Miffy Posted March 20, 2005 Posted March 20, 2005 Pocky did say some valid things, although it was probably the tone that upset you rather than what was said. I think some people in life want to be married and have an affair on the side. They like to make out to OW that it is unhappy marriage because that is what OW wants to hear. They like to create a fantasy world but when they get found out they have to choose and if wife is chosen then it was never going anywhere anyway. You don't need and should not want a weak man like that. Sadflower hold your head up high and move on with the help of some good friends, some good self help books (heal the heartbreak, paul mckenna is good) and the knowledge that deep down mm is probably missing you. Let him.
SixthSt.Girl Posted March 21, 2005 Posted March 21, 2005 Originally posted by EC To have somewhere to vent and just be listened to...sometimes thats all someone needs. ITA~
blind_otter Posted March 21, 2005 Posted March 21, 2005 Originally posted by Sad Flower to believe that the things MM told me about his wife were untrue that he just made them up to make me want to be with him. They said believe it because it was true, one of the girls even said she stayed over their home and witnessed for herself how miserable they were together. So why did MM go back?? He does have a son with the girl but how could any man put up with that?? I don't understand! I'm confused all over again! Ok - in regards to the OP's question....I have this bond with my exHusband that will never be erased. In my case, if he wasn't in prison we would probably have one of those on again off again relationships (we are still legally married and...whatever...anyways)....we linger on talking to each other still, even though we fight, we hurt each other with our words, observers would wonder why we even keep at it....his friends all hated me said I had p*ssy control/that I was a man eater, and mutual friends wonder how we go together, what kept us together for so long, and why we both pine for each other still. Sad Flower - that's all I can say. From my own experience...sometimes two people are inextricably linked. Sometimes they enjoy the drama of their fights and reunions. Sometimes they enjoy the misery....in any case there is something about that dynamic that darws him back, something tied deeply to his past, his family, his previous relationships, his self-esteem, everything -- and many of the fectoars are things you cannot have access to information about. So....there's your answer. People do strange things for strange reasons.
Author Sad Flower Posted March 22, 2005 Author Posted March 22, 2005 sometimes two people are inextricably linked. Sometimes they enjoy the drama of their fights and reunions. Sometimes they enjoy the misery....in any case there is something about that dynamic that darws him back, something tied deeply to his past, his family, his previous relationships, his self-esteem, everything -- and many of the fectoars are things you cannot have access to information about. So....there's your answer. That makes much sense BLIND _OTTER
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