lemonso Posted November 7, 2014 Posted November 7, 2014 So I've come across a lot of threads along the lines of "My boyfriend hasn't invited me to his family's for Thanksgiving...WHAT DOES IT MEAN?" Well I have an altogether different problem. I've been seeing this fellow for a few weeks now, just...dating and all that accompanies that. I've met his friends. He's met some of mine. We don't have any set parameters to what we have going on -- no titles, no talk necessarily of exclusivity, no nothing. We're just dating. Not my boyfriend. Just a guy. A guy I'm intimate with that I met off of a certain dating application. Anyhow, the other day he asked if I wanted to go with him - one state over - to his family's for the holidays. Uhmmm...? What's a girl to think about this, hmmm?
usernameshere Posted November 7, 2014 Posted November 7, 2014 Um, I know I'd be doing a background check if that was the case, and even then may not go. On the less paranoid side, I suppose it depends how you feel about this guy. Are there already any red flags? Do you feel you could become serious about him? If all that checks out, just still be very cautious. I hate to sound like a parent. I suppose I just watched one too many serial killer documentaries during halloween.
smackie9 Posted November 7, 2014 Posted November 7, 2014 Decline, because you will be faced with questions around the dinner table that may make things uncomfortable. You are dating casual, I find going out of town to have dinner with his family isn't appropriate at this time. Just tell him you have other plans.
d0nnivain Posted November 7, 2014 Posted November 7, 2014 I would think he's a nice guy who is moving a bit too fast for me & I would politely decline. It's a "high class" problem to have. Be happy. N.B. I started dating the man who is now my husband in August (met July 31) & his whole family flew in from all over the country to have Thansgiving that year. (2 weeks before our wedding my step-MIL confessed they all came running to meet me. I was invited to the dinner but declined in favor of dinner with my parents. The invite was then extended to my parents as well & I about freaked. It was waaaaayyyyyy too soon to start introducing families & sharing major holidays. The following year we spent Cristmas eve with his local aunts but the parents didn't meet until the Rehersal for our wedding.
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