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What's the secret to dating one of those high-strung "KKG" type sorority girls?

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Hey, OP - "high-strung" does not mean proud. It means neurotic, touchy, etc. So I found that kind of confusing.

 

After your recent post I kind of get the sense that there was actually a particular girl you had a crush on back in high school, and now you're hoping to find her again, or someone like her, by looking in a sorority that you think "fits" her type.

 

Maybe that's not it. But barring that more romantic interpretation, I don't really understand what you're looking for. You said you're at a small university and those types of girls don't go there - well, are you sure? Just because your school doesn't have sororities doesn't mean there aren't confident, lovely girls out there. They're just doing something else. There must be parties somewhere on campus that you could attend. Or volunteer events. Or co-ed sports. I dunno. But if you're set on hunting through the Greek system first, are there other universities in your area?

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MightyHeracross Established Member

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There's a wide range of "sorority girls."

 

Having said that, if you are interested in the "stereotypical" ie very attractive/hot sorority girl, you are correct that they tend to be more selective and "picky" than the average girl.

 

They tend to chase guys (like me) who fit specific high status categories (a bit older, very far above average in good looks, established in a high status and/or high paying career, and preferably all of the above).

 

The more of these status pegs you have reached, the more "in demand" you will be.

 

I can assure you you will have your answer yes/no in very short order. These girls don't mess around.

 

You are absolutely right with what they want. I can tell you that I'm of high status, have decent looks- I'm no model or anything (I'm more cute/handsome than hot). I think I've already said that I'm pretty damn shy, so I probably come across as weird, antisocial, and creepy, but I assure you I'm not! I also don't go to parties or anything (again because I'm shy) so I don't have many opportunities to be noticed to get chased, ya know?

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I would think that premed doesn't carry a lot of prestige. I think you'd have to wait for Doctor for that to matter. After all, you might end up being a dentist or a vet or something.

 

Absolutely. I do intend on becoming an MD, but I don't really think that has anything to do with the current moment. I just threw that in to show that I do have aspirations and goals and I'm not just some bum sitting in his parents basement

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It's better not to stereotype them, although you're more likely to find a princess there and the headaches that go with that kind of attitude. There are probably some pretty great girls to be found there as well, but you'd have to get to know many of them to find the ones who have potential. That will be the main challenge. When they joined the sorority, it was at least partly to join a social circle. If you aren't part of that circle then it isn't going to be easy to get in and get to know them.

 

One thing you could do is put on a wig and a dress and see if they would let you in as a member. It would have to be pretty convincing. But then you'd be right in on the inside and you might even get to see them frollicking around in their underwear and having pillow fights. And in the process you could get close to the sensitive ones who are really worth knowing. The challenge would be in revealing your identity later when you started to develop feelings. In case she found out who you are, you could get into a lot of trouble and she would probably feel really deceived and determine never to talk to you again. But I could envision you running into each other later after the anger has passed and sort of starting over. Things would work out in the end, I'm pretty sure.

 

Haha what a great suggestion... I may just go ahead and do this... Can't imagine there would be any problems...

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Hey, OP - "high-strung" does not mean proud. It means neurotic, touchy, etc. So I found that kind of confusing.

 

After your recent post I kind of get the sense that there was actually a particular girl you had a crush on back in high school, and now you're hoping to find her again, or someone like her, by looking in a sorority that you think "fits" her type.

 

Maybe that's not it. But barring that more romantic interpretation, I don't really understand what you're looking for. You said you're at a small university and those types of girls don't go there - well, are you sure? Just because your school doesn't have sororities doesn't mean there aren't confident, lovely girls out there. They're just doing something else. There must be parties somewhere on campus that you could attend. Or volunteer events. Or co-ed sports. I dunno. But if you're set on hunting through the Greek system first, are there other universities in your area?

 

 

We've got sororities and frats, just not many in comparison to larger schools around me (4 big10 schools within about a 2 hours). What I mean by the high strung girls is a girl who cares about her appearance. She cares about how she's perceived by others. Does that clear it up?

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We've got sororities and frats, just not many in comparison to larger schools around me (4 big10 schools within about a 2 hours). What I mean by the high strung girls is a girl who cares about her appearance. She cares about how she's perceived by others. Does that clear it up?

 

You want to date a woman you are attracted to. That's fine.make sure that is what you are saying because frankly it reads like you want a "trophy".

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You want to date a woman you are attracted to. That's fine.make sure that is what you are saying because frankly it reads like you want a "trophy".

 

I'm sorry. I don't want it to sound like I just want her as a trophy for an accomplishment or something like that. That's what nice things/items are for. People aren't items, and I'm truly sorry if it has sounded like I just view women as items. That was not my intent.

 

On the other hand, you are correct with your first sentence. I do want to date someone I'm attracted to. I think that obvious. Most people would only want to date people they're attracted to. It just so happens that these are the types of girls I'm attracted to.

 

Also, when I say that I want a girl who cares about her appearance, I am not implying that I am expecting her to look like a pornstar, have loads of plastic surgery, or a magazine model. I'm just attracted to girls who really take care of themselves in general, if that makes sense.

 

Again, I am very sorry I have offended anyone by referring to women as objects or items. I never meant to do so, and I thank you for bringing that to my attention. :)

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In a way it is good that you know what you are looking for, but life sometimes doesn't really work like that.

 

You need to start talking to women, any women you meet will do. Make a point of starting conversations with strangers and get comfortable with women in general and conquer your shyness first, before you set yourself to fail by taking on "arrogant bitches".

They will have you for dinner and spit out the left overs.

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We've got sororities and frats, just not many in comparison to larger schools around me (4 big10 schools within about a 2 hours). What I mean by the high strung girls is a girl who cares about her appearance. She cares about how she's perceived by others. Does that clear it up?

 

Just jumping in on the wording choice, because if you want one of these girls to like you, please please please don't call her "high-strung", it will backfire. Not trying to be the vocabulary police but high-strung means something different than what you think it means. You want a girly, feminine, confident, high-maintenance girl. High-maintenance, while true and applicable to the type you're interested, will also not be responded to favorably by your preferred type. High-strung is pretty much a put-down to someone who is confident and basically just means they are so nervous, controlling and anxiety-ridden that they are jumping out of their skin. Pretty much across the board it's would be seen as a negative comment by ANYONE you want to date. Re-word :sick:

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In a way it is good that you know what you are looking for, but life sometimes doesn't really work like that.

 

You need to start talking to women, any women you meet will do. Make a point of starting conversations with strangers and get comfortable with women in general and conquer your shyness first, before you set yourself to fail by taking on "arrogant bitches".

They will have you for dinner and spit out the left overs.

 

I will be honest, I've got just as much trouble talking to guys as well. Once I've met someone, or been introduced, regardless of gender, I can hold a good conversation. My problem is meeting new people and just talking to complete strangers. Most of my friends have been my friends since elementary or pre school. The friends I have made in college have been those that I was required to work with (on a lab, project, ect.).

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Just jumping in on the wording choice, because if you want one of these girls to like you, please please please don't call her "high-strung", it will backfire. Not trying to be the vocabulary police but high-strung means something different than what you think it means. You want a girly, feminine, confident, high-maintenance girl. High-maintenance, while true and applicable to the type you're interested, will also not be responded to favorably by your preferred type. High-strung is pretty much a put-down to someone who is confident and basically just means they are so nervous, controlling and anxiety-ridden that they are jumping out of their skin. Pretty much across the board it's would be seen as a negative comment by ANYONE you want to date. Re-word :sick:

 

I would NEVER call someone that to their face. Ever. Period. It doesn't matter if it's a guy, a friend, a girl, my girl friend, or some random person I see. I of course will never call someone that.

 

However, for the sake of posting on here, it just seemed easier to describe the stereo type of the girl I'm interested in rather than saying "she's like this, except for this, but does this, and eats this, and wears this, and talks like that."

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You need practice talking to people. Take a speech com class as one of your humanities & find a group called ToastMasters.

 

If you have the $$ enroll in a dale Carnegie class designed to teach you how to network. This is a great business skill which translates socially.

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I would NEVER call someone that to their face. Ever. Period. It doesn't matter if it's a guy, a friend, a girl, my girl friend, or some random person I see. I of course will never call someone that.

 

However, for the sake of posting on here, it just seemed easier to describe the stereo type of the girl I'm interested in rather than saying "she's like this, except for this, but does this, and eats this, and wears this, and talks like that."

 

I'm just being honest, whether or not you use the word to their face. It's the wrong usage of the word. It doesn't represent the type of girl you describe wanting. "Strung" is like strung out. Anxiety-ridden or neurotic. That's not what kind of girl you want is it? For purposes of this discussion, you mean high-maintnenace, I think. BTW, I know plenty of the type you are describing. Just trying to help you for the future, lest you find yourself on set-up after set-up with neurotic, anxious women. Tell people you like a high-maintnenace girl.

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don't worry about chicks for now. once you become a Doctor you will have chicks all over you.

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Just go for them.

 

 

Even if you don't 'slam muff' then I think you are better off going for the girls who don't see the phrase 'slamming muff' when used as derogatory. I take it the women you describe are OK with that term.

 

 

 

 

 

 

Is it any wonder why women these days are looking for just a little bit of gentlemanliness?!! Ugh!! :rolleyes:

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