jn3000 Posted November 7, 2014 Posted November 7, 2014 She is very attractive and had been flirting with me since I started working there almost 2 years ago. I don't date people at work so I never moved on her, but recently decided to go after her by sending her a work related email with baaaaarely a hint that I was interested. She got the hint and started to come by to flirt with me, ask me how old I am, etc. I reciprocated by going to her desk once in a while. She blew hot and cold the whole time, just when I thought she was interested she would go cold, but as soon a she did, I would play aloof and she would come after me again within a few days, escalating her hints until I went after her again. This cycle went on until I got her number, texted her, flirted, though she got upset that I hadn't asked her out yet and that she was not interested in earning points to be invited out (it was a joke I had played with her, but she got upset obviously. Nonetheless she did enthusiastically agree to go out with me in two separate texts, but when I gave her the details of time and date, she waited until the next day to respond right when I usually get to work and just said I can't, nothing else (even though the date was not for 4 days). I pulled back again and she once again started to show signs of interest by trying to get me to talk to her, etc, so I texted her a few days later asking no counter offer? She said no counter offer, I'm sorry. I was like, well, you can't say I didn't invite you out. She said, thanks anyways. Maybe I gave up being challenging too soon or she changed her mind because I came across as a player (has happened before and she has a history or dating and marrying, then divorcing them so maybe she thought I was the same mistake) but then why try to get my attention again by trying to start conversations walking by, but walking away before I could answer, why give me her number for all this, and why was she so nervous as if she liked me when she first started talking to me, why was she jealous of me talking to other girls, etc. She showed all the signs of being interested, and blowing hot and cold/hard to get, and then bam, suddenly just flat out blown off. I think it is safe to say she is not playing hard to get anymore, unless she is really trying to test my commitment.
mrs rubble Posted November 7, 2014 Posted November 7, 2014 My guess is she has realized how immature you are and she's looking for someone who isn't into playing games. (like your point scoring one.)
Redhead14 Posted November 7, 2014 Posted November 7, 2014 She is very attractive and had been flirting with me since I started working there almost 2 years ago. I don't date people at work so I never moved on her, but recently decided to go after her by sending her a work related email with baaaaarely a hint that I was interested. She got the hint and started to come by to flirt with me, ask me how old I am, etc. I reciprocated by going to her desk once in a while. She blew hot and cold the whole time, just when I thought she was interested she would go cold, but as soon a she did, I would play aloof and she would come after me again within a few days, escalating her hints until I went after her again. This cycle went on until I got her number, texted her, flirted, though she got upset that I hadn't asked her out yet and that she was not interested in earning points to be invited out (it was a joke I had played with her, but she got upset obviously. Nonetheless she did enthusiastically agree to go out with me in two separate texts, but when I gave her the details of time and date, she waited until the next day to respond right when I usually get to work and just said I can't, nothing else (even though the date was not for 4 days). I pulled back again and she once again started to show signs of interest by trying to get me to talk to her, etc, so I texted her a few days later asking no counter offer? She said no counter offer, I'm sorry. I was like, well, you can't say I didn't invite you out. She said, thanks anyways. Maybe I gave up being challenging too soon or she changed her mind because I came across as a player (has happened before and she has a history or dating and marrying, then divorcing them so maybe she thought I was the same mistake) but then why try to get my attention again by trying to start conversations walking by, but walking away before I could answer, why give me her number for all this, and why was she so nervous as if she liked me when she first started talking to me, why was she jealous of me talking to other girls, etc. She showed all the signs of being interested, and blowing hot and cold/hard to get, and then bam, suddenly just flat out blown off. I think it is safe to say she is not playing hard to get anymore, unless she is really trying to test my commitment. This is a ego thing for her. She got tired of playing with you. However, she may come back over and over again. She is likely doing this with other men as well. Cut all contact with her now. Block her number. If you see her out and about, be polite, short and keep moving, Do not engage in conversation with her. It doesn't matter if she is testing your commitment. Why would you be committed to pursuing someone who isn't demonstrating any commitment toward you?
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