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2 dates in with 2 different girls in 1 day... first time ever

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Teknoe Established Member

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Both were first dates. And both were, at the end of the day, good but ultimately meh dates. The first has more potential than the second one. Second one I consider strictly a cool friend.

 

First one has a hint of potential, but I'm just very VERY lukewarm on her.

 

Seems like both girls like LIKE me... so I had to break some hearts by telling one at least that I just see her as a friend when she asked me how I felt about her after our date.

 

Not sure what I'm going to do with the first girl though. Whether I should see her again or not. I suppose a 2nd date wouldn't hurt, to see her in another environment other than boba tea.

 

I just wish for a change I could meet someone who knocks my socks off while they actually like me back. I've had that happen only once in my life (i.e. one girlfriend) and that was bloody 10 years ago now when I was 21. It's been quite a drought =(

 

On the 'bright' side, I've learned to come to appreciate solitude for what it is and I do like me some peace and quiet these days. I am quite content at the moment being single although it would be nice to meet someone I'm totally into that's into me back. But until that day comes again, I refuse to settle on girls I'm lukewarm on.

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Jules Dash Established Member

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I just wish for a change I could meet someone who knocks my socks off while they actually like me back. I've had that happen only once in my life (i.e. one girlfriend) and that was bloody 10 years ago now when I was 21. It's been quite a drought =(

 

On the 'bright' side, I've learned to come to appreciate solitude for what it is and I do like me some peace and quiet these days. I am quite content at the moment being single although it would be nice to meet someone I'm totally into that's into me back. But until that day comes again, I refuse to settle on girls I'm lukewarm on.

 

 

I know what you mean. It can be really tough to find a situation where you both are knocking each other"s socks off. It is much more common for things to be kind of lop-sided. Just as long as you realize this.

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Yep that's my issue as well. I've met maybe two (I think it's really just one) who has knocked my socks off in my 2.5 years of being single.

 

And of course those people didn't feel the same about me. It sucks.

 

And since I know that exists I don't want to settle for mediocre and "meh."

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I just wish for a change I could meet someone who knocks my socks off while they actually like me back.

 

You are just perpetuating an unattainable ideal that a person must create sparks for you within the first 2 minutes of meeting, otherwise you relegate to them as "average" and unworthy. You are imposing a limitation on yourself by doing this. You're not giving an "average" person a chance to amaze you.

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So you managed to have two meh experiences in one day instead of one or zero.

 

What does that get you?

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ScreaminEagle Established Member

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An ego boost w/nothing to show from it.

Fondue Established Member

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You're looking around for someone you really click with. THere's nothing wrong with that. At all.

 

Most people would agree and tell you to keep looking!

 

I did the same before I met my girlfriend. Met many great, GREAT women before I finally met my lady. You'll find her soon, too!

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It is hard to find just the right person, that's for sure. We all struggle with it at some time or other. You have to just learn to enjoy the journey.

smackie9 Established Member

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Not feeling it? don't ask for a second date, simple as that. I'm with you, if I don't feel anything after the first date, I don't waste my time.

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I am quite content at the moment being single although it would be nice to meet someone I'm totally into that's into me back. But until that day comes again, I refuse to settle on girls I'm lukewarm on.

 

Listen player....good on you :) I have been on 4 dates in one day, luckily I didn't have to buy any of them drinks/food. 2 of those ended up at 2nd base.

 

Like you said, am not desperate to be with someone, and I quite like that I don't answer to anyone but God. There is less drama in my life, and I manage to have fun.

smackie9 Established Member

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Yes agree, keep a misogynistic point of view to keep your sanity.

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Teknoe Established Member

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You are just perpetuating an unattainable ideal that a person must create sparks for you within the first 2 minutes of meeting, otherwise you relegate to them as "average" and unworthy. You are imposing a limitation on yourself by doing this. You're not giving an "average" person a chance to amaze you.

 

 

Meh, I don't know about that. I just know if I find a girl attractive or not. It's there or it isn't. Sure, could I force myself to commit to her and be faithful? Probably, but it's not fair to her if my heart isn't 100% or 110% in it. She deserves someone who would be into her completely.

 

I think with these 2 girls at least, I know they're just friends. Sure, I could build a life with either one if I really pressed the issue, but why? When there's no chemistry or attraction really to speak of? One was 31 and the other 27. The 31 year old has no time to waste; she even said so herself yesterday on the date.

 

I do believe in giving people a chance, and that's why I gave both girls a first date... I wasn't high on meeting either one of them based on their online photo. But I did because I figured I should at least give them a first date chance to see if there's potential.

 

There really wasn't so I'm not about to waste my time or theirs with a second date.

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I did the same thing when I was dating....I gave them a chance, didn't feel any attraction so why waste everyone's time eh?

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You are just perpetuating an unattainable ideal that a person must create sparks for you within the first 2 minutes of meeting, otherwise you relegate to them as "average" and unworthy. You are imposing a limitation on yourself by doing this. You're not giving an "average" person a chance to amaze you.

 

I highly doubt Teknoe's dates lasted only 2 minutes... if he had pulled a vanishing act after 2 minutes I would be likely to agree with you. But in this case it seems he sat down with them and talked to them, probably for an hour or so. And you CAN know whether or not someone has potential after talking for an hour IMO.

 

Teknoe, it's definitely rare to meet someone whom you're compatible with in all the aspects that matter to you, AND whom you're strongly attracted to (and they to you). So IMO it's a good idea to hold out for it, but when one of those rare ones really comes along, be willing to do your best to make it last.

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I just recently broke it off with someone because I wasn't all that interested. I know what you mean. You want to meet someone who can rock your world and checks off every box on your list. Dating is a numbers game. Give this first girl a second try if you think there might be something there. If that doesn't work out, keep trying.

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Teknoe Established Member

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I highly doubt Teknoe's dates lasted only 2 minutes... if he had pulled a vanishing act after 2 minutes I would be likely to agree with you. But in this case it seems he sat down with them and talked to them, probably for an hour or so. And you CAN know whether or not someone has potential after talking for an hour IMO.

 

You are correct, Elswyth. Both dates ran two hours. First went from 2-4 PM, and second from 7:30-9:30. First date time flew quicker. Second one seemed to drag a bit more. Probably because date 1 has more potential than date 2.

 

2 hours is more than enough time to know if you click with someone or not. Or at least, if there's possibly any potential there.

 

Teknoe, it's definitely rare to meet someone whom you're compatible with in all the aspects that matter to you, AND whom you're strongly attracted to (and they to you). So IMO it's a good idea to hold out for it, but when one of those rare ones really comes along, be willing to do your best to make it last.

 

I will try my best. All the girls I've liked in the last decade have said no to me when I asked them out. I recently went out on 5 dates in the last 3 months and each of them were meh. I just hope one day (soon) that I can ask out someone I'm genuinely interested in and she says yes.

 

I actually currently like a coworker, but not sure I want to go down that road again lol

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