points, but I didn't need to ask him- he asked me to meet up And this one does look at me in a way that my ex never did! Haha you were so right
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