walkingonair Posted November 6, 2014 Posted November 6, 2014 I've been dating a guy for the past 4 months and he has all the signs of a commitment phobe.He also broke up with me two weeks ago and a week later came crawling back.He was initiating contact all week and I'm not the clingy type so I don't think I'm annoying but all week he kept saying we're gonna hangout this weekend and now he's making an excuse that he's tired and feels sick.He has flaked on me tons of times in the past and its usually last minute.He's the one who asks to hangout and then says he can'twhy is he ddoing this guys?Does he not like me?I'm so tired of this.Why does he ask to hangout and makes plans first but then flakes on them last minute
Redhead14 Posted November 6, 2014 Posted November 6, 2014 I've been dating a guy for the past 4 months and he has all the signs of a commitment phobe.He also broke up with me two weeks ago and a week later came crawling back.He was initiating contact all week and I'm not the clingy type so I don't think I'm annoying but all week he kept saying we're gonna hangout this weekend and now he's making an excuse that he's tired and feels sick.He has flaked on me tons of times in the past and its usually last minute.He's the one who asks to hangout and then says he can'twhy is he ddoing this guys?Does he not like me?I'm so tired of this.Why does he ask to hangout and makes plans first but then flakes on them last minute Ok, I am currently rowing this boat. Dated this man for 4 months. He asked for exclusivity a couple of weeks ago and last night he called me drunk and said he was scared and needed some space. I told him to take the space he needed and I took exclusivity off the table. I will not contact him from now on. If he comes back to me fairly soon with a suitable "recovery" from a possible drunken blunder, he will be starting from scratch. You've already taken him back once. He is not changing or showing you the respect or level of interest needed to move forward. Drop him. I am prepared to drop this one within a week or so if I don't hear from him and/or what I need to hear from him and have already made plans for the weekend and beyond. It doesn't matter why he's doing what he's doing, what matters is that it's not working for you.
GG3 Posted November 6, 2014 Posted November 6, 2014 I've been dating a guy for the past 4 months and he has all the signs of a commitment phobe.He also broke up with me two weeks ago and a week later came crawling back.He was initiating contact all week and I'm not the clingy type so I don't think I'm annoying but all week he kept saying we're gonna hangout this weekend and now he's making an excuse that he's tired and feels sick.He has flaked on me tons of times in the past and its usually last minute.He's the one who asks to hangout and then says he can'twhy is he ddoing this guys?Does he not like me?I'm so tired of this.Why does he ask to hangout and makes plans first but then flakes on them last minute How old is he?
preraph Posted November 6, 2014 Posted November 6, 2014 No reason to encourage a relationship with a guy like that. He'll hang around going in and out with no commitment for as long as you put up with it. You can't make a guy like that commit. If you force it, he'd just cheat on you. He's not worth it. He's either too disorganized or too unmotivated or just not that into you.
ExpatInItaly Posted November 6, 2014 Posted November 6, 2014 I've been dating a guy for the past 4 months and he has all the signs of a commitment phobe.He also broke up with me two weeks ago and a week later came crawling back.He was initiating contact all week and I'm not the clingy type so I don't think I'm annoying but all week he kept saying we're gonna hangout this weekend and now he's making an excuse that he's tired and feels sick.He has flaked on me tons of times in the past and its usually last minute.He's the one who asks to hangout and then says he can'twhy is he ddoing this guys?Does he not like me?I'm so tired of this.Why does he ask to hangout and makes plans first but then flakes on them last minute Maybe he's seeing other women, too. That might explain his last-minute cancellations. But you should really be asking this questions: Why am I tolerating this flakiness? Why haven't I already pulled the plug?
GG3 Posted November 6, 2014 Posted November 6, 2014 I agree he might be seeing other women also. I think I would be less available and see other people. Don't give in to his game.
Tik Posted November 7, 2014 Posted November 7, 2014 Walk away; much like how a guy gives another guy the advice that 'if a girl is really into you, they won't do anything to screw it up' hence take this advice here too. He's simply not that into you and you deserve to find someone who is.
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