polaske93 Posted November 7, 2014 Posted November 7, 2014 I have been terrible at no contact.. until the last couple of weeks so was she. Not because she wanted me, but because she wanted support when things were going bad in her new relationship. I had no intentions of talking to her romantically, I just miss the friendship we had.. she was my best friend, and i miss sharing art and music with her. She responded by telling me to leave her alone, that it is causing problems in her relationship, and that she doesn't want to talk to me.. it cut deeply.. because now she is in a relationship with someone i introduced her too that I thought was my friend. He cheats on her, and doesn't even appreciate her. From what I hear he talks **** about her.. yet she loves him, and shows more affection towards him in one month then she showed me in the 8 that we were together.. I just miss her horribly today. I just want to hear her voice, her laugh.. this is killing me..
cerridwen Posted November 7, 2014 Posted November 7, 2014 What used to help me, when caught in a spiral of break-up pain, was to step out of the hurt of Now and project into the future with a bit of detachment. For instance, stop for a minute. What would an ongoing relationship with her look like? Consider what and who she is attracted to. She wants a guy capable of treating her like crap. What does that say about her? What does that say about any kind of future you two could have had? Were you prepared to be that guy? To cheat on and take for granted the person you're with? Is that the kind of relationship you'd want? But it seems to be what SHE wants. It's SUCH a challenge to see past the pain in the midst of a break-up. But if you're able to inch past the point that you're in now--past desperately idealizing her in the moment--and look at those little clues about what kind of person she wants, you may find some peace about NOT being that guy. :/
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