What's the secret to dating one of those high-strung "KKG" type sorority girls?

[MightyHeracross]

KKG stands for Kappa Kappa Gamma, and it's a prestigious sorority at a lot of major universities. The girls there are classy, "high-maintenance," and what some would call "arrogant bitches." However, these are the kind of girls that I find personally attractive. I can't explain it, but that's just me. Maybe it's because basically every girl in my high school went on to be in KKG, and those are the girls I have been around the most, so naturally I find them attractive.

 

Urban Dictionary: Kappa Kappa Gamma

 

 

The problem is that I'm at a relatively small university and those kinds of girls don't go here. Greek life is basically nonexistent here. Plus, I'm a pretty shy guy.

 

Ps, I'm a 20 yr old guy who is very introverted and shy. I'm a premed major, so it's not like I'm just slacking off and slamming muff left and right... I have career aspirations, and I know that girls find that extremely attractive. Also, the girl doesn't need to be in KKG, I'm just attracted to those types of girls. Obviously every high strung girl isn't in KKG, that was just use to simplify the type of girl I'm looking for.

 

Thanks

[PegNosePete]

Well, if I were you I would steer well clear of that type. You don't sound like the kind of guy that they would be attracted to. In fact, you sound like just the kind of guy they would take advantage of, use and humiliate.

 

So if I were you I'd explore the benefits of other types, ASAP!

[clia]

I'm sure those types of girls are attending your university, even though it is smaller. The type of guy that these types of girls are typically attracted to and date is: good looking, confident, in a fraternity, fun, possible jock, ambitious/motivated, good sense of humor, popular, social, etc. Of course, you can't stereotype everyone. There might be some girls who want a shy, introvert. You will just have to find her.

[ComingInHot]

Mighty Heracross wrote, "I'm a premed"

 

nough' said

[Redhead14]

Stay tuned for posts about how to deal with the drama of dating high strung KKG Sorority girls

[normal person]

Mighty Heracross wrote, "I'm a premed"

 

nough' said

 

I'm stereotyping here, but girls like this (I guess the colloquial, informal term would be "betch" Betches Love This) don't care if you're premed now, but they'll care in 7 years when you're a doctor and they need someone to fund their lifestyle. Right now they're having their fun and getting their fill of frat bros. These girls' whole M.O. is to be aloof and care about you less than you care about them. So if you really want in, you've probably gotta play that game. Trust me, I was around plenty of them at my school.

[J21]

Have lots of money, drive a 2014/2015 BMW or Benz, spend money lavishly on her, be in a frat of your own, be very extroverted and have an incredible body. Also be willing to be tossed away at her will.

 

Gluck have fun

[slizl]

Stick with med school and you can have anyone of them when you are done. Unfortunately that won't be until your late 20s...Better late than never I guess.

[d0nnivain]

the "secret" to dating any sorority girl is simple: pledge a fraternity. DUH

[Lernaean_Hydra]

Shy and shallow are two directly conflicting states of being.

 

If you're not outgoing, good looking and/or rich (preferably a combination of all three) you have very slim chances of attracting girls like that. I mean, those girls you went to school that pledged...did you date any of them?

 

Career aspirations are very attractive to many women. Sorority girls? Not so much. Not at this stage in their lives anyway.

[J21]

Being premed is actually the worst majors to date (as they tend to be the busiest), so that "positive" you were hoping for is actually stacks against your favor.

[michellew]

Stick with med school and you can have anyone of them when you are done. Unfortunately that won't be until your late 20s...Better late than never I guess.

 

I agree. Right now your focus should be on school, not these women. When you're a doctor they will be lining up for you.

[OwMyEyeball]

Masochism.

[sagetalk]

The girls there are classy, "high-maintenance," and what some would call "arrogant bitches." However, these are the kind of girls that I find personally attractive.

 

I don't think you understand what you're in for. If you can tolerate being told "you're dumb" "you're worthless" "everything you do is dumb" "my mother told me not to marry you and she was right" "my ex was always better at Y than you" "you're such a dumb #$*" then maybe you have what it takes, maybe. You also have to earn boatloads of money and give it to her to manage and spend like the world is ending tomorrow.

 

I hope I've talked you out of it, but I doubt it.

[SoleMate]

Any chance you're attracted to those "highstrung", "bitchy", "arrogant" girls because you believe that "having" one of them would give you more self-confidence or self-esteem? After all, it couldn't be for the enjoyment of their company, so there must be some other value you perceive. If so, just be aware that your plan is doomed to backfire. I recommend you seek a better understanding of what creates and maintains happiness in a relationship.

 

And also learn from the very sad and extreme case of Elliott Rodgers.

 

...every girl in my high school went on to be in KKG, and those are the girls I have been around the most, so naturally I find them attractive...

Hmm, I'm not convinced. Try digging a little deeper to understand your true motivation. Also, if it's true that sheer familiarity breeds attraction, then I'd recommend spending time around women and men who are down-to-earth, pleasant, and accepting. Then you could end up attracted to someone who's actually nice to be around.

[IronZ]

You keep using this word "high-strung." I don't get it.. are you looking for someone who is high maintenance, stuck up, and for lack of a better term, bitchy? Or do you just mean your typical pretty blonde/brunette sorority type girl? Because you can find pretty girls who aren't mean to you too. I think you're totally focused on the wrong thing.

[MightyHeracross]

Sorry I've been pretty damn inactive. I was real busy when I first posted it, and basically just forgot about it. I actually just remembered the site existed and saw this thread. I read through the replies, and I don't think you guys really understand what I'm saying.

 

When I say high strung, I mean that they have pride in themselves. I want a girl who doesn't care what anyone else thinks. I want a girl who is beautiful inside and out, and knows it. I don't want one of these insecure girls who don't have an identity- I'm looking for a girl who has one already. I'm also not looking for a girl who's going to be mean to me (obviously). Does this make sense? I hope it clears all this stuff up.

 

Lastly, believe me, I am 110% focused on school work. There's no reason why I shouldn't have a girlfriend as well. I appreciate the concern with it eating up my time, but I don't see it as an issue. I know there will be tons of girls lining up for me when I get done with medical school, but why should I wait until then- like 6 years down the road?

 

Hopefully you guys are still active and see this and I promise I will be more active as well!! Thanks for the help!!

[d0nnivain]

Welcome back. My answer remains the same. The fastest way to date a sorority girl is to pledge a fraternity. Given your academic ambitions, I suppose you could try tutoring one. At the very least pick a girl you find intriguing in one of your classes & ask if she'd like to study with you.

[lollipopspot]

Stick with med school and you can have anyone of them when you are done.

 

I know there will be tons of girls lining up for me when I get done with medical school

 

This is not necessarily true. There are plenty of unattractive (emotionally and physically) doctors who struggle with dating. The income is only really high in specialties, if you're thinking that the income alone will drive all women to a doctor. And you have to bring something more than money to the table for most women.

[MightyHeracross]

Welcome back. My answer remains the same. The fastest way to date a sorority girl is to pledge a fraternity. Given your academic ambitions, I suppose you could try tutoring one. At the very least pick a girl you find intriguing in one of your classes & ask if she'd like to study with you.

 

Well as much as I do agree with the frat option being my best one... It's not really in the cards for me. I don't particularly like them. I feel as though it's basically like you're buying your friends. I know that's not the reality, but that's my perception, and perception is reality in my book

[MightyHeracross]

This is not necessarily true. There are plenty of unattractive (emotionally and physically) doctors who struggle with dating. The income is only really high in specialties, if you're thinking that the income alone will drive all women to a doctor. And you have to bring something more than money to the table for most women.

 

Well of course it's not true. But, I will say that guys with money tend to have more good looking families. I'm not talking about movie star money because those families are dysfunctional lol. When you think about it though, successful doctors do tend to have very attractive wives. Also, I plan on specializing in orthopedic surgery, so my income should be pretty high. But I'm not doing it just for money. That would make me sound awful. I want to be able to provide for my future family, and I do really enjoy the science and everything behind it!

[dcannon]

There's a wide range of "sorority girls."

 

Having said that, if you are interested in the "stereotypical" ie very attractive/hot sorority girl, you are correct that they tend to be more selective and "picky" than the average girl.

 

They tend to chase guys (like me) who fit specific high status categories (a bit older, very far above average in good looks, established in a high status and/or high paying career, and preferably all of the above).

 

The more of these status pegs you have reached, the more "in demand" you will be.

 

I can assure you you will have your answer yes/no in very short order. These girls don't mess around.

[mightycpa]

Mighty Heracross wrote, "I'm a premed"

 

nough' said

I would think that premed doesn't carry a lot of prestige. I think you'd have to wait for Doctor for that to matter. After all, you might end up being a dentist or a vet or something.

[Gary S]

Umm, exsqueeze me, but high maintenance people are poor relationship material.

[johan]

It's better not to stereotype them, although you're more likely to find a princess there and the headaches that go with that kind of attitude. There are probably some pretty great girls to be found there as well, but you'd have to get to know many of them to find the ones who have potential. That will be the main challenge. When they joined the sorority, it was at least partly to join a social circle. If you aren't part of that circle then it isn't going to be easy to get in and get to know them.

 

One thing you could do is put on a wig and a dress and see if they would let you in as a member. It would have to be pretty convincing. But then you'd be right in on the inside and you might even get to see them frollicking around in their underwear and having pillow fights. And in the process you could get close to the sensitive ones who are really worth knowing. The challenge would be in revealing your identity later when you started to develop feelings. In case she found out who you are, you could get into a lot of trouble and she would probably feel really deceived and determine never to talk to you again. But I could envision you running into each other later after the anger has passed and sort of starting over. Things would work out in the end, I'm pretty sure.