blue_eyes18 Posted March 15, 2005 Posted March 15, 2005 Ok get this yall. I didn't talk to him at all yesterday. I gave him a chance to call me, he never did, so I called back and his brother said he was busy. Whatever, so I kept calling back and I was so freakin mad. I was just doing that so hopefully he would pick up and tell me he didn't want to talk to me anymore. He never did that though. So, I feel like an idiot. lol I am not calling him anymore. Ever, and if he tries to call me, oh well. Mayber he will get in touch with me, maybe not. I won't be at my Dad's much, and he probably doesn't even remember my mom's number, so whatever. When I saw him on Sunday night, we agreed we need to compromise more, or that's what I said. Then he don't even call me yesterday. Also, I don't understand why he won't just tell me he doesn't want to be with me. He said he does want to though, that he just needs space, and if I give it to him, he will show me. Well ****, why can't he just call me back? I mean, he did call me back on Sunday morning and was being all sweet. Well, he kept telling me he would call me back and didn't so I ended up calling like 2 more times that afternoon on Sunday. Turns out he was smokin pot, I went over there. He was like"I will call you" and then I got mad at him. I talked to him on the phone when I called him and he told me to come over. We ended up having sex and that's when we talked about stuff. He said if I can give him some space he will show me he cares, and I said it is not gonna be just all his w2ay. He said ditto. I mean, I understand, ok, I can compromise. and he asked me why I kept calling over and over Sunday, that Iwas just trying to make him mad. I said not I wasn't I was trying to get you to tell me something. Anyways, he said you can either be with me or not, I jusdt need space sometimes. I said I understand. Then he doesn't call me yesterday. I waited til like 7 oclock to call. He got home from work at 4. Anyways, I don't know what to do. Why in the heck is he being so difficult. I feel so dumb for even stressing out this much over him, or any guy period.
ooopsididitagain Posted March 15, 2005 Posted March 15, 2005 Originally posted by blue_eyes18 sorry about all the typos typos are the way of the future! ne ways sry to hear about that...better luck next time
Illusion24 Posted March 15, 2005 Posted March 15, 2005 WOW...you went on and on about the same thing...do you realize that?? Anyways ...what you need to do is just give him time...don't call him and if he does call you it would be arrogant of you not to pick up cause he knows you want to talk to him from all the calls you've made... He's probably having other issues in his life that are a little more important at 'this' time..not that your needs and your relationship aren't ..It seems the only time you call him is to tell him you got mad or why didn't you call or just simply nag??? If you give yourself a little bit of importance he'll wonder why you haven't called..a man needs his space so does a girl...I think you're choking him or wanting him to be something he's not...
Author blue_eyes18 Posted March 15, 2005 Author Posted March 15, 2005 I guess you're right, I just got upset. Maybe I should be a lot more patient, I just would like him to consider my feelings too, not just his all the time. That is not right. If he would just show me he can do that, I wouldn't have a problem. I am not trying to choke him, I just wish he would atleast call me when he says he is going to. I guess I will just not call him. I won't stay home waiting for him to call me though, cause I will just get all irritated. THat's what happened last night. I thought that he was gonna call me. It just made me feel kinda bad that he didn't want to talk to me when I didn't really do anything. If he is fine with going all day and not even talking on the phone with me, then that's fine. I would answer when he calls, I just don't know if I will even know he called if he does, because I will be doing things. My cell minutes are out for the month, and half the time, the caller ID is not even plugged up right over here. I might miss his call, I don't want to. I just can't sit here all the time waiting for him to call just so I won't miss it. You know what I am saying? I guess I won't know. I am not calling though, atleast for a while. I just wonder if all this patience and all this other stuff he wants me to do and understand will even get me anywhere. I want al relationship where I will be happy too. At first he was all over me, and when I responded some, he started doing this. I will just let it go for now. Maybe he will call while I am here. Thanks for listening.
Pendawn Posted March 15, 2005 Posted March 15, 2005 I agree with NSN, seems to me that you are a self-fulfilling prophecy. You THINK he doesn't want to talk to you, so you are acting in a way that FORCES him to feel like that but constantly calling him so he'll SAY he doesn't wnat to tlak to you?! It's madness. Relax. He called you and you saw him on Sunday but he didn't call by Monday 7pm and you were mad? Give him a chance. Go out with your friends have fun, give him a couple of days. If he hasn't called for a day or two THEN call him but don't be angry and mad and KEEP calling him. You are pushing him further and further away.
Author blue_eyes18 Posted March 15, 2005 Author Posted March 15, 2005 By the way, he has said that I fuss at him too much, and that is why we haven't been around each other much. He said that a few days ago. I don't have to have someone give me that much attention, but when I am in a "relationship" with someone, I expect them to show interest and act like they are in a relationship. I don't think that's fussing or too much to ask. He needs to understand that. I can't even tell him that without him thinking I am fussing. oh well, it will work out!! I really hope I haven't been too harsh. I really do need to just back off and then go from there.
Illusion24 Posted March 15, 2005 Posted March 15, 2005 Don't let your emotions get the best of you...think of yourself as a higher prospect...give yourself the importance and be sure of yourself..he's not the only fish in the sea!! I just wish he would at least call me when he says he is going to. You can't make someone do something they don't want too...he'll call when he feels it's time! Don't stay by the phone either..enjoy yourself, meet new people to take your mind off of him...Remember guys want what they can't have
Author blue_eyes18 Posted March 15, 2005 Author Posted March 15, 2005 Right.... Ya'll are right, I just get all upset cause I don't know how much I can trust him. I even tried telling him that the other night in hopes to explain to him why I had acted that way(calling alot and being kinda ill).If I knew I could trust him(not female wise or anything, just if I knew that he honestly had good intentions) I wouldn't get all pissed at him. First of all, he was saying the other night how if I want to come over and help him fold clothes and this and that and take care fo his dog that he just got so he would have more free time to spend with me, then I could. I asked him what that meant, that I would get some of his time if I did a bunch of **** for him? See, that's not right, and I don't think I was taking it the wrong way because he was going to guys houses and smoking pot after work, but yet he doesn't have free time? He is always that damn super busy to even take a piss in the toilet? I don't think soooo.... AND, he didn't act this way the first few days. Sure maybe I have driven him away some, BUT it's not like he wouldn't have done this anyways, even if I didn't call him a lot that day because I was upset. Who knows? Secondly, my brother hates him because he is on drugs and doesn't want me anywhere near him. My brother lives in Florida, and I talked to him recently and he is pretty upset cause he is saying I am too good for this guy. I asked this guy a while back if he is on drugs real bad, and he may be. I don't know. He said he wasn't though, just pot. I don't want to find out the hard way. I mean, my baby's father died from a drug overdose. Everyone says I am too pretty for a guy who is on drugs. Heck, pretty or not, no one deserves the crap form a druggie in my opinion. I mean, it's not like this guy is all in prison or anything. I don't talk to people like that. I mean, he works hard, has a good family, and stuff, I just don't know what all drugs he might be on. Maybe it is just weed. As long as it is nothing heavy, which I don't think it is or he couldn't work like he does. I don't know who to listen to, but my brother's opinions might be making me feel like I can't trust this guy, cause my brother has said some bad things about him. My brother can be very picky in the guys he wants me to see though, so that's why I don't always listen to him. This guy was so cool at first that I wanted to give him some time and I started liking him. Now I can't even tell what the heck is going on. Sometimes I feel like I should chill and all that like I am supposed to instead of getting all upset and calling and pushing him away, but what if he is just trying to manipulate me? I mean, think about what he said to me about helping him do a bunch of crap so that he can spend time with me. Yes, helping him is one thing, but being his bitch is another. Maybe he does feel very busy and have some things wrong right now, but then again, it might just be something I don't need to get into. Not saying I don't care about what's wrong with him, but if he just gonna manipulate me or something, I don't wanna go through it. I guess that's the conclusion I have been jumping to, and so I would get all ill and call him and all. I don't know what to do anyways. My brother would be so pissed if I stayed with this guy. I am 19 years old, I can make my own decisions, I just don't want to make my brother all pissed off and learn the hard way if what my brother is saying is right. I would feel so ignorant. It has happened before! lol Good ole big brothers, eh? Well, I know I have rambled and rambled, it's just I am honestly confused about what I should do. I guess I shouldn't feel that he is just trying to piss me off or something just cause he doesn't call me when I think he should. I know, sounds logical, I just don't want to do this and find out he is just bull****ting. Who would? WHat I would like to do is show him that I am feeling attached right now and that I do care about him. I would never mind helping him, heck, I already cleaned his room onetime while he was gone, lol. He loved it! I dusted it, swept, washed his bed sheets, and washed his clothes for him. I felt so good cause he needed it. I know he was tired. He does work hard. How can I show him I want to be there for him and in his life, but I just need to know he will be there? I guess I just need to not call. Maybe this thing can get straightened out. I bet he is tired of talking about all of this, I know I am tired of me and him talking about it. I will give him space. I just hope I don't miss his call when he does call cause I don't want him to get the wrong idea. And I really hope what my brother is telling me is a mistaken opinion...
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