Bunni Posted March 15, 2005 Posted March 15, 2005 What does everyone think is romantic? How often do you get it? Any tips on how to get partner to be romantic?
WhereSpiritsRoam Posted March 15, 2005 Posted March 15, 2005 To me, romance is being affectionate, doing little things for your partner that he or she will appreciate, and just reminding them of what they mean to you. Romance isn't just confined to someone who sends flowers, writes poems, or takes you out to a fancy restaurant. It can also be in the way they look at you - that magical feeling you get inside when you know that he or she has such profound emotions resonating deep inside. Getting someone to become romantic isn't easy - they are usually that way or they aren't. However, you can suggest things like, "You know, I really like when I come home and dinner is already cooked." That might be a hint for something he could do that would be romantic for you.
Pendawn Posted March 15, 2005 Posted March 15, 2005 To me romanticness is thoughtfulness. Doing little things that show you are always thinking of your partner, your love for them, and their happiness. Buying thier favourite dessert on your way home just because, leaving them a note before you go to work, dedicating a song to them on the radio station they listen to while driving the kids to school, running them a bath and lighting candles ready for when they come home, buying them a CD or book that they casually mentoined in passing but you remembered and give them as a "just because you deserve it" gift. No idea how you make someone be more romantic, i tried it with 11 years with my ex and it never worked.
WhereSpiritsRoam Posted March 15, 2005 Posted March 15, 2005 If you take the lead with some things, he may follow suit. For example, call him to say goodnight a few evenings in a row and then see if he does the same. Sometimes guys prefer to be followers rather than leaders, though some would contest a real man is always a leader.
Author Bunni Posted March 16, 2005 Author Posted March 16, 2005 My guy gives flowers once in awhile. Mostly just for occasions tho, like v day. Once in awhile he leaves I miss you/I love you notes laying around my house for me to find. He has run me a bubble bath to a time or two, which is nice but he does not realize that timing is a issue. It seems like when he does some things Its at a really inappropriate time. Guess it should be the thought that counts but once in awhile it would be nice to have something done nice that was not a pity "thought that counted" but a really good time to have something nice be done for me.. I have suggested things I would like like candles and soft music but he just dosnt do it. Like I am telling him what I would like be he does stuff he wants only.. like bubble bath when I am dead tired. Or making me breakfast when he knows I NEVER eat breakfast when I first get up.. Ahhh frustrating/confusing all in one
Author Bunni Posted March 16, 2005 Author Posted March 16, 2005 Romance isn't just confined to someone who sends flowers, writes poems, or takes you out to a fancy restaurant. It can also be in the way they look at you - that magical feeling you get inside when you know that he or she has such profound emotions resonating deep inside. I dont get this at all in my relationship. He says I love you and I miss you all the time, but cant say I feel he looks at me longingly or has any deep feelings. Physically yes, hes always grabbing a boob. So I feel it may just be a physical thing for him. Not so much for me I would much rather feel emotion. Right now It seems I dont have much of either
Author Bunni Posted March 16, 2005 Author Posted March 16, 2005 Originally posted by Pendawn Buying thier favourite dessert on your way home just because, leaving them a note before you go to work, dedicating a song to them on the radio station they listen to while driving the kids to school, running them a bath and lighting candles ready for when they come home, buying them a CD or book that they casually mentoined in passing but you remembered and give them as a "just because you deserve it" gift. Good Idea's! No idea how you make someone be more romantic, i tried it with 11 years with my ex and it never worked. I've been trying for 4 years (it is not working)
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