Bumpin in My Trunk Posted November 9, 2014 Posted November 9, 2014 That's what I got from her. Yes, I unblocked her. From everywhere. The reasoning was that we were LDR and I accepted the fact there was nothing for us, ever. Even if she left me for another LDR I accepted the fact he was closer and in the same time zone. So, no. Don't berate me for unblocking someone who would never text me again. Breadcrumb wise, I received one about 1 month after she left me. I tried to keep LC but couldn't do it. Then she kinda sent me another breadcrumb apologizing for how much she hurt me but that she couldn't and we shouldn't be friends or fix anything. It was after that I blocked her and uninstalled my whatsapp for a while. I unblocked her 2 weeks later. I think it was two days ago I got the "Hey" message. Then there's that scenario where she possibly hacked my Skype...not 100% sure I'm not trying to understand my ex. I'm trying to understand the dumper mentality. I've seen threads here where OP also gets the "hey" or "hi" or "how are you" message and I just can't fit into my head why the dumper would check up on you. Why check to see if you're still on the hook? Why waste their time like that and possibly hurt the dumpee? Is it an ego thing or something? I remember another ex of mine did this. About 3 days after broke up she called me to see if I was alright. I, very stupidly, answered her and talked for a bit. LOL I was so young. And for some goodnews, I didn't answer the "Hey" text. I just think its ridiculous that after all the hurt she did to me she can just say "Hey" and expect me to reply. At least don't text me at all or start with an apology. And also how a year ago around this time we were telling each other how much we loved each other and how we didn't want to lose each other and talked foreeeeever on Skype or whatsapp.
Dontfindme Posted November 9, 2014 Posted November 9, 2014 I'd chalk it up to boredom - honestly. Boredom and perhaps loneliness. Maybe she wants to see if she still has any effect over you. It's great that you didn't respond back. Please don't give her whatever satisfaction she's seeking, while completely disregarding your feelings.
polaske93 Posted November 9, 2014 Posted November 9, 2014 Can't lie, I wish i was as strong as you.. I handled this entire situation like a bitch for well over a month. Well played sir
Author Bumpin in My Trunk Posted November 10, 2014 Author Posted November 10, 2014 (edited) I'd chalk it up to boredom - honestly. Boredom and perhaps loneliness. Maybe she wants to see if she still has any effect over you. It's great that you didn't respond back. Please don't give her whatever satisfaction she's seeking, while completely disregarding your feelings. Well I already decided it was that. And I don't want to know why "she" did it. I want to know in general why do dumpers do that. Why do they want to see if they still have an effect on you. I think its ridiculous. And to the other poster. I'm not proud of myself for ignoring that text becauseI should have ignored the first breadcrumb she sent me but instead I handled it so bad. Edited November 10, 2014 by Bumpin in My Trunk
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