Did this girl just use me?

[LoveIsMyReligion]

I met a beautiful girl through a mutual friend a few months ago.

 

She had a great personality and was visiting the US temporarily for work.

A few days later I decided to pursue her and got her number from a

mutual friend. The bad news, my friend tells me she has a boyfriend back home.

 

Well fast forward a few days and this girl and I are hanging out as

friends. She seems stand offish and doesn't flirt much or do anything

more than a friend as expected. I am a bit picky with who I choose to

date and because of this don't date often but this girl seemed to have

everything I wanted in a girl. Spontaneous, outgoing personality, and

well you guessed it very pretty. That being said I kept pushing it... I

don't know what I was expecting because I knew she had a boyfriend and

knew she was going back to Australia in a couple of months.

 

After about two weeks things got more serious; we started seeing each other

more often and getting close. Fast forward to present day I had the

most amazing couple of months with this girl; we did pretty much everything a boyfriend

and girlfriend would do minus the title.

 

Finally as the last day grew near I mentioned that I would like to visit

her country sometime in the near future and would

like to see her and hangout and just not do any of the bedroom stuff if she has a boyfriend at the time.

To this she responded "But I like the bedroom stuff".

 

She's been back home for about a week now and we haven't spoken since the day she left. I'm reluctant to try and

get a hold of her because I don't want to seem needy. I will be visiting her country for work/vacation in a few months and

am debating whether I should even contact her at this point.

 

I know I don't deserve any sympathy since I was seeing a girl who had a boyfriend...

If she was married I would never even think of doing something like this but she isn't.

 

Thanks for reading

[Elias33]

You my friend, played with fire...and got burned. Sometimes, we can't help ourselves

[smackie9]

Just relish in the memory and then let it go. She obviously doesn't want to pursue this any further.

[smackie9]

Just relish in the memory and then let it go. She obviously doesn't want to pursue this any further.

 

 

plus what guy doesn't was to be someone's boy toy, geeeez.

[ScreaminEagle]

Did you get used ? LMAO. Seriously what is your question ? There are so many contradictions in your post it is not funny.

 

 

You knowingly and willingly pursued a girl who had a b/f. She obliged by engaging in your tryst. You have the audacity to want to visit the country where her boyfriend resides ?

 

 

Do you think that she would not cheat on you if you two were in a relationship ?

 

 

You set yourself up for this one. If anything, her b/f back home got used.

[Dallers]

Sometimes it is so hard for a guy to just accept that he has the most perfect situation with a perfect girl. She is probably using hundreds of guys for attention and nothing else and you get the sex and you are not happy.

 

YES contact her. Make it quite clear you would like to continue this in the bedroom and you understand exactly where she is coming from. Be used just like I am and enjoy it! Some guys try their whole lives to get a girl that just wants sex and nothing more and we should count our lucky stars we are good in the bedroom. Not only that when you open your eyes you see as the above poster mentioned that she is not relationship material by a bloody mile! Which is exactly why you want to be the guy getting the goods while she uses other guys for nothing. Wake up!

 

Jeez.

[LoveIsMyReligion]

She is probably using hundreds of guys for attention and nothing else and you get the sex and you are not happy.

 

Funny how spot on you are about this part...