Vices-Virtues Posted November 7, 2014 Posted November 7, 2014 My boyfriend and I have been dating 2 years, we are in high school. He is a senior and I'm a junior. I know we are kids, but it shouldn't matter. I'm madly in love with him, I still love him for what he did. He was my first and I was his first too. I also was his first kiss. Anyways, my boyfriend friend came up to me and told me that Cody my boyfriend had kissed another girl 2-3 times, different days. His friend doesn't like me so I figured maybe he was lying. I asked cody about it and he said he didn't, he told me she was ugly and he kept saying "why would I do that with her" supposly they kissed and cuddled and stuff. He said he wouldn't cuddled with her because he doesn't like doing it with me so it made sense. Anyways he told me his friend made up the rumor and that I could ask her. A day later, I started doubting him because I saw the girl and she looked at me with this one kind of look. Anyways I told him I felt nausea because the idea of his mouth on another girl and back on me is so disgusting. He got mad and basically yelled at me in front of her and his friends. He is in marching band , so all band members were there. Anyways he kept saying he didn't kiss her. Well, he told me to ask her and I did. She said that they kissed 1-2 on to accusations and that was all. She also said that he told her and his friend to lie and say it was a rumor and that it never happened. I told him and he said she was lying and so I told her to come her and he got mad and told me I ruined his life and walked away. I went to him and told him I was going to get all my stuff from his house and I asked him if he could just tell me honestly what really happened and what he said was "it happened once, I didn't want to, I didn't mean to, Hunter told me to do it" he was so upset. I said thank you and okay and walked away to leave . I went to Hunter his friend and said that he said he made him do it and he only kissed her once and Hunter got so mad and said that he never done that and the girl said it wasn't once. The girl had laid her head on codys shoulder and supposly he started kissing her.. I don't know what to do, I mean I broke up with him and all, but I have a feeling it's not the end, because I know he wants to be with me, idk if he regrets it. He kept it a secret and when I found out he kept lying, to try and save our relationship. Idk what I'm suppose to do when he try's to talk to me about it. I love him so much, I have gave up everything for him and would and still would do anything for him, but the idea of his mouth on someone else is so sicken. I have kissed a guy before I even knew him, but it's just not the same I guess. Idk if I should try to make it work or not. This girl is in his class, we have one more semester left then he graduates . I know that if I accept him back I will be so paranoid and will have a very hard time trusting him ever again..
Dontfindme Posted November 7, 2014 Posted November 7, 2014 He kissed another girl, and then continuously lied to you about it until he couldn't anymore. Trust me - that isn't the kind of guy you want to be with. You broke up with him, and moved on with your dignity. DO NOT let this dude come back into your life. 2
Author Vices-Virtues Posted November 7, 2014 Author Posted November 7, 2014 He lied because he didn't want to lose our relationship..doesn't that mean something, it just shows how he regrets it right? He hasn't got the chance to explain why it happened .
Frank2thepoint Posted November 7, 2014 Posted November 7, 2014 He lied because he didn't want to lose our relationship..doesn't that mean something, it just shows how he regrets it right? He hasn't got the chance to explain why it happened . Wow, you are actually making excuses for his lies. That's codependency at its finest. Of course him not wanting to lose the relationship between you two means something. It means he wants to keep you around while he continues lying. One day you'll find out he actually inserted his penis into another girl's vagina too. 1
veggirl Posted November 7, 2014 Posted November 7, 2014 He kisses another girl and lies...what do you think is gonna happen when he goes to college? All new girls, parties, freedom. He won't be faithful and tbh being so serious at your ages is pointless because the odds of it lasting are like...microscopic.
ComingInHot Posted November 7, 2014 Posted November 7, 2014 So, here is how this scenario is SUPPOSED to play out; - Boyfriend kisses another girl - Boyfriend and his buddy Lie creating drama - Girlfriend confronts chick he lied about kissing & she admits to cheating - Girlfriend dumps boyfriend - Girl goes on to conquer the world - boy ends up with lost with girl amounting to squat ( unless he apologizes of course then we would wish him the best - with someone Else though ) CiH*
Dontfindme Posted November 7, 2014 Posted November 7, 2014 He lied because he didn't want to lose our relationship..doesn't that mean something, it just shows how he regrets it right? He hasn't got the chance to explain why it happened . Nope. It doesn't mean anything. You know what does mean something? That he kissed another girl. Where were his thoughts on preserving the relationship then? He clearly didn't care enough for the relationship, and he did not respect you: "A day later, I started doubting him because I saw the girl and she looked at me with this one kind of look. Anyways I told him I felt nausea because the idea of his mouth on another girl and back on me is so disgusting. He got mad and basically yelled at me in front of her and his friends. He is in marching band , so all band members were there. Anyways he kept saying he didn't kiss her. Well, he told me to ask her and I did. She said that they kissed 1-2 on to accusations and that was all. She also said that he told her and his friend to lie and say it was a rumor and that it never happened. I told him and he said she was lying and so I told her to come her and he got mad and told me I ruined his life and walked away. " He lies, cheats, and had the audacity to blame you saying YOU ruined HIS life? You really think he's trying to save the relationship?
Author Vices-Virtues Posted November 7, 2014 Author Posted November 7, 2014 (edited) It's sad I know, but I don't want to lose him. He came to me today and explained what had happened. He said that me and him had argued that day and he was upset. His friend Hunter told him he should leave me and stuff. He said when she had laid her head on his shoulder he didn't know what to do he didn't have anything occupying his mind and they were joking and her face was so closed and they kissed like 3 times but they were pecks. He said at the moment he had regretted it and he knew if he told me I would leave him, because I had told him that when I first met him and he feared that I would which I did, he said when I confront her and told her to come her the only reason he said that I ruined his life was because he knew that it was over at that point. When he was telling me what had happened he was so upset. His eyes kept watering and he kept taking breathers so he wouldn't cry. I told him I loved him and that I forgive him. I told him that it was up to him if he wanted to start over, but this is his only last chance. He said that he needs to think about it because he feels so guilty and that he knows he is a terrible boyfriend and he doesn't want to hurt me again. Are giving second chances bad? IF he had slept with her, there would be no second chance, I want to have a future with him, I personally don't want to date anyone else, I don't like the idea of sleeping with one person and then sleeping with another. I think should only be one, the one. We all mistakes. I understand the damage I will have if something like this happens again, but there is a chance it won't. Relationships that happened from high school and that last till death is possible, people who have those relationships do break up and get back together. He is one of those people who doesn't know how to be mean to people when they bother him, because he doesn't want everyone to dislike him, because he cares what everyone thinks. I wished he didn't but he does. Edited November 7, 2014 by Vices-Virtues
Michelle ma Belle Posted November 7, 2014 Posted November 7, 2014 It's sad I know, but I don't want to lose him. He came to me today and explained what had happened. He said that me and him had argued that day and he was upset. His friend Hunter told him he should leave me and stuff. He said when she had laid her head on his shoulder he didn't know what to do he didn't have anything occupying his mind and they were joking and her face was so closed and they kissed like 3 times but they were pecks. He said at the moment he had regretted it and he knew if he told me I would leave him, because I had told him that when I first met him and he feared that I would which I did, he said when I confront her and told her to come her the only reason he said that I ruined his life was because he knew that it was over at that point. When he was telling me what had happened he was so upset. His eyes kept watering and he kept taking breathers so he wouldn't cry. I told him I loved him and that I forgive him. I told him that it was up to him if he wanted to start over, but this is his only last chance. He said that he needs to think about it because he feels so guilty and that he knows he is a terrible boyfriend and he doesn't want to hurt me again. Are giving second chances bad? IF he had slept with her, there would be no second chance, I want to have a future with him, I personally don't want to date anyone else, I don't like the idea of sleeping with one person and then sleeping with another. I think should only be one, the one. We all mistakes. I understand the damage I will have if something like this happens again, but there is a chance it won't. Relationships that happened from high school and that last till death is possible, people who have those relationships do break up and get back together. He is one of those people who doesn't know how to be mean to people when they bother him, because he doesn't want everyone to dislike him, because he cares what everyone thinks. I wished he didn't but he does. Well, it appears it doesn't matter what anyone else says regarding your situation. You appear to have made up your mind. Good luck. I hope this guy knows how lucky he is to have gotten a second chance and I especially hope you don't end up regretting it. 2
Tayken Posted November 7, 2014 Posted November 7, 2014 @OP...are you sure he isn't "like" making this up, in order to "like" make you jealous "and stuff", because it's "like" "you know" he is thinking "like" you would want him more? As always though you are safer erring on the side of...once a cheater, always a cheater.
Haerts Posted November 7, 2014 Posted November 7, 2014 I felt like reading a Glee's episode or something. lol Anyway, just reinforcing what everyone else said: he cheated on you, he lied to you and tried to make you feel guilty for something he did. What else do you need to know? I sure understand how you feel. Before leaving my ex, I tried to come up with several reasons as to why I should stay with him (you can check the threads made by me). There was no cheating involved, but he started to lie to me and that was after a month together only, yet I still tried hard to justify the bad with the good things. I finally opened my eyes and broke up with him definitely and God how I felt so much better that I wouldn't have to worry about his **** anymore. You already know your trust wont be the same, you're VERY YOUNG and you're going to meet someone who'll treat you better... but you'll only do that when you finally move past this *******.
Targetlock Posted November 7, 2014 Posted November 7, 2014 what a loser, why do you bother? :/ ditch this loser.
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