Feeling indignant - He found The One - so why'd he put me through hell!?

[HGirl]

Then why are u harping on about it!? U need to be a little bit more honest with yourself. I'm not being horrible to you, I really think the guy loved/still loves u & I think deep down you do too. Just please think for a moment how u would feel if u knew u loved someone & they kept saying "no u don't" please think about it x

 

It wasn't easy for me to identify and then admit out loud that he didn't love me.

 

It caused me a lot of pain in the months leading up to our breakup.

 

It is very difficult to be with someone and come to terms with the fact they don't love you and probably never will.

 

To realise all this and then end the relationship, took a great deal of honesty.

[HeartbrokenNewbie]

You thought that.. No one knows anyone else's feelings. Just because he doesn't show it in the way u would display it (most men dont!) or in the way that u expect him too doesn't mean he doesn't love you.

 

It sounds like u guys have some unfinished business...

[HGirl]

You thought that.. No one knows anyone else's feelings. Just because he doesn't show it in the way u would display it (most men dont!) or in the way that u expect him too doesn't mean he doesn't love you.

 

It sounds like u guys have some unfinished business...

 

You know when someone loves you, trust me.

 

Men know when they love someone.

 

All this confusion happens when people are in a relationship and it might be perfect, they might be compatible and attracted to one another, but if they love each other and aren't "in love" - they will claim confusion rather than admit the awful truth that they just aren't in love with this otherwise wonderful person.

[HeartbrokenNewbie]

Yes u do know when someone loves u but also I know that there have been few times that I may have been needy or feeling low in myself which is when I have doubted that they love me... but it doesnt mean they didnt. Do you think this could have been atleast a bit of the case?

 

I dont think u would be here writing all this if it didnt still bother u and Id say the same about him...

 

I could be totally off the mark here but I think he does tell u things now to wind u up but I also think that u did (by saying he doesnt love you and almost predicting a future for him that probably wouldnt have happened had you not have pushed him away... come on u know u did to a degree) then u both wouldnt be in this position now.

 

I wonder if you are a bit worried about fully letting someone in and tend to test them a bit.

 

I also think u both know this is unfinished and if it still bothering u both then thats not going to be healthy for your new relationships..

 

What do u HONESTLY want to happen? x

[dragonfire13]

I was in a situation like that. People can behave strangely and out of character when they're with someone that they have strong feelings for but are just not compatible with. It can be down to frustration, hot-headedness, immaturity, a bunch of things.

 

Try to be happy for him that he seems to have matured emotionally and found someone that he can have a less volatile relationship with.