Chris715 Posted November 8, 2014 Posted November 8, 2014 Well, I thought I was doing better, especially after my depression last week and my suicidal rant on here. I got a wonderful setback tonight though, just ****ing great. I thought I was completely over this girl I dated over the summer, guess I was wrong. One of our friends came over tonight who knows my ex and the guy she's dating, who used to be my friend. I don't think the friend who came over tonight knows about the history between me and my ex but that doesn't stop me from being ****ing pissed at him and the entire situation. He goes on a rant when he comes over to my other friends about the two of them dating and how they got into a fight but "oh it's ok, no way would he dump her, I hear they have great sex." ****ing pisses me off that I would even be put in a situation to have to hear about it. Tonight I even thought to myself, alright, I'm going to make an effort to hang out with people, socialize a bit, and this is how I'm rewarded? Needless to say the rest of my friends went dead silence, really awkward, and I just went upstairs without saying anything. Rough setback, ****ing stupid situation, kinda want to go off on my "friend" for even talking about it. Want to contact this girl to let her know what a dumb bitch she is, and I want to punch the guy she's dating in the face.
Author Chris715 Posted November 8, 2014 Author Posted November 8, 2014 For context which I realize I failed to provide the guy dating my ex who was my "friend" basically went behind my back over the summer and asked the girl out I was dating without saying a thing to me and both went off to do their own ****ing thing, which I only learn about through another friend of mine. That's why I'm so messed up tonight. I don't even care about that bitch anymore, just the whole situation makes me angry.
AaronSG Posted November 8, 2014 Posted November 8, 2014 One of our friends came over tonight who knows my ex and the guy she's dating, who used to be my friend. I don't think the friend who came over tonight knows about the history between me and my ex but that doesn't stop me from being ****ing pissed at him and the entire situation. He goes on a rant when he comes over to my other friends about the two of them dating and how they got into a fight but "oh it's ok, no way would he dump her, I hear they have great sex." And it's situations like this as to why I told all my friends here that might have various ties to information about me and my ex-fiance, this is why I told them from the words "get go" that I don't want them taking about my ex-fiance, the breakup, anything they may or may not know that she has done since leaving me, no information, no hints, no clues.......NO NOTHING when they are with me! Unless I'm the sorry sucker who open his trap and starts up the conversation, then that's on me, and I better be ready for anything that comes my way! But your friend shouldn't be doing this, to me this isn't any sort of a true friend that would come over to my home and start in with information about my ex-fiance, she's got a new guy, and oh yeah Aaron, by the way, I hear he's a real stud in bed! No fricking way, no way, sorry....but all I can keep on saying here is "no way"! You have every right in the world to be pissed off at this friend, this person shouldn't have open up their mouth about any of this. Your totally right, it would have pissed me off, made me feel awkward and possibly blown whatever progress I had been making towards getting over the breakup. Maybe you should take this friend off to the side and give this person a full briefing about the concept of "no contact"! It just doesn't go for us, it goes for our friends as well. Good luck, keep your chin up, things will get better! 1
Author Chris715 Posted November 8, 2014 Author Posted November 8, 2014 I moved this over to the coping thread because I realized I probably don't need a whole thread on this, just venting **** tonight and letting off steam. If a mod sees this you can lock this.
Author Chris715 Posted November 8, 2014 Author Posted November 8, 2014 And it's situations like this as to why I told all my friends here that might have various ties to information about me and my ex-fiance, this is why I told them from the words "get go" that I don't want them taking about my ex-fiance, the breakup, anything they may or may not know that she has done since leaving me, no information, no hints, no clues.......NO NOTHING when they are with me! Unless I'm the sorry sucker who open his trap and starts up the conversation, then that's on me, and I better be ready for anything that comes my way! But your friend shouldn't be doing this, to me this isn't any sort of a true friend that would come over to my home and start in with information about my ex-fiance, she's got a new guy, and oh yeah Aaron, by the way, I hear he's a real stud in bed! No fricking way, no way, sorry....but all I can keep on saying here is "no way"! You have every right in the world to be pissed off at this friend, this person shouldn't have open up their mouth about any of this. Your totally right, it would have pissed me off, made me feel awkward and possibly blown whatever progress I had been making towards getting over the breakup. Maybe you should take this friend off to the side and give this person a full briefing about the concept of "no contact"! It just doesn't go for us, it goes for our friends as well. Good luck, keep your chin up, things will get better! And thanks for your reply. Still pretty mad about this entire thing but like I said, I don't think I need a whole thread for my venting. Good to know my anger is validated in some sense. I don't think the guy who came over knows about the history between me and my ex, at least not in detail but still, if he knows ANYTHING about it he should be smart enough to figure out not to bring it up around me. He's not a great friend of mine, more of a friend to my roommates.
mefisto Posted November 8, 2014 Posted November 8, 2014 You would be surprised how my story is similar to yours. Its even worse in some details. Read my thread if you are interested. The point is - i know exactly what are you feeling right now. How long you were with your ex?
polaske93 Posted November 8, 2014 Posted November 8, 2014 I'm sorry man, something very similar happened to me.. my ex of 8 months left me for my "friend" I introduced her too. Come to find out she only started hooking up with him because he has a big dick. They go on to start dating 2 weeks after our breakup. I have been an idiot and looked on her Facebook, and instagram only to see h er constantly putting up pics of them, and talking about how amazing he is, withing one month... after 6 months with me she would delete a comment I made on her page because she didn't want "family knowing she is with someone right now" .. funny thing though is she is soo committed to him that she says some ****ed up things to me when I just try and say hi.. yet he is cheating on her, has been since day 1, and she knows it! He even goes around and talks **** about her to his ex girlfriend he is still ****ing.. this whole situation is so ****ed up, I look back and realize that I never meant half of what this guy means to her, and he doesn't even appreciate or care for her at all..
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