AVarma Posted November 7, 2014 Share Posted November 7, 2014 So I'm 28 years old and was born and raised in the US to an indian family. Unfortunately I'm also completely inexperienced when it comes to relationships. I'm still a virgin. Indeed I've never been on a date, had a girlfriend, or even kissed a girl. Hell I haven't even held a girl's hand. The thing is though is that most of my indian friends my age have already gotten married and many even have kids (they aren't really my friends, just people in the indian community that I know). I've always wanted to have the experiences boys have with girls when they're in their teens which I unfortunately missed out on. But at the same time I wonder if I'm too old for this, for my first date, kiss, etc. I feel socially stunted and perhaps a loser for still not having done this. Maybe I should just have an arranged marriage and get it over with. I'm not really attached to indian culture at all but I'm thinking maybe I've missed the boat and it's time to ask my mother to pick a girl for me. Part of me also feels that these experiences won't be the same as a 28 year old as they would've been when I was a teen. I could technically have my first kiss and sex with an arranged marriage but I guess theres a difference in my mind between convincing a girl to go out/sleep with you and just having one chosen for you. I guess maybe I look at an arranged marriage as an easy way out. Any opinions? Link to post Share on other sites
cif Posted November 7, 2014 Share Posted November 7, 2014 Why didnt you have these experiences as a teen? If youre not attached to the culture and marry from it, can you respect your wife and eventually love her? Growing up in NYC, ive seen some of my eastern heritage guy friends date around but then "import" wives and most are happy. No baggage, your children will speak the language and know the culture. It really is a personal choice. But id suggest you date around to eliminate the what ifs. Link to post Share on other sites
Author AVarma Posted November 7, 2014 Author Share Posted November 7, 2014 Why didnt you have these experiences as a teen? Well I was a introverted loner. Didn't have any friends. Sat by myself at lunch. No friends meant no parties. No parties meant no girls. And naturally no girls meant no kissing, sex, etc. I went to a handful of parties in college (literally the number of parties I went to in college can be counted on one hand) where girls basically ignored me and unfortunately after college I've sort of gone back to my high school state. Unfortunately once you've missed out on girls and partying it seems its pretty much impossible to a make up for it. Link to post Share on other sites
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