sunnylover Posted November 8, 2014 Posted November 8, 2014 Hi, My bf of 5 years broke up with me last week. We have been together since we were 16, on and off (more on for the past 3 years) but he said that he doesn't think we have anything in common and shouldn't be together. I turns out he's been talking to someone he has more in common with (football and drinking) and has asked her out on a date - he is waiting on her to say when she is free. We have broken up/been on a break before, and he has come back, so it is hard to believe it will not happen again. Even his mother believes that this is going to end incredibly soon, and we are quiet close. I was doing NC until last night when I rang to check if he was going to cancel our holiday (we booked last week!) and he said on the phone we were over etc, but ended it by saying to leave him alone and give him space, he wasn't confident with what would happen. I guess I'm just very confused about a)what's going on b)what I should do. I know I shouldn't want him back, but I do. Please, just some advice!
Seeker12 Posted November 8, 2014 Posted November 8, 2014 First of all, regardless of the situation, we all want our exes back, one way or another. But this isnt healthy for your own mental and physical development your holding yourself back in the shadows of your relationship. When stuck in darkness, you wont truly appreciate the light. What you need to do is go NC and forget him, NC is for you and for your betterment, not to get him back. Maybe he will realise he loves you, or maybe he wont, who cares, until he says sorry and commits to you again, know that this guy isnt worth your time especially when he dumped you.
KatZee Posted November 8, 2014 Posted November 8, 2014 Regardless if you guys get back together or not, on/off relationships don't work out. Break up once and get back together? Fine. Break up, get back together, break up, get back together, break up, get back together= no. There's obviously reservations on his end. He's either bored, has itchy feet wanting to explore something else, or is seriously concerned you two have nothing in common. Either way, 5 years together isn't reason enough to continue on in such a dysfunctional relationship. Either get back together and MAKE IT WORK, or end it already. This on/off is nonsense and it leaves one person with such a sense of insecurity, always thinking, "oh when's he going to dump me again?" This isn't how committed partners act. You need to really separate yourself from this person and explore life without him. I'm sure in time you will see that you two probably aren't as matched as you think you are.
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