abuckeyeleaf Posted November 9, 2014 Posted November 9, 2014 Hey y'all, I would love a fresh perspective on this situation. Backstory: 2 years ago I was fresh out if a relationship when I met Eric. I wasn't emotionally prepared to date anyone and met him unexpectedly. We dated off and on for about six months, fought frequently due to bad behavior on both our parts. It ended with him telling me he was seeing someone else and blocking my number. I moved out of state for a year and a half, did a lot of work on myself and got comfortable being single and matured a bit as well. about 2 months ago he messaged me on Facebook. Confessed he had never forgotten about me, told me he had really strong feelings for me but said the distance made him nervous and admitted he has gone on a couple of dates with someone else - I appreciated the honesty and said I was planning on moving back to the same state as him. I moved back last week and the day after I moved he invited me over, made dinner for me and begged me to stay the night. He was so great and affectionate. I went home the next morning and he went to work but called and texted me all day whenever he had free time. The following day he came to my house, helped me fix a couple of things and took me to dinner. He stayed the night then too and it was nice. I almost felt like he was testing me a little in things he would do and say but I didn't react/act out like I would have in the past because I've been working on myself. When he left I told him I wished he could stay and he said "you act like you'll never see me again." Well... So I didn't hear from him at all this past week. I text him a couple of times and kept it light, he would respond but not initiate anything further. I left him alone for a few days and last night sent another text asking if he was okay. He said "idk, it has nothing to do with you but I needed some alone time." I asked if there was anything I could do, no response, so I then said "well after spending all that time together last weekend, it kinda hurt that I hadn't heard from you. You didn't even ask how my new job was going." Here's the part I don't get. His response "please don't talk to me ever again." What the heck?? I'm so hurt, it makes absolutely no sense to me. I know he had done that once when we dated the first time and he got over it in about a week. But I know this time I didn't do anything wrong! What do you think?
johnson_j Posted November 9, 2014 Posted November 9, 2014 Sounds like he was just looking for sex. That's a real poor way for him to treat you, and the ball is now in your court that next time he contacts you, you can tell him to take a hike.
loversquarrel Posted November 9, 2014 Posted November 9, 2014 Sounds like you got used. He's an a- hole for doing that to you.
hoping2heal Posted November 9, 2014 Posted November 9, 2014 I don't know if he's crazy or not but... He is flakey and if there is one, okay there are honestly about 50, but nonetheless one trait that you should really run like hell from it is flakiness. Why? Well, because you get stuff like this happening to you. Of which, apparently is not the first time either. Then again, maybe you are being groomed. There is always the possibility that this guy is attempting to get you to walk on egg shells and throw you off balance so he can treat you like **** for months on end and you just sit there and take it repeatedly trying to make the outcome better. Yeah, might want to just avoid that.
Author abuckeyeleaf Posted November 9, 2014 Author Posted November 9, 2014 I had wondered if he had just used me too but in reflecting on how he treated me and acted when we spent the weekend together he was really sweet and caring and everything indicated he had feelings for me. Plus, Pursuing me while out of state for months seems like a lot of effort for a booty call. Do y'all think I'll hear from him again? My initial response to him was to eff off but this morning after sleeping on it I sent this before deleting his texts and number: I apologize...telling you to f*** off felt good at the time but wasn't very nice. After last weekend this a complete 180 and you're being very hurtful. If you don't want me to talk to you that's fine, I'll respect your wishes. It would, however, be courteous if you provided some sort of explanation for this because it makes absolutely no sense to me. If you can't do that, then I wish you luck in the future and thank you for making this simple. Honestly I just can't rationalize this behavior out of a sane stable person.
OwMyEyeball Posted November 9, 2014 Posted November 9, 2014 Did you forget to feed him? Maybe his diapers need changing. He's probably all cranky from the rash.
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