Supernova31 Posted November 8, 2014 Posted November 8, 2014 Ok to make a long story short Today was supposed to be my second and last attempt to meet this woman on a date. The first time she said she was ill, ok Im a patient guy so I give her 1 more try and now she messaged me saying she's ill again, it's too much of a coincidence, what really gets to me is the first time she did it I actually deleted her number so I could move on, then she started messaging me before I gave her a second chance. Now she flaked on me again. Will I be unreasonable to say what I'm thinking to her or should I just leave it? I just don't understand her motives.
Dallers Posted November 8, 2014 Posted November 8, 2014 Ok to make a long story short Today was supposed to be my second and last attempt to meet this woman on a date. The first time she said she was ill, ok Im a patient guy so I give her 1 more try and now she messaged me saying she's ill again, it's too much of a coincidence, what really gets to me is the first time she did it I actually deleted her number so I could move on, then she started messaging me before I gave her a second chance. Now she flaked on me again. Will I be unreasonable to say what I'm thinking to her or should I just leave it? I just don't understand her motives. Ignore and let her come back to you and then do not invest. Treat em mean keep em keen. She might actually be ill. She might be lying to you just seeking attention. I have been in both situations and ended getting with the girl on both occasions. The key is not to show emotion or care that she is cancelling on you. Let her come back to you, arrange another date. Cancel on her
mammasita Posted November 8, 2014 Posted November 8, 2014 Just delete and ignore.....don't answer if she contacts you again. She's a flake. 1
acrosstheuniverse Posted November 8, 2014 Posted November 8, 2014 I would message and say: 'Now's obviously not a great time to meet up if you're still unwell, I'll leave you to get better and if you fancy catching a drink sometime feel free to ask me out' She might be actually ill. Or might be a flake. Sending her that sends a clear signal that you have better things to do with your time than wait around for her, and that you don't really care either (telling her that you don't appreciate being cancelled on because you could be seeing your friends is a bit too much I think when you haven' even met yet). And then go minimal contact if you're already texting regularly. Just let her come to you and don't wait for it to happen, get busy dating other people.
J21 Posted November 8, 2014 Posted November 8, 2014 Just tell her "it's no big deal" and move on with your life. Don't stick around hoping she will call, go out and meet other women. Whether she was actually "ill" or "not ill" matters little. The end outcome is what's important, she flaked out on a date twice. 1
Author Supernova31 Posted November 10, 2014 Author Posted November 10, 2014 Just an update guys, I told her it was ok and I hope she feels better soon. I then diddnt contact her for the rest of the day then yesterday she messaged me saying how sorry she was ect and she wants to meet me next sat, I just responded saying I'll see as I have to see family on sat (which is true lol). 1
mariekatie Posted November 10, 2014 Posted November 10, 2014 I guess we don't know if she's a flake or she's really ill. We can only assume the worst. I would agree that you should play it cool, if she sincerely wants to meet you, she would make the effort. If she does it again, just tell her off nicely that you're not into such games but give her a chance to explain. Maybe she had her reasons but only she will know it. 1
Author Supernova31 Posted November 10, 2014 Author Posted November 10, 2014 I guess we don't know if she's a flake or she's really ill. We can only assume the worst. I would agree that you should play it cool, if she sincerely wants to meet you, she would make the effort. If she does it again, just tell her off nicely that you're not into such games but give her a chance to explain. Maybe she had her reasons but only she. will know it. She actually send me pictures of her to prove she was ill, although those pics could of been taken anytime and doesn't really prove anything, anyhow I guess it doesn't matter now, when sat comes and if I got time to meet her I will, I would of suggested an evening this week but I'm on lates all week at work. 1
mariekatie Posted November 10, 2014 Posted November 10, 2014 She actually send me pictures of her to prove she was ill, although those pics could of been taken anytime and doesn't really prove anything, anyhow I guess it doesn't matter now, when sat comes and if I got time to meet her I will, I would of suggested an evening this week but I'm on lates all week at work. Well at least she made the effort to send you proof. I don't know but for me, if i'm not interested, i wouldn't have bothered trying to convince the guy by sending a ill photo. Maybe she was just insecure about herself? I did it once, i gave excuse not to meet up because i was scared, not because i was playing games. Maybe you should give her one last chance on saturday. If she does it again, talk to her about it.
Author Supernova31 Posted November 10, 2014 Author Posted November 10, 2014 Well at least she made the effort to send you proof. I don't know but for me, if i'm not interested, i wouldn't have bothered trying to convince the guy by sending a ill photo. Maybe she was just insecure about herself? I did it once, i gave excuse not to meet up because i was scared, not because i was playing games. Maybe you should give her one last chance on saturday. If she does it again, talk to her about it. Yes I agree, there would of been something seriously wrong if she stood me up on purpose and kept coming back for more lol 1
Assasda Posted November 10, 2014 Posted November 10, 2014 Ok to make a long story short Today was supposed to be my second and last attempt to meet this woman on a date. The first time she said she was ill, ok Im a patient guy so I give her 1 more try and now she messaged me saying she's ill again, it's too much of a coincidence, what really gets to me is the first time she did it I actually deleted her number so I could move on, then she started messaging me before I gave her a second chance. Now she flaked on me again. Will I be unreasonable to say what I'm thinking to her or should I just leave it? I just don't understand her motives. This shouldnt bother you so much, because you should be seeing other women, rather than wait for this woman to get better 1
mariekatie Posted November 12, 2014 Posted November 12, 2014 Yes I agree, there would of been something seriously wrong if she stood me up on purpose and kept coming back for more lol Others would encourage you to date other woman and not wait on her. BUT i think differently. If i'm fixed on 1, i stick to it until all hopes are gone. hahaha that's why i'm always hurt i guess. But well, i just don't feel right to date a few guys while being interested in one. I don't know, i cut out guys pretty fast as well. Once i see that our views and mindset about life is too different, i moved on to the next.. Not to be harsh, but to be realistic. Etc, if i want kids but he will never ever have kids, i knew i had to get out fast, like almost immediately! 1
Author Supernova31 Posted November 15, 2014 Author Posted November 15, 2014 Right another update, well today I finally managed to actually meet her woohoo lol. I thought the date went well, we had loads of laughs, we had a lot in common and she's much hotter then she is in the pictures lol. We not arranged anther date yet as such, but we were talking about things we can do together the next time we meet, plus she sent me a text saying thanks for meeting her and she had a lovely time. So overall I think the date went well.
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