OK_computer Posted November 7, 2014 Posted November 7, 2014 Just wondering which would you guys prefer? My observation is i've never been able to end on good terms with the girls I've truly ever loved, they've always lead to disaster and downfall. But with girls I didn't love with my heart's eye completely, I'm still able to be friends. For the future, or for the sake of mental peace, would you prefer ending on good terms?
jackinthebox1 Posted November 7, 2014 Posted November 7, 2014 End it like a man. Why would you want to end something badly? Holding on to bitterness is completely pointless 1
Mi7522 Posted November 7, 2014 Posted November 7, 2014 I agree ending it on good terms is much healthy for the both of you and you both leave with you dignity in tact 1
tikay00 Posted November 7, 2014 Posted November 7, 2014 Always good terms. You never know what the future has in store for the both of you. You don't want her last memory to be of you cursing her out, or being a bitter, angry person. 1
Michelle ma Belle Posted November 7, 2014 Posted November 7, 2014 If you had the option to have it one way or another, why on earth would anyone choose to end on anything but good terms? Unfortunately, we need the other person to see it the same way. If they don't, it doesn't matter how well-intentioned you are, they'll only see you as the d*ck who broke her heart. C'est la vie. 2
Author OK_computer Posted November 8, 2014 Author Posted November 8, 2014 I agree with all of you... But just playing Devil's Advocate, but it seems easier to get over someone quicker if you end on bad terms, as you just start to hate the person instead of still keeping feelings that kindle to you love him/her again if you had chose to end it nicely. As for ending it on good terms for the sake of an 'unexpected' future reunion, isn't a break up supposed to be for good? All of mine were except on and offs, which actually ALL ended on bad terms...I dont' see any fairy tale ending with OAOAs though..
Ordinaryday Posted November 8, 2014 Posted November 8, 2014 Sorry to go against the grain but I think it is better to end on bad terms. why? simple - it significantly minimises the chances of them breadcrumbing you in the future and potentially setting you back. when I have ended on good terms with exes they usually breadcrumb me down the line which just brings up old painful memories and hurts me, and it serves no purpose whatsoever than to apparently ease their conscience that I am "not mad" at them. when you end on bad terms and basically tell them "dont ever contact me again" it is a lot easier to move on cos you know they wont breadcrumb you in the future/ 1
ralfgarnett Posted November 8, 2014 Posted November 8, 2014 Good terms lifes too short, however if they cheat on you destroy them in any way you can, never any excuses for cheating.
BC1980 Posted November 8, 2014 Posted November 8, 2014 I guess it depends on what you mean by good terms. If you mean just walking away and accepting it without any cursing and yelling, sure that's better. If you mean with no resentment or hurt feelings, I think it's impossible. Someone, probably both parties, is going to feel hurt, betrayed, resentful, ect.
JackJackxD Posted November 8, 2014 Posted November 8, 2014 Just wondering which would you guys prefer? My observation is i've never been able to end on good terms with the girls I've truly ever loved, they've always lead to disaster and downfall. But with girls I didn't love with my heart's eye completely, I'm still able to be friends. For the future, or for the sake of mental peace, would you prefer ending on good terms? I don't really think you can end things on good terms unless you both don't love each other anymore, or found someone else you like during the relationship. Because in most cases, break up is not something that the other person wants.
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